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What am I doing here?
Simple question really.
But to clarify, I have no idea where my life is leading me. I had a few emotional problems during my A levels so I thought I'd go to uni and make a fresh start, which worked for a few weeks. Now I'm just doing a degree that I don't want/need to do and I have no idea what to do about it.
I keep trying new things, to see if I can find something that might take my interest, but there is nothing. Everything I try, I either find easy or mind numbing, neither of which are very appealing.
I'm not depressed as such (been there, done that), but I'm just generally unhappy/moody all the time because I feel so empty.
Come to think of it i don't even know what this post is for, I guess I've got no one else to talk to so I might as well just tell the internet and see what happens.
I don't hold out much hope of someone solving me problem as it's pretty unlikely that a stranger can tell my where my life is going, but you never know.
But to clarify, I have no idea where my life is leading me. I had a few emotional problems during my A levels so I thought I'd go to uni and make a fresh start, which worked for a few weeks. Now I'm just doing a degree that I don't want/need to do and I have no idea what to do about it.
I keep trying new things, to see if I can find something that might take my interest, but there is nothing. Everything I try, I either find easy or mind numbing, neither of which are very appealing.
I'm not depressed as such (been there, done that), but I'm just generally unhappy/moody all the time because I feel so empty.
Come to think of it i don't even know what this post is for, I guess I've got no one else to talk to so I might as well just tell the internet and see what happens.
I don't hold out much hope of someone solving me problem as it's pretty unlikely that a stranger can tell my where my life is going, but you never know.
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Reply 1
Anonymous
Simple question really.
But to clarify, I have no idea where my life is leading me. I had a few emotional problems during my A levels so I thought I'd go to uni and make a fresh start, which worked for a few weeks. Now I'm just doing a degree that I don't want/need to do and I have no idea what to do about it.
I keep trying new things, to see if I can find something that might take my interest, but there is nothing. Everything I try, I either find easy or mind numbing, neither of which are very appealing.
I'm not depressed as such (been there, done that), but I'm just generally unhappy/moody all the time because I feel so empty.
Come to think of it i don't even know what this post is for, I guess I've got no one else to talk to so I might as well just tell the internet and see what happens.
I don't hold out much hope of someone solving me problem as it's pretty unlikely that a stranger can tell my where my life is going, but you never know.
But to clarify, I have no idea where my life is leading me. I had a few emotional problems during my A levels so I thought I'd go to uni and make a fresh start, which worked for a few weeks. Now I'm just doing a degree that I don't want/need to do and I have no idea what to do about it.
I keep trying new things, to see if I can find something that might take my interest, but there is nothing. Everything I try, I either find easy or mind numbing, neither of which are very appealing.
I'm not depressed as such (been there, done that), but I'm just generally unhappy/moody all the time because I feel so empty.
Come to think of it i don't even know what this post is for, I guess I've got no one else to talk to so I might as well just tell the internet and see what happens.
I don't hold out much hope of someone solving me problem as it's pretty unlikely that a stranger can tell my where my life is going, but you never know.
eeek, im in a spookily similar situation. Came to uni expecting to make a fresh start, everything would be wonderful blah blah...well it was wonderful for a few months. But its now nearing the end of year2, and im in just as much of a mess as i was at A Level, except now i dont even have the 'pleasure' of getting good grades to keep me sane.
Im just stuck doing a course i hate, with people who really arnt like me, with no real aim or ambition on my life.
so i'd love to help! but i need the same answers you do.
and it isnt just as simple as "start a new degree" "move uni" etc, its cost me thousands of pounds to be here, im more than half-way into it, so quitting isnt really an option. I also have little interest in joining new societies etc as im already a member of the stuff that interests me.
Reply 2
well have you always felt this way? I mean - before uni and all -
Reply 3
Well it's nice to know that I'm not the only one.
I'm in my 3rd year, and annoyingly I am doing well (costing to a first, averaging 88%). But I'm putting no effort it, attending about 30% of lectures, starting coursework a few days before its due, etc, etc...
