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Post Anorexia, how not too slip into old ways
hey, basically i use to suffer from anorexia and still do to an extent and i was just wondering of those who use to as well and how they cope with the aftermath. how do try not to slip into old ways because i still get huge urges to go on a serious weight loss reign. sometimes i get scared i might go back to before but i really don't want to as it came with so much **** but sometimes i just cant bring myself to eat. any advice would be great. thanks.
Reply 1
just talk to someone really close and when u feel down go to them talk to them n get them to take u out n remind u that you are worth more than what anorexia does to you. Trust me it works.
Gud luk
Gud luk
Reply 2
thanks its just i dont really like talking about it. its hard.
Reply 4
My problem after starting to eat again was that i didnt know what a normal diet was, and i still dont. I know what i should be eating but i cant. I got told to eat or die so i ate, and didnt stop. I put on a lot of weight but i promised myself i would never go back. I refuse to go near scales for fear of becoming obsessed with them again.
I don't really know what to advise you tbh, have you had counseling/psychiatric help? I would advise it as i havent had any yet, (im still on the waiting list for it) and im still pretty ****ed up in the head. I think talking about it does help. I also find helping other people helps....it makes you feel more in control of your eating disorder and it helps to know that your ED wasnt a total waste of time or happiness, as you can now help other people who are experiencing it.
Best of luck!
I don't really know what to advise you tbh, have you had counseling/psychiatric help? I would advise it as i havent had any yet, (im still on the waiting list for it) and im still pretty ****ed up in the head. I think talking about it does help. I also find helping other people helps....it makes you feel more in control of your eating disorder and it helps to know that your ED wasnt a total waste of time or happiness, as you can now help other people who are experiencing it.
Best of luck!
Reply 5
no i havent had any counseling for ED but i have done for depression. i also did what you did and just ate but it made me feel like crap to be honest and now i feel fat although i no that im not. ah why does food have to be such a bloody issue!!!
Reply 6
I think it would help to see someone specifically about your ED. Part of the problem with EDs and why they are so difficult to recover from is that you develop an unhealthy relationship with food, so you kinda need to reset that and get to a point where food isn't the enemy. Basically developing a healthy relationship with food, knowing that its ok to eat and knowing how to deal with the things that trigger wanting to lose weight. Also try and stay positive-if you've had urges to go and lose weight again but haven't then thats one in the net for you! You managed to avoid it! 
Hope that helps!
Hope that helps!
xxsarahjwxx
My problem after starting to eat again was that i didnt know what a normal diet was, and i still dont. I know what i should be eating but i cant. I got told to eat or die so i ate, and didnt stop. I put on a lot of weight but i promised myself i would never go back. I refuse to go near scales for fear of becoming obsessed with them again.
i'm exactly, exactly the same. When i try to count calories, i just end up intaking such a low amount that i get scared i'll go back to old ways, so i just give up completely and feel defeated.
I'd say it stopped really effecting me about 5 years ago (ie, that's when i got over it, but obviously it'll always be a struggle) and i find it quite difficult to feel 'normal' now.
I think i got over it in a really strange way, pretty uncommon to most people so i can't really say that my 'turning point' and what stops me from reverting back will work for most people, but it worked for me. PM me if you want to know more.
Good luck
. At this stage, food is NOT the enemy; you are the only enemy to yourself. Be good to yourself and in the long run you will end up being so much happier!Grace x x x
Reply 8
Hey
I also used to suffer from anorexia quite seriously
At one point I was about 6st5lbs at 5"2.
Whenever i now get the urge to stop eating i just think of how much pain i put my family through the first time and how hard it was to get out of.
I also now have the most amazing and supportive bf that a girl could ever ask for and I know that he loves me.
Dont ever give up staying healthy
Im now 9st 12lbs and altho this probably sounds quite alot, i put it on over about 2 years and am happy. I know i could do with losing a few pounds but ill do it the healthy way. The alternative is not worth it.
Good luck And feel free to pm me if you ever need to tlk 2 anybody
I also used to suffer from anorexia quite seriously
At one point I was about 6st5lbs at 5"2.
Whenever i now get the urge to stop eating i just think of how much pain i put my family through the first time and how hard it was to get out of.
I also now have the most amazing and supportive bf that a girl could ever ask for and I know that he loves me.
Dont ever give up staying healthy
Im now 9st 12lbs and altho this probably sounds quite alot, i put it on over about 2 years and am happy. I know i could do with losing a few pounds but ill do it the healthy way. The alternative is not worth it.
