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How can I get through?

Ive had this phobia anxiety/severe fed upness thing going on the the past few years and my parents are understandable sick of hearing about panic attacks and not feeling well etc but I just can't seem to cope with life or go anywhere without feeling really horrible and disturbed inside and trying not to cry. I usually go straight home or cope until it wears off a bit. My parents don't know how serious it is (or they are not that bothered) because I never cry in front of them (I can't im a guy) I go to my room but its more than crying its like gasping for air i feel better after though cause the nasty feeling thing has gone a bit. Ive had anxiety for 5 years but because I didn't go for help this horrible feeling thing is stuck permanently. Im scared of going mental within the next few weeks but when I tell my parents they say 'its not my problem' because they are sick of hearing about me. I would be too if I was them but im desperate I think the problems beyond councelling.

Does anyone here have anything like this? People think im selfish but I can't think of others when im like all disturbed and anxious inside :confused:

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Anonymous #2

I'm similar and have been this way for about 4 years, I'm planning on seeing my Dr when I next get home from uni [easter break]. At college and school I could just about cope but up here without family support it's getting rather bad [so much so that I haven't been to uni now in the past 5 weeks].

You need to see your Dr, it's not beyond help. Yeah, it may well take a fair amount of time longer than if you had seen your Dr originally about this but you just have to bite the bullet and do it y'know. There aren't any two ways about it.

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northernsongs

How old are you? Have you seen a doctor yet? Talking about it to a professional can help a lot.

Reply 3

Angrybanana

11

One word: Agoraphobia
Go see your Doctor. And do let your parents know how bad it is then they wouldn't dismiss it so easily.

Reply 4

Anonymous #3

Yeah, talking to a Doctor can help - but is it connected to your outlook on life? I mean, is it connected to something specific like self-esteem, depression, or loss of point?

Your not selfish, it is horrible to be like that. But doing something active and engaging with other people in an environment your comfortable with can help you to be less introspective, and bring some new viewpoints to mind which might help you. I would say that your parents should care, if they really know how you're feeling, but even if they did I doubt they could 'cure' you, they might have no idea how to help you.

I know it sounds cheesy, but have you tried spending some quiet time alone each morning, just clearing your mind and thinking positively about your life? That might be really hard to do but maybe you could acheive it with practice. Perspective is important sometimes. Another way of doing the same thing might be through keeping a diary or doing pointless art - not to look good just to explore how you feel about things.

I don't know if this is good advice, but hope you feel better soon!!

:hugs:

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Anonymous #1

OP

Anonymous

Yeah, talking to a Doctor can help - but is it connected to your outlook on life? I mean, is it connected to something specific like self-esteem, depression, or loss of point?

Your not selfish, it is horrible to be like that. But doing something active and engaging with other people in an environment your comfortable with can help you to be less introspective, and bring some new viewpoints to mind which might help you. I would say that your parents should care, if they really know how you're feeling, but even if they did I doubt they could 'cure' you, they might have no idea how to help you.

I know it sounds cheesy, but have you tried spending some quiet time alone each morning, just clearing your mind and thinking positively about your life? That might be really hard to do but maybe you could acheive it with practice. Perspective is important sometimes. Another way of doing the same thing might be through keeping a diary or doing pointless art - not to look good just to explore how you feel about things.

I don't know if this is good advice, but hope you feel better soon!!

:hugs:

Hi, thanks I don't know what its connected to but it all started after I collapsed cause of a panic attack, though your not supposed to, and was scared of going anywhere in case it happened again. I spend a lot of time alone but its hard to think postitively because I really believe im doomed to be like this all my life and even if it goes away it will be on and off as most people with depression anxiety and agrophobia (if thats what this is) never seem to be 100% cured. (sorry I might be wrong) I heard that most cases of mental illness start in the teens like this and im scared it will develop into something more serious. I'l definately go and see someone and thanks for the last advice you have just reminded me Ive not played guitar in ages I'l get it out so im not just feeling sorry for myself. Cheers.

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Anonymous #1

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northernsongs

How old are you? Have you seen a doctor yet? Talking about it to a professional can help a lot.

19, Ive seen a doctor about the anxiety I was offered some anti depressents a year ago but didn't take them :rolleyes:

Mainly cause I was feeling better but also cause I heard they just cover up the problem, I didn't see the point and didn't want side effects. Thats what made people in my family think I can't be that bad.

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Anonymous #1

OP

Anonymous

I'm similar and have been this way for about 4 years, I'm planning on seeing my Dr when I next get home from uni [easter break]. At college and school I could just about cope but up here without family support it's getting rather bad [so much so that I haven't been to uni now in the past 5 weeks].

You need to see your Dr, it's not beyond help. Yeah, it may well take a fair amount of time longer than if you had seen your Dr originally about this but you just have to bite the bullet and do it y'know. There aren't any two ways about it.

Hi, can I ask how old you are? I couldn't bear to leave family at this point even if they don't want to know so well done. What did you tell the uni because at the moment at college im known as a skiver (sp?) lol as I don't want to say I have anxiety, or whatever I have. Its not that I don't get up to go I set out but sometimes just before I get to college I turn around and come back home its mad in reality.

Reply 8

Yoda

12

Speak to a counciler/doctor and try to get refered to a psychiatrist. My expert opinion says you need to face these things and then you'll realise you don't need to cry, but you might want to wait for a professional opinion.

Reply 9

vet in the making

1

Anonymous

I spend a lot of time alone but its hard to think postitively because I really believe im doomed to be like this all my life and even if it goes away it will be on and off as most people with depression anxiety and agrophobia (if thats what this is) never seem to be 100% cured. (sorry I might be wrong) I heard that most cases of mental illness start in the teens like this and im scared it will develop into something more serious. I'l definately go and see someone and thanks for the last advice you have just reminded me Ive not played guitar in ages I'l get it out so im not just feeling sorry for myself. Cheers.

Maybe try out a few sports, they can help directly facing your issue and meet new pals, and indirectly endorphins are realeased helping combat 'feeling down'.

The advice already given is better than pretty much anything I could say.

It is your life and your head though so you can control it, and take steps to move in the direction you want to. Never give something up. As cheese laden as it sounds, fight for yourself, and have faith in yourself.

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

I actually do sport and yea your right it helps loads, I could do with some new friends but im onlt at college for a few more months then everyone is going there serperate ways so theres no point trying harder there.

Reply 11

jermay88

2

Ive got exactly the same thing. Ive got generalised anxiety disorder and basicaly right now im right in a ditch. Im also prettty badly depressed right now and have seen a doctor and psychiatrist about it but they havent given me pills or anything. Last night I had nightmares concearning the things Im currently feeling anxious about and I can quite frankly say it was the worst night of my life.

How can I get through?

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