As I said, everything I attempt (degree included) is either easy or boring, and usually both.
I could do another degree, but it'd be wasting more money to get to the same situation.
I'm in my 3rd year, and annoyingly I am doing well (costing to a first, averaging 88%). But I'm putting no effort it, attending about 30% of lectures, starting coursework a few days before its due, etc, etc...
As I said, everything I attempt (degree included) is either easy or boring, and usually both.
I could do another degree, but it'd be wasting more money to get to the same situation.
Reply 4
lol, I'm in my second year, very similar situation!
Just gotta keep going I suppose!
Just gotta keep going I suppose!
Reply 5
Oh. I'm struggling with the 40%, haha
Reply 6
Anonymous
Well it's nice to know that I'm not the only one.
I'm in my 3rd year, and annoyingly I am doing well (costing to a first, averaging 88%). But I'm putting no effort it, attending about 30% of lectures, starting coursework a few days before its due, etc, etc...
As I said, everything I attempt (degree included) is either easy or boring, and usually both.
I could do another degree, but it'd be wasting more money to get to the same situation.
I'm in my 3rd year, and annoyingly I am doing well (costing to a first, averaging 88%). But I'm putting no effort it, attending about 30% of lectures, starting coursework a few days before its due, etc, etc...
As I said, everything I attempt (degree included) is either easy or boring, and usually both.
I could do another degree, but it'd be wasting more money to get to the same situation.
im kind of different, not sure what grade im working at as we rarely ever get set work, but id imagine its more the 2:2 level, ie not good enough, and not what i expect due to my gcse and a level grades.
i too am attending few lectures, as i find the majority patronizing, easy or just boring. I'm studying business and many of the lectures are just 'buzz words' and pointless concepts that arnt used in the real world, i just dont feel im learning anything relevant to the world of work. I just dont have the motivation to get up early in a morning, and am becoming very isolated and insular, which isnt what i was like before i started uni.
and to the other poster, personally i dont think ill ever be happy, even if im happy for a while, something always comes along and puts me back a few steps. I thought uni would help me a lot, but somehow ive ended up with a group of people, who are nice people, but just arnt my kind of people. I find i have less and less in common with them as the weeks pass. And i miss my friends from home (who im very close to) a lot.
Reply 7
well have you always felt this way? I mean - before uni and all -
It's complicated really. Before/during A-levels I didn't have a clue what I wanted to do, but it didn't bother me, and I was happy in general.
Then during my last year of A-level I went through a messy break up with my g/f of 5 years which kind of *******ed me up.
I went to uni to try and start over, but I soon got sick of the student life style. I can socialise all I like but I never made friends. After about a month I just gave up on that. Then my past came back to haunt me and I don't know if i ever got over that. But now I feel like a bitter, twisted old man, and I'm only 20! I feel like I've nothing left to live for, I'm just bobbing along waiting to die. I spend most of my time wondering why I'm not a depressed alcoholic!
Reply 8
hmm - i think the problem is that you are still living in the past - whether its your fault or not
why dont you pick up a hobby? - do something that you really enjoy? - there must be something that you felt great about?
why dont you pick up a hobby? - do something that you really enjoy? - there must be something that you felt great about?
Reply 9
Ever thought it might be a different form of depression?
All the symptoms are there.
All the symptoms are there.
Reply 10
That's the problem, I have, or have had loads of hobbies. Lets think...
I was pretty good at squash but I got bored of it
Ditto tennis
I used to gamble a lot, poker mainly. I was good at it during A-levels, picked it up again at uni last year but couldn't get back into it.
I've got a private pilots license, but I've given up flying because it is actually incredibly dull
I started playing snooker, because I liked watching it on the telly, but found it boring
I'm a programmer, I tend to get halfway through writing things then give up out of boredom
I'm a musician, I play guitar and sing. I cover stuff and write my own songs, but it's not at all fulfilling
I've just got a nice new car, and I've already mastered that. Planning to take it to some track days but I guarantee I'll find that pretty straightforward
I'm sure there's more but I guess I'm sounding a bit full of myself so I'll shut up. None of that I find remotely interesting.
