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    It's the first week of freshers. I'm not the clubbing/partying kind of guy. I haven't made any real friends yet, although I've made several acquaintances. That's about it. I did this by approaching them, asking them about themselves, etc.

    I went to one party, but not much happened. The beer tasted horrible and I left. There was a film night on and I thought that would be more 'for me' but as soon as the film finished and people left, they already had their friendship groups (or atleast it seemed that way).

    It seems as if many people who go out partying have already made friends/friendship groups, whereas I haven't.

    In secondary school I never had a large group of friends, just a small tightly knit group.
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    (Original post by theperformer)
    It's the first week of freshers. I'm not the clubbing/partying kind of guy. I haven't made any real friends yet, although I've made several acquaintances. That's about it. I did this by approaching them, asking them about themselves, etc.

    I went to one party, but not much happened. The beer tasted horrible and I left. There was a film night on and I thought that would be more 'for me' but as soon as the film finished and people left, they already had their friendship groups (or atleast it seemed that way).

    It seems as if many people who go out partying have already made friends/friendship groups, whereas I haven't.

    In secondary school I never had a large group of friends, just a small tightly knit group.
    It only has been a week, there are three years of uni ahead of you and I am sure that you will find your own group of friends. Plus it's only freshers and the course hasn't even started yet, most people are just trying to get drunk and are not trying make close friends.
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    I would say that the best way to meet people and make friends is by joining societies/clubs at your University. Through things like this and through your course, you'll find it easier to interact with people who share the same interests with you and as you are likely to have more in common with them, you'll probably have a great deal more to talk about and to share!
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    (Original post by theperformer)
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    I (and many others) only really made 'best friends' during second year. In first year, there was just an overload of people to meet.. and it made sticking to a single group pretty hard. But it eventually settled.. people who gelled the best stuck together over all. Interesting how long-term it was!
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    (Original post by cole-slaw)
    To make friends, you go to the pub and drink beer and engage in conversation. You need to do this every day.
    I don't know what sort of friends you have then, as I don't drink or go to the pub but still have plenty of friends.

    At the end of the day, it's not about how many friends you have or how quickly you make them, its about finding those friends that have the genuine same interests as you, have fun with you (not just at the pub) and care about you


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    (Original post by Iwouldliketoknow)
    are people that open to make friends in 48 hours. cos i am not too sure- something tells me i wont like the peeps at my uni
    Of course they are. 90% of people at university are extremely friendly and will happily quickly form a friendship group with whoever is interested.

    You just have to go out and have a few beers and a chat with people. Exchange phone numbers and agree to do the same thing again the next night. Then they're your friends. It really is that easy.
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    (Original post by Iwouldliketoknow)
    what if all a diff race from u
    what difference would that make? British people aren't racist.
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    Drink vodka
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    It took me about 2 hours to make friends with all the people I am now friends with 2 years later.
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    (Original post by theperformer)
    It's the first week of freshers. I'm not the clubbing/partying kind of guy. I haven't made any real friends yet, although I've made several acquaintances. That's about it. I did this by approaching them, asking them about themselves, etc.

    I went to one party, but not much happened. The beer tasted horrible and I left. There was a film night on and I thought that would be more 'for me' but as soon as the film finished and people left, they already had their friendship groups (or atleast it seemed that way).

    It seems as if many people who go out partying have already made friends/friendship groups, whereas I haven't.

    In secondary school I never had a large group of friends, just a small tightly knit group.
    Try the Christian Union, they should have a weekly meeting in halls, or at some central meeting point. You will meet some proper classy people there.
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    (Original post by DiddyDec)
    It took me about 2 hours to make friends with all the people I am now friends with 2 years later.
    ...Really?
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    (Original post by Ekemini)
    Was that supposed to be English?
    was i talkin to u?
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    (Original post by vis break)
    was i talkin to u?
    No. But you are posting it on a public platform where other people will see it. I saw it. I asked if it was supposed to be English.
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    Well done Mods. Deleting 3 pages of a 4 page thread :lol:
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    (Original post by theperformer)
    It's the first week of freshers. I'm not the clubbing/partying kind of guy. I haven't made any real friends yet, although I've made several acquaintances. That's about it. I did this by approaching them, asking them about themselves, etc.

