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Getting over it

Anyone got tips for getting over a guy? Me and my boyfriend split up a couple of weeks back, but then it looked like we were going to get back together. Then recently I found out that there's something been going on with him and his ex, and now it looks like he's back with her.

Doesn't help that I keep managing to screw up the situation even more by just being totally stupid..and I still don't even know if they're properly back together. I think about it constantly - how can I move on??

Reply 1

xlouisedoll

No one got any advice?

Reply 2

katie_lou

I'm kind of in the same situation, broke up with my boyfriend about 4 months ago but we got back together and then last monday we broke up again after 3 months. I don't really know how to get over him to be honest he was such a huge part of my life for so long but now hes totally gone for good. I guess its just going to take time, doesn't help that i have to see him every day at college, hurts every single time i see him.

Just give it time hun, im sure it'll get better, hugs for you

Reply 3

miss_world

There's nothing really you can do but wait and wait for these feelings to fade (they will eventually) it might take a while but you'll get through it. Having said that my ex and I broke up way back when in November and I still catch myself thinking of him. It does get easier though. I found it helped, even though it was painful at first to just sever all contact from him for a while. Delete his number from your phone so you're not tempted to call, erase his e-mail address from your contact list so you don't e-mail/msn him adn remove him from your friends list on facebook/whatever so you're not hurt by comments other girls make.

I'd also recommend you try and distract yourself. Now's the perfect time to hang out with your mates, go out, have fun, (try) and forget about him. Eventually you'll meet someone else and this will all be a distant memory.

Reply 4

Shakespeare1

it will get better trust me.
it took me a whole year to get over this one person. he was my entire world....then everything went downhill

distract yourself- hang with mates- get each one of them to list 3 great qualities you have, and get them to bring you all flavours of chocolate!

then go for a girls night out! no lads- just the girls! and moan about how stupid men are -FACT- how they always leave the toilet seat up blah blah. (no offence lads!- im sure the lads can think of the stupid things girls do like go on a date to the cinema with a face full of make up when no ones going to see your make up...when its all dark watching a movie.....)

take up a hobby.- go swimming. join the gym.

it will get better!!! trust me. ill promise you hun

Reply 5

artorscience?

laugh. (any kind of laughter, forced etc. but try to hang out with people who make you laugh, or with friends who try to make you smile)
do things that you didn't/couldn't do with him. (i.e. no memories of him associated with the activity)
exercise. (but not obsessively, a little exercise goes a long way, gets rid of pent up emotions and releases happy neurotransmitters to make you biologically happy - which can lead to overall happiness)

give it time.