I'm also studying an engineering degree, which should be pretty cool. But it feels like I know it all already, even thought I probably don't.
I was pretty good at squash but I got bored of it
Ditto tennis
I used to gamble a lot, poker mainly. I was good at it during A-levels, picked it up again at uni last year but couldn't get back into it.
I've got a private pilots license, but I've given up flying because it is actually incredibly dull
I started playing snooker, because I liked watching it on the telly, but found it boring
I'm a programmer, I tend to get halfway through writing things then give up out of boredom
I'm a musician, I play guitar and sing. I cover stuff and write my own songs, but it's not at all fulfilling
I've just got a nice new car, and I've already mastered that. Planning to take it to some track days but I guarantee I'll find that pretty straightforward
I'm sure there's more but I guess I'm sounding a bit full of myself so I'll shut up. None of that I find remotely interesting.
I'm also studying an engineering degree, which should be pretty cool. But it feels like I know it all already, even thought I probably don't.
Reply 11
I've been in couselling for depression, and it got me nowhere really. The verdict was to go out there and try new things, take my mind off the past and get on with things. Which is great in theory, but not when I cant get into anything new.
Reply 12
well at my uni - you have something called: give it a go = where you pay a small amount to try out something new - its only one class really
do you have anything like that at your uni?
do you have anything like that at your uni?
Reply 13
I think your problem is that you feel trapped. My suggestion: travel the world, meet new people, explore how people live, realize that there are many injustices present and find a way to combat these injustices. That's how my life goes at least...
Reply 14
Anonymous
Well it's nice to know that I'm not the only one.
I'm in my 3rd year, and annoyingly I am doing well (costing to a first, averaging 88%). But I'm putting no effort it, attending about 30% of lectures, starting coursework a few days before its due, etc, etc...
As I said, everything I attempt (degree included) is either easy or boring, and usually both.
I could do another degree, but it'd be wasting more money to get to the same situation.
I'm in my 3rd year, and annoyingly I am doing well (costing to a first, averaging 88%). But I'm putting no effort it, attending about 30% of lectures, starting coursework a few days before its due, etc, etc...
As I said, everything I attempt (degree included) is either easy or boring, and usually both.
I could do another degree, but it'd be wasting more money to get to the same situation.
are you doing media studies at a polytechnic or are you a genius, i'm finding my uni degree pretty damn hard
Reply 15
It sounds as though your problem is a short attention span rather than depression - you start something, learn it and then get bored very quickly and then can't be bothered to put any longterm effort it? Is that right?
Unfortunately I expect these behaviour patterns will continue for most of your life (don't get married.....!) until you find something that you can be bothered too stick with once the inital "oh, this is interesting" feeling goes.
No idea what it'll be - just hope it happens.
And it'll be down to you to make it happen - life is not suddenly going to get interesting!
Unfortunately I expect these behaviour patterns will continue for most of your life (don't get married.....!) until you find something that you can be bothered too stick with once the inital "oh, this is interesting" feeling goes.
No idea what it'll be - just hope it happens.
And it'll be down to you to make it happen - life is not suddenly going to get interesting!
Reply 16
To join the rollcall of people dissappointed at uni, I'm in my first year, doing a course I thought I'd really enjoy. Up til recently I thought I was doing ok but i got back my coursework from last semester and 1 was a fail, and the other which I spent ages on and thought I'd done well on scraped a pass. Now I don't have the motivation to do anything workwise because it'll just get crap marks. 
I'm generally pissed off with the place too, with morons yelling outside my door at 3am, going to crap clubs and getting drunk, and having no money. I don't want to tell my parents though cos they think I'm doing so well. But yeah, OP I know how you feel
I'm generally pissed off with the place too, with morons yelling outside my door at 3am, going to crap clubs and getting drunk, and having no money. I don't want to tell my parents though cos they think I'm doing so well. But yeah, OP I know how you feelReply 17
You have to have some direction in life, which I would say what uni is.
