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What to do about a crush? watch

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    I've got a boyfriend of a little over 2 years now and our relationship is great apart from a bit of a lack of sex which isn't at present a deal breaker and something we're both working on (me to deal with expecting less and him to maybe give a little more) but I've got a crush on another guy.
    I hoped this would resolve itself and over time the crush would go away (as crushes do) if I didn't act on it in any way.
    However it isn't resolving itself. For time scale context I'm going in to my third year at uni and I thought this guy was attractive from the day I met him (first day of lectures in first year) and my crush has formed by the end of first year. So this crush has been going on for over a year now and shows no signs of letting up.
    I didn't speak to him really much at all apart from questions relating to our course over summer so there's a period of months where I haven't seen him or chatted to him at all and it's done nothing to make me like him less!
    Do you think my crush is a result of my dissatisfaction with my sex life with my current boyfriend?
    My bf is my first sexual partner and I sort of feel like I've just started and I don't want to stop! But we can go months at a time without doing anything.
    Maybe this is why my mind is wandering so much to this other guy? I've tried talking to my bf about our relationship and intimacy but I'm always the one left feeling bad like I'm pressuring him to perform. Should sex matter that much?
    I don't really know what to do as I don't want to break up with my boyfriend over this but I feel like I'm emotionally cheating.
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