Good luck
And feel free to pm me if you ever need to tlk 2 anybody Reply 9
I didn't realise, but I think I had an ed like anorexia, not to the extreme though, I had to lose weight because I want to be a dancer, but I then got into a pattern of eating less and continued with it, I din't realise that I went past the point of healthiness and I dropped down to 46kg at 156cm and it would have continued but my periods stopped so I went to the doctors. I used to look in the mirror and think that I had a stomach so had to loose weight, I've now since realised that skinny people have stomachs. I've now put on weight and have got up to 50kg about two weeks ago which is what he told me to but my periods haven't come back which is annoying. I've got another appointment to see him on friday. Thing is, I want to be a dancer so I want to stay slim and don't want to put on too much weight but I want to be a healthy weight, I'm not sure if I'm eating the right amount or not. I've tried to count calories, but I got a bit obsessed and it's impossible because we eat home made meals and I have no idea about the amount in them. I keep on eating too much to make me feel a bit sick, like I eat lunch at 1:30 then it's a bit early to eat much of a snack at 3:30 but I have to then I feel sick in Ballet. It's not so good. At one point I was weighing myself everyday and got a bit obsessive but now they're broken which is actually good. hopefully it'll enter an equilibrium and get to a point that works for me
Reply 10
I have been recovered from anorexia for 2 years now, and whilst I would still say I wasnt a severe case (my BMI at my lowest was 16.5, and I was never an inpatient) I know what you are going through.
The thing that pushed me into realising that there was something wrong and I needed to recover was when I saw my dad cry, he never cries. and that was when I realised that I was affecting people other than myself.
The first 6 months of recovery were hard, and I had to take it step by step slowly eating more, trying to ensure I resisted the urge to both undereat and overeat. Over time it does become easier. Whenever I felt like I wanted to go on a losing weight regime again, I tried to remember all the bad things, the adverse effect on my family, the days of depression and crying, the hours spent in the bath just trying to get warm, the times when I would brush my hair and it would come out, realising the possibility of not being able to have children. When I remember these things it helps me to realise that its not worth it. Nothing is worth that.
I'm now a healthy weight (9st, 5ft 5) and whilst in perfect world I would drop half a stone, I realise that it is a slippery slope, and even now, 2 years on, if I try to diet I know it could be a quick path back to where I was, and that's not really what I want or who I am anymore, there's more to life than that.
I'm not sure if any of that helps. I hope it does.
xxxx
The thing that pushed me into realising that there was something wrong and I needed to recover was when I saw my dad cry, he never cries. and that was when I realised that I was affecting people other than myself.
The first 6 months of recovery were hard, and I had to take it step by step slowly eating more, trying to ensure I resisted the urge to both undereat and overeat. Over time it does become easier. Whenever I felt like I wanted to go on a losing weight regime again, I tried to remember all the bad things, the adverse effect on my family, the days of depression and crying, the hours spent in the bath just trying to get warm, the times when I would brush my hair and it would come out, realising the possibility of not being able to have children. When I remember these things it helps me to realise that its not worth it. Nothing is worth that.
I'm now a healthy weight (9st, 5ft 5) and whilst in perfect world I would drop half a stone, I realise that it is a slippery slope, and even now, 2 years on, if I try to diet I know it could be a quick path back to where I was, and that's not really what I want or who I am anymore, there's more to life than that.
I'm not sure if any of that helps. I hope it does.
xxxx
Personally, I think an ED stays with you for life, and it is an uphill struggle to try to be healthy and not slip back into old ways. I think I am "healthy" now though, but I still have the odd day where I slip back to how I was.
This is what I did:
*get ride of scalees - I used to weigh myself around 5 times a day and got really obsessive, when they where gone it was such a sense of relief.
*get rid of clothes that fitted you when you had your ED- having them in your wardrobe is constant reminder and there is always some temptation for you to fit back in them
*speak to someone (a councellor or friend) directly about your ed- this helped me beyond belief.
*i still have a mirage of "thinspiration" hidden in my room and when I feel really good I look at it and realise how disguisting it is. Now I have a new one with healthy thinspiration with people such as Jessica Alba, etc. I also have cuttings of the models that died from anorexia, it reminds me how lucky I was to escape that world and how I never want to go back.
I doubt that would help but good luck - and defo speak to someone, it will help you so much.
xxx
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This is what I did:
*get ride of scalees - I used to weigh myself around 5 times a day and got really obsessive, when they where gone it was such a sense of relief.
*get rid of clothes that fitted you when you had your ED- having them in your wardrobe is constant reminder and there is always some temptation for you to fit back in them
*speak to someone (a councellor or friend) directly about your ed- this helped me beyond belief.
*i still have a mirage of "thinspiration" hidden in my room and when I feel really good I look at it and realise how disguisting it is. Now I have a new one with healthy thinspiration with people such as Jessica Alba, etc. I also have cuttings of the models that died from anorexia, it reminds me how lucky I was to escape that world and how I never want to go back.
I doubt that would help but good luck - and defo speak to someone, it will help you so much.
xxx
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Reply 12
Yeah I think speakin to someone is a well good idea, even tho it can be v difficult.
I'm in recovery now...my ED is sum osrt of chronical...(most are maybe) but I try to do my best and yeah..I think that's a good start tryin to do ya best, eat what you fancy and if you don't fancy anythin try and remeber what ya favorit was...maybe go to a support group..that's what I'm doin and it can be quite fun sumtimes
I'm in recovery now...my ED is sum osrt of chronical...(most are maybe) but I try to do my best and yeah..I think that's a good start tryin to do ya best, eat what you fancy and if you don't fancy anythin try and remeber what ya favorit was...maybe go to a support group..that's what I'm doin and it can be quite fun sumtimes
Reply 13
becky xxx
Personally, I think an ED stays with you for life, and it is an uphill struggle to try to be healthy and not slip back into old ways. I think I am "healthy" now though, but I still have the odd day where I slip back to how I was.
