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university counselling services

has anyone ever had to go to these before?

i've got an appointment to try and sort out my alcoholism, head, drug taking and general crap but i was wondering if someone can tell me what to expect because i'm pretty worried about it.

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Anonymous #2

I went to counselling services in my uni on two separate occasions and the result was very different each time.
The first time was to deal with very old issues surrounding abuse that were coming to the surface. I just needed to work through them with someone impartial. The woman I saw was useless. Worse than useless, she made very unhelpful comments and did more harm than good. One thing to remember is that counsellor is not there to judge you or to diagnose anything about you so one that starts making comments about your personality (my counsellor said I was "too trusting" which made me feel responsible for the abuse that had happened) is not doing their job properly and you need to ask for someone different if this happens.
The second time I went I saw someone different. I went back because the old issues were still a problem and new ones had come up. The new counsellor was excellent -she really listened to me and was a huge huge help.
As long as the counsellor is a good one there's nothing to worry about. He or she should make you feel comfortable and unjudged, they should listen and they should also go in depth into what you are saying without guiding you towards a particular way of thinking.
Give your counsellor a chance but if you're not happy after a couple of sessions move on - it's your right to and it's common that counsellor and client don't click so the service won't get annoyed or anything
You've taken a really good step so good luck

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Anonymous #3

The one at mine was useless, had to wait like 8 weeks after making an appointment n only after i ended up in hospital i was seen. He was totally useless, made me even more insecure and looked down on my situation.

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fairycakes

12

hey
i went to the uni conselling service, and i thoght it was useless cos i was looking for someone to acutlaly help and tell me what to do.
all they do at counselling is listen. it just made me think my problems were stupid and made me push them under the carpet. i'm ok at the moment, cos i just try not to think about it, or pretend that it is what i really want, when really i'm not sure how far i've actually come.
hope i've helped some
good luck
xxxxx

Reply 4

Anonymous #4

I don't think that no matter how much I needed it, and I think I have on some occasions, I could just open up entirely to some stranger sat infront of me. I mean I can hardly talk to my best friend about some of my issues. I think TSR has helped alot actually, to read about people with similar issues and make sure you are not alone. Granted there are some ***** on the forums but most are helpful and will tell you what you *need* to hear, or offer sympathy if that is what you require.

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Anonymous #5

I had an awful counsellor at Univ. I've since dropped out since largely because of the problems I was hoping to overcome with her, though I probably would have even if she was excellent...

Now I'm back I'm going private to see a psychiatrist and psychologist.

Reply 6

dani_88

14

My experience with a uni counsellor was great :smile:

She really explained stuff to me, wasn't patronising, mostly let me talk etc..but she knew the science behind it all too and gave me lots of tips and advice for overcoming my problems.. :smile:

Obviously, not all universities are spot on..but it's worth giving it a shot - they may be good! Good luck! :smile:

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

erm...thanks for the answers. so basically i just sit there and talk and they listen, possibly (depending on uni apparently) offering advice? I don't see how talking will solve anything, i can talk to myself (a mate and tutor told me to go).... :frown:

Reply 8

fairycakes

12

well exactly...but actually, sometimes if they feel lik eu need extra help they can't provide, they will refer u.
u should at least try it. xxxxx

Reply 9

danni_bella

17

It depends on the person, if you're lucky, that's great. If not, :frown:

I was pretty lucky my councellor was great and helped me through my family issues. If you find a good councellor, try to stick with him/her.

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Anonymous #6

Anonymous

The one at mine was useless, had to wait like 8 weeks after making an appointment n only after i ended up in hospital i was seen. He was totally useless, made me even more insecure and looked down on my situation.

You see with me, even after I ended up in hospital for a bit by almost dying, I was still put on a waiting list for the counsellor, and wasn't considered as what I was dealing with as being important ffs.

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