Was does it take to be in with the popular crowd?

People say that all this popular and loser stuff stops after high school but even at 21 Ive still noticed that the loud witty girls hang out together and the very quiet, not very well dressed (like me) are together lol. Maybe it stops at a later age because the 'popular' girls tend to ignore me even when I try to make friends so I always end up with the very quiet people. This isn't bad but other people tend to have a lot more fun and want to go out more than my friends, I have no one to go clubbing with. If anyone can reword this so it sounds less childish then do so lol!

Reply 1

LipGloss

So tell us why you wanna be in the popular crowd...

Reply 2

sebbie

15

because they have more fun obviously!

Reply 3

UnspokenTruth

alio~

If anyone can reword this so it sounds less childish then do so lol!

People say that all this popular and loser stuff stops after high school but even at 21 Ive still noticed that the loud witty girls hang out together and the very quiet, not very well dressed (like me) are together lol. Maybe it stops at a later age because the 'popular' girls tend to ignore me even when I try to make friends so I always end up with the very quiet people. This isn't bad but other people tend to have a lot more fun and want to go out more than my friends, I have no one to go clubbing with. If anyone can reword this so it sounds less childish then do so lol!

:biggrin:

Reply 4

alio~

OP

9

UnspokenTruth

People say that all this popular and loser stuff stops after high school but even at 21 Ive still noticed that the loud witty girls hang out together and the very quiet, not very well dressed (like me) are together lol. Maybe it stops at a later age because the 'popular' girls tend to ignore me even when I try to make friends so I always end up with the very quiet people. This isn't bad but other people tend to have a lot more fun and want to go out more than my friends, I have no one to go clubbing with. If anyone can reword this so it sounds less childish then do so lol!

:biggrin:

Thanks, I should have just had the title lol!

Reply 5

ohyeahoh

3

Like attracts like...

Confidant people gravitate towards the same?

Reply 6

Riddy

what happened to opposites attract

Reply 7

Dirk666

Thats rubbish. Most friendships are made throught situations and thought common hobbies. All my friends i have met throught my intrestes in Football, rugby, clubbing and drinking. Plus my lose m8s(most of which ive known since 5/6 bar one) are all into the same sort of things as i am. I wouldnt for example hang put with the "indy kids" in my school just beacause i dont thave much in common with them, while if one of them played football i would see them that way.

All in all the most loud extravoted people will stick toghter, and make similar (personaility and intrest wise friends) just make friends with the people you like not who u think is "popular" as you wont relli be at home with them.

Reply 8

mangomaz

14

They say popular/loser stuff stops but only in the sense that people stop caring/accept their 'place' I think (not that I'm saying this is ok its just an observation).

I'm going to give cliche advice and tell you to be yourself. People can normally tell if you're just talking to them to try and get them to like you. And also, make an effort to meet new people (while being yourself) who are into what you're into/want to be into. And you say you're not very well dressed - can you not change that? It doesnt have to cost a bomb. Not saying its important to dress well but if you're confident in yourself and how you look it really comes accross.

Ooh and go raving/clubbing to some harder/less commercial genres of music noone cares if you're cool or not everyone is just doing their own thing. And its so much fun :biggrin:

It didnt boost my confidence directly but just being able to go out and do what I wanted without giving a **** whether I looked good or not really freshens your outlook on life. And in doing so I realised I actually looked rather good haha.

Oh and start smoking. People will automatically think you're cool.

Reply 9

hotfuzz

Why be in the popular crowd? I never was at school and still had a great time. You don't need to be popular to do that. Just go out and meet more people if you're fed up with the crowd your in.

Reply 10

lucho22

13

People in the "popular crowd" are generally a bunch of superficial narcisists with nothing but platitudes and drivel to offer to a conversation.. I most definitely would never have any desire to be with such an uninteresting crowd - why suffer fools?

Reply 11

wackysparkle

14

well for me - that stopped now - i'm at uni - where believe it or not - the clothes you wear and stuff like that don't' really matter that much anymore

Reply 12

thesuperficial

6

alio~

very quiet, not very well dressed (like me)

get some dress sense? look at what the people you want to be like are wearing and follow their style (FOLLOW, NOT COPY)..work on being more confident, again look at the people you admire and decide if you want your traits to be like theirs? at the end of the day, noone wants to be friends with someone who is very quiet and not very well dressed. sorry if thats harsh but its true.

Reply 13

horrorboy

thesuperficial

get some dress sense? look at what the people you want to be like are wearing and follow their style (FOLLOW, NOT COPY)..work on being more confident, again look at the people you admire and decide if you want your traits to be like theirs? at the end of the day, noone wants to be friends with someone who is very quiet and not very well dressed. sorry if thats harsh but its true.

Why not? Id be friends with someone quiet and shy.

Reply 14

Carl

14

Me too. Don't change who you are to please others. That's a cop-out.

Reply 15

thesuperficial

6

i'm sure you're both well in with the 'popular' 21 year olds...
and the end of the day, if someone isn't happy with who they are at the moment, why shouldn't they change themselves a bit to fit in? just because you make yourself slightly different in order to make friends doesnt mean you loose what is truly 'you'.

and just because a few people would choose to be friends with someone who is quiet and shy doesnt mean that most people would.

Reply 16

goodmen

13

the problem is the 'well dressed' attractive people even if they go to crap uni's get crap degrees are more succesful.

Basically be like me fashion > style > substance.

seriously just get some nice clothes a nice face and your set.

it doesnt matter if ur good at maths no one cares in this world

Reply 17

goodmen

13

wackysparkle

well for me - that stopped now - i'm at uni - where believe it or not - the clothes you wear and stuff like that don't' really matter that much anymore

naive 'mature'

Reply 18

Carl

14

thesuperficial

i'm sure you're both well in with the 'popular' 21 year olds...
and the end of the day, if someone isn't happy with who they are at the moment, why shouldn't they change themselves a bit to fit in? just because you make yourself slightly different in order to make friends doesnt mean you loose what is truly 'you'.

and just because a few people would choose to be friends with someone who is quiet and shy doesnt mean that most people would.

I couldn't give a **** about the "popular" people. I find them vacuous and boring. I dress how I feel comfortable, smartly when I need to, and hang out with people who interest me. It's all well and good dressing like a plastic mannequin, but if you have the personality to match then frankly you're making an effort for nothing because you won't hold my attention for more than a few minutes.

Making a few changes to fit in: fine. Changing who you are to please others: desperate, and ultimately you'll be even less happy than you were when you started.

Reply 19

SsEe

13

lucho22

People in the "popular crowd" are generally a bunch of superficial narcisists with nothing but platitudes and drivel to offer to a conversation.. I most definitely would never have any desire to be with such an uninteresting crowd - why suffer fools?

Sadly, people like this make up about 99% of the student population here. The only reason I'd want to be with that crowd is to have more fun. But then I'd be just as bad as them by only wanting to know people I could profit from.

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