Getting over someone elses bf...

OP

She has no idea that he and I did what we did..which wasn't sex btw tho. And before me he erm got with this other girl a bit and now I think and am really jealous that he will with this other girl.

I know I should cut him out of my life totally, I tried blocking him on msn and not talking to him/seeing him but its really hard, I want to so much

Reply 3

OP

Any magical cure...for lust/love/obsession then...I should be so lucky lol

Reply 4

Llamaaa

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find another boy to lust over? hmm that's perhaps not as easy as it sounds, but you never know :smile:

Plus be grateful that that cheating scum bag isn't your boyfriend!!

Reply 5

Louenn

They always say that to get over a man, you should get under a new one.

I don't recommend doing exactly that, but certainly go out and try to find someone else to be attracted to. You're doing the right thing by cutting contact with this bloke, so keep up the good work of ignoring him, and just look around you to find someone who's worthy of your attention.

Sadly, there is no magical cure for lust & obsession, other than getting another one. Perhaps, as a random thought, try a new hobby and obsess about that instead? Slightly safer to your heart! :wink:

Reply 6

OP

I wish I could find another guy to like...but of the guys I know there really isn't anyone else I'm at all interested in :frown:

Reply 7

OP

I guess I should just block his msn now and try and do some examy work...*blocks*...it just makes me sad that hes talking to ovas and not me now tho... :frown:

Reply 8

If it makes you sad, imagine how his girlfriend might be feeling :rolleyes:

Try putting your friend first? She's the one he's meant to be committed too, have you thought about telling her he cheated?

Other than that I guess the advice to find someone else to 'lust over' was good.

Reply 9

OP

I can't tell her because basically she will forgive him but they will both hate me and that'll cause probs within our friendship group...

Mission: Lust over another guy and ignore the bad guy lol

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

Hehe I'm in the same situation :O Altho he's less of a 'bad guy'. Hmm. Yeah it's totally messed up our friendship.
But, if you want him, seduce him back :wink:

Reply 11

Schroedinger's Pandora

13

Jesus. What an absolute bastard.

Reply 12

Anonymous

Hehe I'm in the same situation :O Altho he's less of a 'bad guy'. Hmm. Yeah it's totally messed up our friendship.
But, if you want him, seduce him back :wink:

Why would you advise someone to be a bitch?

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Anonymous #1

bunthulhu

Why would you advise someone to be a bitch?

Oh it's not about being a bitch. He must've liked her in the first place...maybe he needs some guidance. Plus some people are just too stubborn to give up and by those who cannot understand, get labelled a 'bitch'.

Reply 14

OP

I thought I would feel bad on his gf but I don't...he still loves her and doesn't want her to get hurt and nothing has changed between them and I don't know.

seduce him back...eek

Reply 15

Anonymous

Oh it's not about being a bitch. He must've liked her in the first place...maybe he needs some guidance. Plus some people are just too stubborn to give up and by those who cannot understand, get labelled a 'bitch'.

Of course it's about being a bitch, you're advising her to seduce her friend's boyfriend.

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OP

tbf shes only my friend through him as oppose to a friend I started off with...not that that makes the concept any better.

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Anonymous #1

ohyeahoh

I thought I would feel bad on his gf but I don't...he still loves her and doesn't want her to get hurt and nothing has changed between them and I don't know.

seduce him back...eek

Yeah in my situation, the guy still loves his gf. And I also don't feel bad 'cause don't really like her :p:

lol. Okay well yeah from an outside perspective I agree it does sound bad...but this is life I guess.

bunthulu - well more rather make him fall for her, techincally not her fault because HE started having feelings. Seduction of the mind...not the 'baring all' way.

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