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    Hi thanks for reading.

    I have a problem with my UCAS reference and my teachers aren't being very helpful. In short my exam period was very turbulent when one of my siblings attempted suicide.

    Now I believe the emotional trauma may have effected my AS results as I did quite poorly in the ones post this event (in one exam I had just found out about the attempt and wasn't sure how seriously injured my sibling was). Anyway at the time I was very shaken up and my parents didn't want me to tell anyone. Post exam period I realised this was a mistake and spoke to one of my teachers about it. Because it was to late to appeal to the exam board he told me that nearer the time I would have to apply with mitigating circumstances when I apply to uni.

    Now my parents have given me permission to do this as long as I don't reveal the exact nature of the incident. However I don't know how I go about doing this since the only teacher I felt confident to talk to has now left the school, so I really need some advice from you guys. Do I need to tell a teacher in the school so that they can talk about it in my reference or should I briefly refere to it in my personal statement?

    Another issue is I spoke to some uni admission teams who said I would need to back up any claim with evidence e.g. with a doctors note however due to the nature of the incident and patient confidentiality I cannot obtain this. Can anyone please help me figure this out?

    Sorry for rambling and many thanks
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    Hi thanks for reading.

    I have a problem with my UCAS reference and my teachers aren't being very helpful. In short my exam period was very turbulent when one of my siblings attempted suicide.

    Now I believe the emotional trauma may have effected my AS results as I did quite poorly in the ones post this event (in one exam I had just found out about the attempt and wasn't sure how seriously injured my sibling was). Anyway at the time I was very shaken up and my parents didn't want me to tell anyone. Post exam period I realised this was a mistake and spoke to one of my teachers about it. Because it was to late to appeal to the exam board he told me that nearer the time I would have to apply with mitigating circumstances when I apply to uni.

    Now my parents have given me permission to do this as long as I don't reveal the exact nature of the incident. However I don't know how I go about doing this since the only teacher I felt confident to talk to has now left the school, so I really need some advice from you guys. Do I need to tell a teacher in the school so that they can talk about it in my reference or should I briefly refere to it in my personal statement?

    Another issue is I spoke to some uni admission teams who said I would need to back up any claim with evidence e.g. with a doctors note however due to the nature of the incident and patient confidentiality I cannot obtain this. Can anyone please help me figure this out?

    Sorry for rambling and many thanks
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    Unfortunately, unless you have some sort of documentary evidence for this, universities probably won't accept it. Even when people do badly because of a death in the family, the universities often expect a copy of a death certificate to prove the date. It's not the nicest thing to do on their part, but they have to make sure that people have genuine extenuating circumstances and aren't just trying to abdicate responsibility for bad results.

    In this situation, the only thing you can do is tell your school to mention it in your UCAS reference. However, your parents don't seem too comfortable doing this so this is your call I guess. You'll need to have it mentioned in your reference for it to be considered and, if your parents won't allow you to do so, the next best thing you can do is take a gap year and apply with achieved grades next year.
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    Unfortunately, unless you have some sort of documentary evidence for this, universities probably won't accept it. Even when people do badly because of a death in the family, the universities often expect a copy of a death certificate to prove the date. It's not the nicest thing to do on their part, but they have to make sure that people have genuine extenuating circumstances and aren't just trying to abdicate responsibility for bad results.

    In this situation, the only thing you can do is tell your school to mention it in your UCAS reference. However, your parents don't seem too comfortable doing this so this is your call I guess. You'll need to have it mentioned in your reference for it to be considered and, if your parents won't allow you to do so, the next best thing you can do is take a gap year and apply with achieved grades next year.
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    You're essentially asking the unis to believe something that you have no proof of, and don't even want to disclose exactly what it is - and then take this mysterious event into account and use it as the reason for your low grades. That's not realistic at all. "I had this bad event that affected my grades but my parents won't let me tell you" is not going to help you get into uni.

    Since it wasn't your event (ie it didn't happen to you directly) they can be more lenient when asking for proof, but this is then mitigated when taking it into account - the less proof they have then the less sure they can be, so the less they'll accept it to account for the lower grades.

    If you do want to claim mitigating circumstances then it will need to go in your reference. However, it's a long time later now, and it sounds like you haven't told anyone currently at your school, so they might not want to include the event in your reference anyway. You have to realise that the reason they're not being very helpful is because they can't be very helpful - they can't agree to write about an event that they can't prove existed, and one that isn't even allowed to be disclosed fully. Try to see it from their point of view - every year they will have students begging for better references or predicted grades, so they need some way to tell that you were actually affected and not just making it up.
 
 
 

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