    I went to one party, but not much happened. The beer tasted horrible and I left. There was a film night on and I thought that would be more 'for me' but as soon as the film finished and people left, they already had their friendship groups (or atleast it seemed that way).

    It seems as if many people who go out partying have already made friends/friendship groups, whereas I haven't.

    In secondary school I never had a large group of friends, just a small tightly knit group.
    Freshers is filled with loads of different events, as it sounds like you've discovered. I'd suggest keep getting yourself out there and exploring and at the same time, keep doing what you are doing. Just approach people and ask them about themselves, get to know people and what not.

    I know it's crappy and it can be difficult but everybody is up for socialising, well, the majority are. I hope everything improves for you!
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    (Original post by JustGeorgeJ)
    Freshers is filled with loads of different events, as it sounds like you've discovered. I'd suggest keep getting yourself out there and exploring and at the same time, keep doing what you are doing. Just approach people and ask them about themselves, get to know people and what not.

    I know it's crappy and it can be difficult but everybody is up for socialising, well, the majority are. I hope everything improves for you!
    George, I am assuming you missed this thread before the other pages got deleted. But on behalf of the poster Cole-slaw, I would like to inform you, that you are 100% wrong.

    The only solution is drinking alcohol every night in the pub, or you will make no friends after the first 48 hours of freshers have passed. I am sure he will be along to clarify this shortly :yy:

    He certainly put me and a few other users in our place. We are living our lives wrong, unfortunately you appear to be aswell.
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    (Original post by cole-slaw)
    what difference would that make? British people aren't racist.
    Different background, different things in common. Most people befriend people they have things in common with. It's more a class thing than race.

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    (Original post by TwinnyP)
    George, I am assuming you missed this thread before the other pages got deleted. But on behalf of the poster Cole-slaw, I would like to inform you, that you are 100% wrong.

    The only solution is drinking alcohol every night in the pub, or you will make no friends after the first 48 hours of freshers have passed. I am sure he will be along to clarify this shortly :yy:

    He certainly put me and a few other users in our place. We are living our lives wrong, unfortunately you appear to be aswell.
    Haha, I definitely did miss all of this and well Jesus, is that so?
    Damn, I must be doing it all wrong! I'm in my second year but it's fantastic to know I did it all wrong last year, this friends I have now musn't be real friends if I didn't make them through drinking and what not! Haha!
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    (Original post by JustGeorgeJ)
    Haha, I definitely did miss all of this and well Jesus, is that so?
    Damn, I must be doing it all wrong! I'm in my second year but it's fantastic to know I did it all wrong last year, this friends I have now musn't be real friends if I didn't make them through drinking and what not! Haha!
    I am sorry, but I am going to have to take your fake friends, and you illegitimate first year away from you. Doesn't count without the alcohol
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    (Original post by theperformer)
    ...Really?
    Yeah really.They were the people I lived with on Ground Floor. I got to uni bought some beer and went room to room offering free beer and cider to anyone who would come out of their room and socialise.

    It got pretty bad where there was about 10 of us sitting in the corridor at lunch time getting drunk while others where still coming in with their parents.

    To be honest I met most of my other friends with 3 methods;

    1. Drinking - I met a lot of people on SU nights and nights out.
    2. Smoking - Smoking is a great way of talking to strangers and sparking up conversation simply because you share the interest of smoking, especially outside clubs and bars because it is the only place quiet enough to talk.
    3. The Student Union - I became an exec of the student union in a very small university, this meant I was a very recognisable face around campus and in town.

    I never joined any societies or sports teams, but apparently they are a good way of making friends.
 
 
 
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