"Sticky" situation (literally)

Well, today i was meant to go to the cinema with this guy who i have known for a couple of months but never really spoken. But on friday i suggested we go to the cinema today...BUT me! STUPID ME! went on the bus and accidentally sat on a seat that was filled with this weird brown sticky stuff (really dont wanna know what it was), so half way through the journey i had to get off to go home and get changed. BUT THEN i got lost and took ages to figure out where i was so there was no point of me going there cos by the time i got there we would only have an hour before he has to go to meet a friend of his. SO IT'S ALL RUINED!

And just now, i have realised that i might actually like this guy! But i dont know what to do now...i mean do i arrange something else? but then i may not be free for another 2 WEEKS so thats a long time to wait. I really would like to get to know him cos he seems like a wonderful person and would make a lovely friend.

And plus (and ive wondered for a long time about this), what is the extent of friendliness you can show to a guy without him thinking it's because you like him?

Reply 1

L0RA

9

How wont you be free for two weeks? You dont even have an evening free or anything?

I have no idea about keeping things as friends, the male friends i meet up with alone nearly always turn into something sexual!

Reply 2

Jonesy_LJ

I'm pretty confident that most guys can distinguish between friendliness and flirtation. Essentially as long as you actually are just being friendly then he shouldn't get the wrong idea. However going to the cinema, just the two of you, is somewhat of a mixed message.

Reply 3

Carpediemxx

17

Just ring him and say what happened, maybe make a joke out of it and both laugh , thats a great way that freindship starts.
AS for how far to go....dont get too close physically, and dont look into his eyes for so long that he might get a wrong message

Reply 4

Yoda

12

Carpediemxx

Just ring him and say what happened, maybe make a joke out of it and both laugh , thats a great way that freindship starts.
AS for how far to go....dont get too close physically, and dont look into his eyes for so long that he might get a wrong message

Ey, that boy don't know ****.

Basically, make sure you're really nice to him. If someone pulled that crap on me, I'd be majorly pissed. You think I'm going to stand at a ****ing cinema for hours just to find out you can't go because you sat on some crap (hopefully it was actually crap). Turn up and wipe the **** off, you must be taking the piss if I'd go all that way to be told to go home.

Reply 5

King Hippo

9

Jonesy_LJ

I'm pretty confident that most guys can distinguish between friendliness and flirtation.

Not necessarily though. I'd like to think I'm quite sensible and can judge people well but one lass really has me stumped. She always calls me "babe" and "sexy" and basically acts quite flirtaciously (and I reciprocate), but I still don't think she's interested in me in "that" way.

Reply 6

mr_person

1

King Hippo

Not necessarily though. I'd like to think I'm quite sensible and can judge people well but one lass really has me stumped. She always calls me "babe" and "sexy" and basically acts quite flirtaciously (and I reciprocate), but I still don't think she's interested in me in "that" way.

Some people can't really see members of the opposite sex as friends, and when around such a person they flirt, as its the only behaviour they know of, even if they don't necessarily want to trigger anything sexual.

Reply 7

King Hippo

9

mr_person

Some people can't really see members of the opposite sex as friends, and when around such a person they flirt, as its the only behaviour they know of, even if they don't necessarily want to trigger anything sexual.

Well, I hope not, because I think she's lovely. :biggrin:

Reply 8

ForeverIsMyName

15

Why on earth would this possibly be anon?

Oh well, some advice.
1) Watch where you're sitting
2) Go out with the guy if you're unsure whether you like him.

Reply 9

generalebriety

16

Carpediemxx

Just ring him and say what happened, maybe make a joke out of it and both laugh , thats a great way that freindship starts.

Yoda

Basically, make sure you're really nice to him. If someone pulled that crap on me, I'd be majorly pissed. You think I'm going to stand at a ****ing cinema for hours just to find out you can't go because you sat on some crap (hopefully it was actually crap). Turn up and wipe the **** off, you must be taking the piss if I'd go all that way to be told to go home.

- a nice, healthy balance of both the above posts would be the way to go. Don't phone up and say "ohmygodit'llneverhappenagainsorrysorrysorry!", but then don't phone up and say "meh, I sat in something so I went back home :biggrin:

, how are you?".

Reply 10

generalebriety

16

King Hippo

Not necessarily though. I'd like to think I'm quite sensible and can judge people well but one lass really has me stumped. She always calls me "babe" and "sexy" and basically acts quite flirtaciously (and I reciprocate), but I still don't think she's interested in me in "that" way.

Some girl in my school does that to me. But she knows I'm gay, and has a boyfriend, and it's just generally obvious anyway that she's not interested. :p:

Girls are confusing creatures.

Reply 11

Scarlett_Jewel

1

depends on the girl and the relationship you have, surely?

I mean, I wouldn't mind giving a few of my friends head if it had educational benefits, if we were both horny or any other reason I could happily justify. Obviously this isn't the case with all of my friends and for 99% of the world this would be misconstrued as an action taken beyond friendship.

As a general rule, given your actions and his reactions, if you feel you're flirting beyond the realms of friendship, you probably are.

Reply 12

hippieglitter

19

King Hippo

Not necessarily though. I'd like to think I'm quite sensible and can judge people well but one lass really has me stumped. She always calls me "babe" and "sexy" and basically acts quite flirtaciously (and I reciprocate), but I still don't think she's interested in me in "that" way.

I'm always using 'terms of endearment' for my friends of both sexes. It's a habit i got into, i think it's a girls school thing or maybe a boarding school thing or maybe both. I also have quite a naturally flirtacious personality. Even when i was single my guy friends didn't worry about it. If in doubt ask her.