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Scared

a month ago i got phys assaulted by my dad, he was wound up think maybe been drinking. since then i've been so scared can't talk to anyone mum feels he just lost his temper. keep getting flasbacks and crying, don't wanna tell friends cause don't know how to tell them and how they'll react any avice would be great

Reply 1

you poor thing...*hugs*

if i was a friend of yours i think i would want to know about it so i could help you..it will be easier to deal with if you have someone to talk to about it and i'm sure they would be very supportive so maybe try and mention it to a close friend?

or if you're not comfortable with that just yet why don't you go to your doctor or a counsellor at school/uni etc who might be able to help.

Reply 2

You shouldn't have to put up with this, and please don't. You should definately confide in your friends, and maybe you could stay with one of them for a bit. I'm sure they would make u feel better, and would definately be on your side, whereas family may be more neutral.
Talk to your mum about this and get her to talk to him about why it happened.
Do you have any siblings? If so how are they taking it? If you do they would be good ppl to talk to as they are pretty much in the same situation (i.e. they may be just as scared as you)
If you can't stay with a friend what about an auntie or a gran or some kind of relation.
I would really advise getting out of the house for a bit, you have to do something about this before it happens again...

Reply 3

Just out of interest are you male or female and how old are you?

Reply 4

thanks for reading this and taking time to reply. this has made me realise that i cannot keep this to myself any longer i need to confide in a friend. our relatonship has never been fantastic but has always been fine and civilised what happened has really shaken me. he has always been someone that does me down and yet to the world he pretends to be such a different person, going to church etc.

I tried to discuss it with my mum today and burst into tears half way through. she said that everyone makes mistakes, what do you expect me to do - divorce him? I don't but i think that she owes it to me to speak to him because i can't.

i just wish i could understand why it happened but i don't because we weren't even having a violent argument but as i said before he had been drinking. by the way i'm an 18 yr old female. i'm still so shaken about this i'm even crying now as i read the replies and write this. i just hope it won't affect relationships that i have with men in the future because at the moment i feel my confidence and trust is at rock bottom.


will let you know how i get on thanks again
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Reply 5

I hope things work out for you :hugs:

Reply 6

same thing happened with my dad a few years ago and my mum said the same thing really. but she did have a talk with him about it an its never happened again.

just remember he is your dad and still does love you. at least youre not one of those kids who gets beaten up every day.

Reply 7

isabella
I hope things work out for you :hugs:

So do I:hugs: and well done for talking to your mum about it. And I reckon u sould deffo confide in a friend cos they will be able to help you.

Reply 8

Has your dad ever mentioned it/apologised? Is there any way in which you could discuss it with him, or are you too frightened? If so, maybe you could sit down with both your parents to talk about it. I really hope everything gets better soon xxx