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    This is probably one of the most cliche things to post right before freshers, but nonetheless I'm still a bit scared about the prospect of socialising with people I don't know and not being outgoing enough to really enjoy freshers. I'm a shy introvert, and I haven't been as active on the uni groups bc I wasn't sure if I'd get in but when I got my results, people already seemed to have formed chats etc online. Idk the whole friendship side of things is the most daunting for me, what were other introverts experiences of freshers?
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    (Original post by tokiohoe)
    This is probably one of the most cliche things to post right before freshers, but nonetheless I'm still a bit scared about the prospect of socialising with people I don't know and not being outgoing enough to really enjoy freshers. I'm a shy introvert, and I haven't been as active on the uni groups bc I wasn't sure if I'd get in but when I got my results, people already seemed to have formed chats etc online. Idk the whole friendship side of things is the most daunting for me, what were other introverts experiences of freshers?
    I'm not an introvert, but here are some things I think are helpful to bear in mind:

    1) Most people who've made friends online won't necessarily stay friends with them once they get to uni. Also, do bear in mind these people are desperate to make friends, I'm sure they'd b happy to have you join in their chats

    2) Everyone is nervous about making friends. People cope with this in different ways, but don't assume just because someone is being very chatty/in your face it means they are super confident.

    3) Sometimes you do have to be a bit proactive. Try to say yes to suggestions and don't shut yourself off. If you keep saying no to everything, and not joining in, people will stop asking- not because it's a judgement on you, but because they will think you don't like them, or you aren't interested.

    4) Everyone makes friends at uni. If you're shy and not a joiner, it might take you a little longer to find your people, but you will find them
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    Made just one friend at uni. Tbh I was more concerned about my studies than anything else.
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    You might have to push yourself out of your comfort zone a little (attending welcome events on your own is daunting, I know), but remember that everyone is in the same boat and will also be looking to make friends. Go to events organised by your accommodation/uni and put yourself out there. I'm sure you'll find other like-minded people. Talk to the people on your course, join societies that appeal to you, and tag along with roommates to events.
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    I'm introverted too and also attending uni
    Basically, I plan to go to as many events as possible and join societies (I made a list of those that appeal to me). I never had a group of friends that were really compatible with me so that's my aim, to find that. You need to put yourself out there, be as social as possible but don't beat yourself if it just doesn't work with certain people. Being a bit too clingy can be a turn off for people :\
    Take a lot of breaks from it to recharge your batteries.
 
 
 
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