Yes, it costs money but at least you're heading somewhere.
Yes, it costs money but at least you're heading somewhere.
Reply 18
Anonymous
That's the problem, I have, or have had loads of hobbies. Lets think...
I was pretty good at squash but I got bored of it
Ditto tennis
I used to gamble a lot, poker mainly. I was good at it during A-levels, picked it up again at uni last year but couldn't get back into it.
I've got a private pilots license, but I've given up flying because it is actually incredibly dull
I started playing snooker, because I liked watching it on the telly, but found it boring
I'm a programmer, I tend to get halfway through writing things then give up out of boredom
I'm a musician, I play guitar and sing. I cover stuff and write my own songs, but it's not at all fulfilling
I've just got a nice new car, and I've already mastered that. Planning to take it to some track days but I guarantee I'll find that pretty straightforward
I'm sure there's more but I guess I'm sounding a bit full of myself so I'll shut up. None of that I find remotely interesting.
I'm also studying an engineering degree, which should be pretty cool. But it feels like I know it all already, even thought I probably don't.
I was pretty good at squash but I got bored of it
Ditto tennis
I used to gamble a lot, poker mainly. I was good at it during A-levels, picked it up again at uni last year but couldn't get back into it.
I've got a private pilots license, but I've given up flying because it is actually incredibly dull
I started playing snooker, because I liked watching it on the telly, but found it boring
I'm a programmer, I tend to get halfway through writing things then give up out of boredom
I'm a musician, I play guitar and sing. I cover stuff and write my own songs, but it's not at all fulfilling
I've just got a nice new car, and I've already mastered that. Planning to take it to some track days but I guarantee I'll find that pretty straightforward
I'm sure there's more but I guess I'm sounding a bit full of myself so I'll shut up. None of that I find remotely interesting.
I'm also studying an engineering degree, which should be pretty cool. But it feels like I know it all already, even thought I probably don't.
So in other words, you give up on everything you do. No real surprise then that you want to give up University. No sympathy from me.
Reply 19
Anonymous
That's the problem, I have, or have had loads of hobbies. Lets think...
I was pretty good at squash but I got bored of it
Ditto tennis
I used to gamble a lot, poker mainly. I was good at it during A-levels, picked it up again at uni last year but couldn't get back into it.
I've got a private pilots license, but I've given up flying because it is actually incredibly dull
I started playing snooker, because I liked watching it on the telly, but found it boring
I'm a programmer, I tend to get halfway through writing things then give up out of boredom
I'm a musician, I play guitar and sing. I cover stuff and write my own songs, but it's not at all fulfilling
I've just got a nice new car, and I've already mastered that. Planning to take it to some track days but I guarantee I'll find that pretty straightforward
I'm sure there's more but I guess I'm sounding a bit full of myself so I'll shut up. None of that I find remotely interesting.
I'm also studying an engineering degree, which should be pretty cool. But it feels like I know it all already, even thought I probably don't.
I was pretty good at squash but I got bored of it
Ditto tennis
I used to gamble a lot, poker mainly. I was good at it during A-levels, picked it up again at uni last year but couldn't get back into it.
I've got a private pilots license, but I've given up flying because it is actually incredibly dull
I started playing snooker, because I liked watching it on the telly, but found it boring
I'm a programmer, I tend to get halfway through writing things then give up out of boredom
I'm a musician, I play guitar and sing. I cover stuff and write my own songs, but it's not at all fulfilling
I've just got a nice new car, and I've already mastered that. Planning to take it to some track days but I guarantee I'll find that pretty straightforward
I'm sure there's more but I guess I'm sounding a bit full of myself so I'll shut up. None of that I find remotely interesting.
I'm also studying an engineering degree, which should be pretty cool. But it feels like I know it all already, even thought I probably don't.
Flying is dull? Really?
You sound like one of these spoilt brats that are never happy no matter what they have or what they get. Don't come looking for me for sympathy because you wont get it, it seems you have nil motivation and this is something that needs addressing ASAP.
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