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    Wanted to ask for some female opinions on this:

    I'm a guy in my 20s living/working in London. However throughout my life I've never really had that many friends or done much with them.

    Yeah there are people I talk to, such as people from work (as I came in on a graduate trainee program, there were lots of people my age and in a similar situation who I somewhat befriended. However we don't really do much together outside of work, maybe once ever 2 months or so.

    Other than that I can't say I actually have many friends. As I'm from abroad, my family and people I knew from school are not here.

    As such so often I find myself dating girls who have social events left right and center, how they've got one friend's birthday on one day, another's housewarming on another day, dinner on yet another. When they ask what I'm up to that night, I just respond with 'gym' or 'watching a movie' or something like that.

    There's no beating around the bush: I am a loner.

    Now this brings me to my question: how do girls see this? Is it a negative trait that would put you off a guy? I obviously don't go around advertising the fact but the more you get to know someone, the more it comes out.
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    Probably, if he was still a talkative, friendly person who was willing to make an effort with people. If it was because he was quiet and couldn't be bothered trying to get to know people or keeping in contact with friends, that's a different story.

    That said, I've only met people through socialising and going out with friends and stuff, so I don't know how I'd meet someone like that to begin with.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Wanted to ask for some female opinions on this:

    I'm a guy in my 20s living/working in London. However throughout my life I've never really had that many friends or done much with them.

    Yeah there are people I talk to, such as people from work (as I came in on a graduate trainee program, there were lots of people my age and in a similar situation who I somewhat befriended. However we don't really do much together outside of work, maybe once ever 2 months or so.

    Other than that I can't say I actually have many friends. As I'm from abroad, my family and people I knew from school are not here.

    As such so often I find myself dating girls who have social events left right and center, how they've got one friend's birthday on one day, another's housewarming on another day, dinner on yet another. When they ask what I'm up to that night, I just respond with 'gym' or 'watching a movie' or something like that.

    There's no beating around the bush: I am a loner.

    Now this brings me to my question: how do girls see this? Is it a negative trait that would put you off a guy? I obviously don't go around advertising the fact but the more you get to know someone, the more it comes out.
    I think I'd be fine with it as long as they weren't boring and wanted to do nothing all the time or just wanted to stay in. As long as he did things with me I wouldn't really mind.
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    Probably, if he was still a talkative, friendly person who was willing to make an effort with people. If it was because he was quiet and couldn't be bothered trying to get to know people or keeping in contact with friends, that's a different story.

    That said, I've only met people through socialising and going out with friends and stuff, so I don't know how I'd meet someone like that to begin with.
    I've met all the girls I've dated via online dating.

    I would like to think that I'm still a normal person otherwise and get along with people.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've met all the girls I've dated via online dating.

    I would like to think that I'm still a normal person otherwise and get along with people.
    Then I'm sure it wouldn't bother a lot of people. As I said, I'd only be bothered if you were someone who just didn't like talking to people
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    It wouldn't bother me as long as they were loud and talkative around me. My bf had pretty much no friends or experience with girls and spent all his time in his room playing video games when we met and even though he came across as an introvert and shy to everyone else because he wasn't that social, he was actually more confident and talkative than me and I am quite loud!


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    It wouldn't put me off because I'd prefer it. I'm not interested in being my boyfriend's friends' buddies or having to come second to them. I really prefer to be alone unless I'm doing something specific with someone I haven't seen in a while so it wouldn't bother me at all
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Wanted to ask for some female opinions on this:

    I'm a guy in my 20s living/working in London. However throughout my life I've never really had that many friends or done much with them.

    Yeah there are people I talk to, such as people from work (as I came in on a graduate trainee program, there were lots of people my age and in a similar situation who I somewhat befriended. However we don't really do much together outside of work, maybe once ever 2 months or so.

    Other than that I can't say I actually have many friends. As I'm from abroad, my family and people I knew from school are not here.

    As such so often I find myself dating girls who have social events left right and center, how they've got one friend's birthday on one day, another's housewarming on another day, dinner on yet another. When they ask what I'm up to that night, I just respond with 'gym' or 'watching a movie' or something like that.

    There's no beating around the bush: I am a loner.

    Now this brings me to my question: how do girls see this? Is it a negative trait that would put you off a guy? I obviously don't go around advertising the fact but the more you get to know someone, the more it comes out.
    I'm someone with a rather busy social life. And I prefer dating guys who don't. Reason being, when you're free, they can come see you at the drop of a hat, cause they usually don't do anything. Or, they always have time to text you/call you. Basically, a guy with less of a social life, is much more attentive.
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    I wouldn't mind if I really liked a guy cos I only have like 3 best friends who I see regularly, not about that massive friendship group life tbh

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    Tis was Interesting reading these comments from a females perspective. I sometimes feel like I'm boring at times and enjoy my own company.
 
 
 
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