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    Hi,

    Well, there's this guy I'm sort of friends with (we used to have certain sexual tension but we both are in relationships now) and, although most of the time he seems to care about me, sometimes makes mean comments to me like: "you're a very difficult person, no wonder your ex-boyfriend got scared" or suggesting that I position myself higher than others. I don't feel that's true, I do not consider myself better than anyone, although I normally have a high self-esteem.

    Sometimes I wonder if he sees things about me I haven't noticed or he just wants to hurt me. Why would he want to do that?

    What's your take on this?

    Thanks!
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    It does seem he may want to hurt you. I'm not sure why, though.
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    Guys an absolute ********. Ignore him, you dont need anyone who doesn't respect you.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi,

    Well, there's this guy I'm sort of friends with (we used to have certain sexual tension but we both are in relationships now) and, although most of the time he seems to care about me, sometimes makes mean comments to me like: "you're a very difficult person, no wonder your ex-boyfriend got scared" or suggesting that I position myself higher than others. I don't feel that's true, I do not consider myself better than anyone, although I normally have a high self-esteem.

    Sometimes I wonder if he sees things about me I haven't noticed or he just wants to hurt me. Why would he want to do that?

    What's your take on this?

    Thanks!
    I think that the real question is, why are you putting up with it? If he's hurting you no matter which manner it is in, then you need to question whether or not he is a true friend and how highly he values you as one.

    Leave him be. He doesn't seem worth it, especially if you do have a history. It sounds like an awkward friendship and frankly one which will continue to lower your self esteem if you let it. The only other thing that I can suggest....is TALK TO HIM about it. Ask him why he does it, does he really realise he's hurting you or is just doing it as a bit of banter? No one here can really answer that for you I'm afraid, it's up to you!
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    He may think you're more thick-skinned than to mind his comments.
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    Sometimes people just say what they are thinking without the slightest inkling that it could be hurtful. I'm a guy and I have a friend who can be like that sometimes. Most of the time I just brush or laugh it off, once or twice I have taken offence but just let it slide. Doesn't mean they are a bad guy.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi,

    Well, there's this guy I'm sort of friends with (we used to have certain sexual tension but we both are in relationships now) and, although most of the time he seems to care about me, sometimes makes mean comments to me like: "you're a very difficult person, no wonder your ex-boyfriend got scared" or suggesting that I position myself higher than others. I don't feel that's true, I do not consider myself better than anyone, although I normally have a high self-esteem.

    Sometimes I wonder if he sees things about me I haven't noticed or he just wants to hurt me. Why would he want to do that?

    What's your take on this?

    Thanks!
    Didn't you already make a thread about this?
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    I don't think he's a bad guy. Otherwise I wouldn't put up with him. Sometimes he can be a true friend. It's just that when he says stuff like that I can't help wondering what is the reason he does. Maybe you're right and is nothing personal, just the way he is. Thanks!
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    He is just telling you the truth OP. You should respect the lad for being honest.
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    (Original post by william walker)
    Didn't you already make a thread about this?
    No, sorry. First time here.
 
 
 
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