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    Hey, so I am at university in London, I didn't get 'official' university accommodation and ended up renting a 3 bedroom house with two others. The house itself is in a great location and is pretty nice for the price.

    My issue is that the other two people I am sharing with are not my type of people at all, incredibly shy, quiet and reserved, believe me I have tried with them.

    What makes this worse is that I am not at a campus uni, I can't just pop in to another halls/hub of students. it seems everyone who is going out is going out with flatmates, I don't know a single person so far.

    I know that it is only early doors, I am outgoing, on a big course and I love to play tennis so I will probably make friends somewhere a long the line, but with the uni layed out as it is, it seems unlikely I will ever have a proper group to go out to student nights or to pop to the pub with, as people are scattered all across central London.

    Is this just me being stupid? Do people actually regularly go out with coursemates/ society people? And what would you recommend you do about my situation?

    Cheers.
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    Ah that's peak fam

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    peak fam. jst turn the wifi router off, then theyll all huddle to the wifi room ennit.
    then play some akward game like spin the bottle yugioh
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    I'm sure you could easily make friends at societies with like-minded people especially in sports
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    (Original post by vis break)
    peak fam. jst turn the wifi router off, then theyll all huddle to the wifi room ennit.
    then play some akward game like spin the bottle yugioh
    tfw you go to lunch and someone robs your blue eyes white dragon
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    (Original post by somemightsay888)
    tfw you go to lunch and someone robs your blue eyes white dragon
    >be me
    >be 12
    >applying for new job
    >interviewer is 10/10 qt3.142
    >keep staring at her boobs
    >dont get job
    >mum kicks me out of house
    >all I have left is bloo eyes
    >get rlly horny
    >fap to bloo eyes
    >arrested for bestialty
    >pray to god day befor trial
    >judge is john cena
    >my defence barrister is Randy Orton
    >cena gets rkod
    >mfw i need to stop doing shr00mz
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    Trying to get them into your state of mind regarding going out and doing stuff is likely to alienate them and make social living conditions awkward.

    No-one is wrong in this situation, you've just got a different approach to socialising than they do. Trying to push them out of their comfort zone, however, is wrong. By all means ask them if they want to go out, but pressuring them into doing so just to combat your own boredom is selfish.

    Some people go out on a regular basis. Others prefer not to. "Don't people prefer to do x?" isn't really a valid way of looking at it due to that.

    Go to the pub. Meet people. Have fun. Get contact details. Contact them when you want to go out. Repeat ad nauseam. I'm an introvert myself and yet somehow I know my way around this better than you do
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    (Original post by smallsmall22)
    Hey, so I am at university in London, I didn't get 'official' university accommodation and ended up renting a 3 bedroom house with two others. The house itself is in a great location and is pretty nice for the price.

    My issue is that the other two people I am sharing with are not my type of people at all, incredibly shy, quiet and reserved, believe me I have tried with them.

    What makes this worse is that I am not at a campus uni, I can't just pop in to another halls/hub of students. it seems everyone who is going out is going out with flatmates, I don't know a single person so far.

    I know that it is only early doors, I am outgoing, on a big course and I love to play tennis so I will probably make friends somewhere a long the line, but with the uni layed out as it is, it seems unlikely I will ever have a proper group to go out to student nights or to pop to the pub with, as people are scattered all across central London.

    Is this just me being stupid? Do people actually regularly go out with coursemates/ society people? And what would you recommend you do about my situation?

    Cheers.
    Being shy is NOT the same as being introverted!

    Being an introvert means you might prefer a small group of friends and not be outgoing. That is NOT the same as being shy! Many introverts have confidence, but see no joy in partying like barbarians
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    Ah that's peak fam

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    (Original post by smallsmall22)
    Hey, so I am at university in London, I didn't get 'official' university accommodation and ended up renting a 3 bedroom house with two others. The house itself is in a great location and is pretty nice for the price.

    My issue is that the other two people I am sharing with are not my type of people at all, incredibly shy, quiet and reserved, believe me I have tried with them.

    What makes this worse is that I am not at a campus uni, I can't just pop in to another halls/hub of students. it seems everyone who is going out is going out with flatmates, I don't know a single person so far.

    I know that it is only early doors, I am outgoing, on a big course and I love to play tennis so I will probably make friends somewhere a long the line, but with the uni layed out as it is, it seems unlikely I will ever have a proper group to go out to student nights or to pop to the pub with, as people are scattered all across central London.

    Is this just me being stupid? Do people actually regularly go out with coursemates/ society people? And what would you recommend you do about my situation?

    Cheers.
    some people do make friends on their course, especially when its a science or medicine course with high contact hours. It's worth asking people if you can join them for the freshers events, explain your housemates aren't up for going out and if they are half decent they will say yes atm, people generally don't find it weird during freshers. But otherwise tennis should be a good way to make friends, if you are at UCL I know from a friend that sports night (wed night), where all sports people gather in the pub and drink a lot, is very popular and its likely it happens at other unis as well.
 
 
 

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