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alcohol problem?
Hello, basically I am a bit worried about the amount of alcohol I have been drinking over the few years or so and would like to know:
1) Whether you think the amount is normal for a teenage girl
2) If you think I should cut down
3) How I can cut down/be more comfortable in myself so I don’t need to drink
I will try to make this as short and sweet as possible but basically I am a seventeen girl and quite a lively and chatty one usually but I often feel very self-conscious and nervous around new people or in social situations where I don’t know many people there. I even feel shy walking down the street by myself or buying things in shops. Anyway basically for the last three or so years I have been using alcohol as a sort of social lubricant and have started to feel that without it I cant go out and that I wont have fun unless I’ve been drinking. If a party is boring or awkward I will want to be drunk straight away to make it better instead of trying to improve the situation by talking or whatever. I seem to drink a lot more than most of my friends (although I think they are quite unusual) apart from maybe one friend but a lot of people consider her to be a bit off the rails. Also if I am going out after a bad day/week I will try to drink a large amount to feel better. When I say to myself ‘drink less tonight’ I get there and just want to get tipsy as quickly as possible so end up downing my wine very quickly and by the time I am tipsy loose all self control and just try to drink as much as possible.
Thing is though, I think maybe this could be normal and I am just being over-dramatic. I usually go out once a week on the weekend (sometimes twice) and get quite drunk. Is that ok do you think? It is not often to the extent that I am sick or anything although sometimes I am but usually I just forget a lot of my night or tell people things about myself I wouldn’t usually or pull people I wouldn’t usually. I am beginning to feel like a lot of people I know outside of my school only see me when I’m drunk and I’m embarrassed by that. I have never passed out drunkenly or had to have my stomach pumped or anything too serious.
Basically, I’m going to uni next year and I know I will be so scared in the first month or so and am worried that on the first night I will get off my face and make a fool out of myself and so make no new friends. How can I make sure this doesn’t happen? Please don’t say ‘just don’t drink’ because the pressure will just be so great in such a tense situation. Is there any technique I can use to have more confidence? Thank you in advance
1) Whether you think the amount is normal for a teenage girl
2) If you think I should cut down
3) How I can cut down/be more comfortable in myself so I don’t need to drink
I will try to make this as short and sweet as possible but basically I am a seventeen girl and quite a lively and chatty one usually but I often feel very self-conscious and nervous around new people or in social situations where I don’t know many people there. I even feel shy walking down the street by myself or buying things in shops. Anyway basically for the last three or so years I have been using alcohol as a sort of social lubricant and have started to feel that without it I cant go out and that I wont have fun unless I’ve been drinking. If a party is boring or awkward I will want to be drunk straight away to make it better instead of trying to improve the situation by talking or whatever. I seem to drink a lot more than most of my friends (although I think they are quite unusual) apart from maybe one friend but a lot of people consider her to be a bit off the rails. Also if I am going out after a bad day/week I will try to drink a large amount to feel better. When I say to myself ‘drink less tonight’ I get there and just want to get tipsy as quickly as possible so end up downing my wine very quickly and by the time I am tipsy loose all self control and just try to drink as much as possible.
Thing is though, I think maybe this could be normal and I am just being over-dramatic. I usually go out once a week on the weekend (sometimes twice) and get quite drunk. Is that ok do you think? It is not often to the extent that I am sick or anything although sometimes I am but usually I just forget a lot of my night or tell people things about myself I wouldn’t usually or pull people I wouldn’t usually. I am beginning to feel like a lot of people I know outside of my school only see me when I’m drunk and I’m embarrassed by that. I have never passed out drunkenly or had to have my stomach pumped or anything too serious.
Basically, I’m going to uni next year and I know I will be so scared in the first month or so and am worried that on the first night I will get off my face and make a fool out of myself and so make no new friends. How can I make sure this doesn’t happen? Please don’t say ‘just don’t drink’ because the pressure will just be so great in such a tense situation. Is there any technique I can use to have more confidence? Thank you in advance
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Well, from my experience you will fit in well at uni. But.. imo you drink too much. But then.. imo.. so do most students.. One night every 2 weeks is enough for me.. and it's only about 3 pints then..
Just get to actually vaguely know some people first.. don't just get pissed up with complete strangers.
Just get to actually vaguely know some people first.. don't just get pissed up with complete strangers.
At uni...everyone makes a tit out of themselves on the first night... I made the mistake of thinking I could match two irish lads for drinks *shudders*
As for the ammount you drink its not what health proffesionals recomend but it's never done me any harm.
If you do feel uncomfortable then cut down, have a drink then a coke and gradually cut down a bit
As for the ammount you drink its not what health proffesionals recomend but it's never done me any harm.
If you do feel uncomfortable then cut down, have a drink then a coke and gradually cut down a bit
I don't think you're particularly unusual, but it seems a bit sad (as in 
) that you need to drink to be sociable in certain situations. Perhaps you could go out to a non-drinking atmosphere (a club/society of some description?) and practise your social skills? Remember, people are human just like you
) that you need to drink to be sociable in certain situations. Perhaps you could go out to a non-drinking atmosphere (a club/society of some description?) and practise your social skills? Remember, people are human just like you 
Bubblebee
At uni...everyone makes a tit out of themselves on the first night... I made the mistake of thinking I could match two irish lads for drinks *shudders*
I hope I meet two Irish lads in a bar on my first night
OP: I think you drink as much as any other socially involved 17 year old, which is undoubtedly too much, but that's what being 17 is all about.
Thelfo
I hope I meet two Irish lads in a bar on my first night
OP: I think you drink as much as any other socially involved 17 year old, which is undoubtedly too much, but that's what being 17 is all about.
OP: I think you drink as much as any other socially involved 17 year old, which is undoubtedly too much, but that's what being 17 is all about.
nah, they are nothing but trouble. I know like 100 now and it makes for wild parties!
Reply 7
I drink a lot proberbly way to much, but then again i can hadly your drink. If it gets to the point wher eyou feel that you need a drink then thats when you know you need to stop. But other than that enjoy drinking its the last thing we can do legally without this nanny state talking it off us.
Reply 9
I generally drink about 10 pints a night, plus a few shots, make an ar5e out of myself but really don't care.
Reply 13
I don't know why people on the TSR think it's OK for underage drinkers to get pissed everynight. I'd be worried if an 18 yo or above did that! If it was once a weekend, then I would understand because of the experimenting, rebelling etc. That is normal, but you have a drinking problem. GOD! There is nothing more frustrating than people saying it's OK to do this! Aaaaargh! (End of rant)
Reply 16
I mean in general. There have been threads like this before and people still said it was OK when that person really did have a serious problem.
I apologise, I was a bit harsh there, but I still stand by my point.
I apologise, I was a bit harsh there, but I still stand by my point.
Reply 18
You don't drink too much.
Reply 19
Naomi C.
You don't drink too much.
most normal teenagers drink once a week, and uni students much more.
the fact that you acknowledge that you drink alot is a good sign. just make sure you dont go off the rails.
flying so high you even touch the sky...
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