This is what I did:
*get ride of scalees - I used to weigh myself around 5 times a day and got really obsessive, when they where gone it was such a sense of relief.
*get rid of clothes that fitted you when you had your ED- having them in your wardrobe is constant reminder and there is always some temptation for you to fit back in them
*speak to someone (a councellor or friend) directly about your ed- this helped me beyond belief.
*i still have a mirage of "thinspiration" hidden in my room and when I feel really good I look at it and realise how disguisting it is. Now I have a new one with healthy thinspiration with people such as Jessica Alba, etc. I also have cuttings of the models that died from anorexia, it reminds me how lucky I was to escape that world and how I never want to go back.
I doubt that would help but good luck - and defo speak to someone, it will help you so much.
xxx
*
This is what I did:
*get ride of scalees - I used to weigh myself around 5 times a day and got really obsessive, when they where gone it was such a sense of relief.
*get rid of clothes that fitted you when you had your ED- having them in your wardrobe is constant reminder and there is always some temptation for you to fit back in them
*speak to someone (a councellor or friend) directly about your ed- this helped me beyond belief.
*i still have a mirage of "thinspiration" hidden in my room and when I feel really good I look at it and realise how disguisting it is. Now I have a new one with healthy thinspiration with people such as Jessica Alba, etc. I also have cuttings of the models that died from anorexia, it reminds me how lucky I was to escape that world and how I never want to go back.
I doubt that would help but good luck - and defo speak to someone, it will help you so much.
xxx
*
This is good good advice. I am bulimic and if I didn't have a wardrobe full of size 6 and 8 clothes then it would be so much easier to say, "you know what, I'm going to try and get better".
The scales are horrid too, don't go near them. UNLESS you can find a HEALTHY weight and use the scales to make sure that you stay there. Ask your doctor what a healthy weight is. Its kind of a differently obsessive way of using the scales, but it can work, I hear.
Otherwise... some people manage by becoming 'health freaks'. e.g. "I am going to eat 1800 calories every day because that is optimum for health and 20% will be protein and..." basically follow an extremely healthy, medically sound diet, taking comfort in the fact that while you may not be losing weight, you are controlling what you eat and know what you're doing.
Because just eating whatever you want can lead to binging. I was anorexic for a year and tried to recover on my own. Which meant that I ate and ate and ate, put on a lot of weight, and then discovered that the food didn't necessarily have to stay in the system. So whatever you do - stay in control of your eating habits, always be aware of what is healthy and good for you.
Reply 14
I have had an ED now for over 7 years, and my family are still not aware of it.
I think the best thing you can do is to speak to others about how you feel.
And remember, you are worth so much more than anorexia.
I think the best thing you can do is to speak to others about how you feel.
And remember, you are worth so much more than anorexia.
Reply 15
Anonymous
hey, basically i use to suffer from anorexia and still do to an extent and i was just wondering of those who use to as well and how they cope with the aftermath. how do try not to slip into old ways because i still get huge urges to go on a serious weight loss reign. sometimes i get scared i might go back to before but i really don't want to as it came with so much **** but sometimes i just cant bring myself to eat. any advice would be great. thanks.
After a while it isn't that scary. You should be a lot more open with people than you are, especially if you fear a relapse - they can reassure you. At times I don't or can't bring myself to eat because I've been used to not eating for quite a while but if found that you have to strike a balance - may it mean having to force down something may it be a salad or toast or cereal. Or even try eating small things progressively during the day it'll hopefully get you back into the habit of eating regularly.
Hopefully this has been of some help - I'm 'better' now, but as like anything we all can have small relapses and very major relapses, but as long as you can monitor and manage your daily intake so that you're eating something you can help get over your past experience - it won't go away but you will be able to hopefully just push it to one side and take control.
If you want to have a chat or anything just give me a PM
Reply 16
just want to say thanks very much for the responses, i really appreciate them. for me this is the best way to talk about it, especially with others who have been through what i have. i suppose im at a good weight, 9 stone, 5'9.male. and i feel alot better about myself physically. i love the fact i have so much more energy, i cant give up my exercise, i just crave those natural highs! but im keeping it to an hour a day. 2 max. just have to work with the mind in terms of not thinking im fat and not liking my body, but it does seem to be getting better. i agree with the poster above that an ED never truly goes away but its possible to still live a happy life.
Reply 17
I was anorexic for 3 years, and was only diagnosed last winter, when I developed heart problems. I succeeded in putting on some weight, but have begun slipping back into anorexic behaviour since I broke up with my boyfriend.
I have to force myself to eat, and make myself eat meals in halls, as eating in front of people is something that's especially difficult for me. I am fighting off a relapse at the moment and it's quite hard to deal with, but I believe that these habits can be broken with time and effort.
I have to force myself to eat, and make myself eat meals in halls, as eating in front of people is something that's especially difficult for me. I am fighting off a relapse at the moment and it's quite hard to deal with, but I believe that these habits can be broken with time and effort.
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