Increasing my confidence

Basically i am naturally a quiet person, and i do find it difficult making conversation with people. Teachers my whole life have always said in school reports etc that i'm "very quiet" blah blah blah. Two of my aquaintences have also said "I hate people who are quiet - they are so boring". I don't have many friends but i'm beginning to think that the fact i'm quiet etc is preventing me from having as many friends as i could have. Since i started my part-time job about 18 months ao, my confidence has increased, but i've come to realaise that it is only certian people i'm not confident around. I'm 18 and am fine around adults. However, its more difficult with people my age. I'm female and i find i get on better with boys the i do girls. Boys i can be myself in front of but girls i find it more difficult to be myself around.

Anyone else here feel like this?

Does anyone know what i can do to improve my confidence and self-esteem?

Reply 1

lodzinski

14

something i know has been used as tactic to gain confidence when talking to the opposite sex (something I used to have quite big problems with) is to go to a shopping centre with a friend (one you can trust not to blab), and say 'hi' and smile to the type of people you usually have trouble approaching.

Reply 2

Hev456

11

Seriously, you're me to a tee. I tend to get on better with boys as well and much prefer talking to them, but for me its because I have more in common with boys due to the fact that i'm not fashion conscious and going on about my foundation (which i don't wear) all the time. I'm also very quiet and my school report's have always said 'needs to speak up more'.

But I see it differently to you, I'm quiet and I don't mind - everyone's different and you're not going to be everyone's best friend anyway. Just talk to the people you're talking to at the moment, maybe try and figure out why you're more insecure around girls (or maybe you just don't have anything in common with girls but do with boys so the conversation wains a little?) and work on the reason.

Reply 3

hotfuzz

lodzinski

something i know has been used as tactic to gain confidence when talking to the opposite sex (something I used to have quite big problems with) is to go to a shopping centre with a friend (one you can trust not to blab), and say 'hi' and smile to the type of people you usually have trouble approaching.

ditto

Reply 4

goodmen

13

or

just get drunk talk to loads of people.

when you get off with loads of girls after a few months you have no trouble with confidence at all when your sober

Reply 5

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sTe\/o

16

She never said she was a lesbian... or is this why you suggested the copious amounts of alcohol?

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