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    I hate it so much I go everyday I am never late I always do my homework I always feel unwanted no one ever wants to eat lunch with me I eat with my twin no one ever values what I have to say I never had friends there are lots of kids who pick on me because I want to be a gastroenterologist and I like learning and I like running to class. I hate it when kids pick on me I tell the teachers but I don't think they are listening I am scared to go home in case I walk into someone who is unkind I told the teachers they dealt with it I had no trouble for couple months but now I am scared I will get bullied again because today I walked into this person and he pushed me on purpose.

    I hate it when no one ever wants me around I always have good intentions I tell people things who go to bed late "that wasn't very responsible as you need 9 hours of sleep every night" I say such things in a caring way with best intentions as it is unhealthy not getting enough sleep. I don't want to go to school anymore I want to succeed and go to my dream university this is the only reason I come to school otherwise I wouldn't get out of bed I don't think that this is enough anymore to make me want to come to school. What should I do?
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    You sound like an amazing person! I'd be friends with you I think you should approach someone who seems like they will speak to you. I think that once you start being more confident you'll make plenty of friends. I am here if you want to talk. School won't last for long anyway. University will be just round the corner, be strong!
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    Whilst you may suffer now, you are clearly working hard and have genuine ambitions. Work hard, be successful and then you can laugh at the haters.

    Watch this video for inspiration: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uYXNOgyncFA
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    (Original post by Maria1812)
    I hate it so much I go everyday I am never late I always do my homework I always feel unwanted no one ever wants to eat lunch with me I eat with my twin no one ever values what I have to say I never had friends there are lots of kids who pick on me because I want to be a gastroenterologist and I like learning and I like running to class. I hate it when kids pick on me I tell the teachers but I don't think they are listening I am scared to go home in case I walk into someone who is unkind I told the teachers they dealt with it I had no trouble for couple months but now I am scared I will get bullied again because today I walked into this person and he pushed me on purpose.

    I hate it when no one ever wants me around I always have good intentions I tell people things who go to bed late "that wasn't very responsible as you need 9 hours of sleep every night" I say such things in a caring way with best intentions as it is unhealthy not getting enough sleep. I don't want to go to school anymore I want to succeed and go to my dream university this is the only reason I come to school otherwise I wouldn't get out of bed I don't think that this is enough anymore to make me want to come to school. What should I do?
    Well you got a good thing going for yourself, my only recommendation is wait... wait out this war and one day you can just reap the rewards and laugh at everyone that picked on you because you'll have the last laugh.

    There was a guy I knew who was in a situation like you who got made fun of by the chavs but now we're 21 and those guys are on the dole and that kid is at Cambridge ready to take over the world.

    Savali..... means patience
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    How many more of these are you going to make? (for the record, it appeared in my 'Latest discussions' bar on the right.)

    (Original post by Maria1812)
    I hate it so much I go everyday I am never late I always do my homework I always feel unwanted no one ever wants to eat lunch with me I eat with my twin no one ever values what I have to say I never had friends there are lots of kids who pick on me because I want to be a gastroenterologist
    Well, then don't tell them about gastroenterology. Hate to say it, but gastroenterology isn't really a glamorous job and people will make fun of it if they can. As for not having anybody to eat lunch with, it's not really a problem. I ate my lunch by myself on a park bench near my sixth form (not sure if you're allowed to do that) for the whole two years.

    By the way, didn't you say you didn't like socialising? If that's the case, it shouldn't really matter whether anybody eats lunch with you or not.

    I like learning and I like running to class. I hate it when kids pick on me I tell the teachers but I don't think they are listening I am scared to go home in case I walk into someone who is unkind I told the teachers they dealt with it I had no trouble for couple months but now I am scared I will get bullied again because today I walked into this person and he pushed me on purpose.
    Just laugh it off. Getting worked up about being pushed on purpose is pretty childish and, if you protest about it too much, you'll only get bullied further. That's the harsh reality of bullying.

    I hate it when no one ever wants me around I always have good intentions I tell people things who go to bed late "that wasn't very responsible as you need 9 hours of sleep every night" I say such things in a caring way with best intentions as it is unhealthy not getting enough sleep.
    To be honest, if anybody said things like that to me, I'd tell them to f*ck off and mind their own business. You may see it as caring, but it's a right pain in the ass to be patronised by somebody trying to dictate what you can and can't do. In addition, you're assuming that everyone needs 9 hours of sleep; they don't. Some people are more than happy with six hours, others need close to 10 hours or more. Don't lecture people about their health, it's annoying.

    I don't want to go to school anymore I want to succeed and go to my dream university this is the only reason I come to school otherwise I wouldn't get out of bed I don't think that this is enough anymore to make me want to come to school. What should I do?
    Don't go to school? You've made a hundred threads about this so you should know by now. Either go to school, even if it's a chore, and work hard or don't go to school, stay at home and work hard. You have to decide what's more important to you: growing up and getting into some prestigious university for your brownie points or behaving like a child about things that can be laughed off.

    I used to have similar problems but they all but evaporated when I stopped taking myself so seriously and developed a sense of humour. I suggest you do the same.
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    How many more of these are you going to make? (for the record, it appeared in my 'Latest discussions' bar on the right.)



    Well, then don't tell them about gastroenterology. Hate to say it, but gastroenterology isn't really a glamorous job and people will make fun of it if they can. As for not having anybody to eat lunch with, it's not really a problem. I ate my lunch by myself on a park bench near my sixth form (not sure if you're allowed to do that) for the whole two years.

    By the way, didn't you say you didn't like socialising? If that's the case, it shouldn't really matter whether anybody eats lunch with you or not.



    Just laugh it off. Getting worked up about being pushed on purpose is pretty childish and, if you protest about it too much, you'll only get bullied further. That's the harsh reality of bullying.



    To be honest, if anybody said things like that to me, I'd tell them to f*ck off and mind their own business. You may see it as caring, but it's a right pain in the ass to be patronised by somebody trying to dictate what you can and can't do. In addition, you're assuming that everyone needs 9 hours of sleep; they don't. Some people are more than happy with six hours, others need close to 10 hours or more. Don't lecture people about their health, it's annoying.



    Don't go to school? You've made a hundred threads about this so you should know by now. Either go to school, even if it's a chore, and work hard or don't go to school, stay at home and work hard. You have to decide what's more important to you: growing up and getting into some prestigious university for your brownie points or behaving like a child about things that can be laughed off.

    I used to have similar problems but they all but evaporated when I stopped taking myself so seriously and developed a sense of humour. I suggest you do the same.
    I wish there would be someone I know who has the same good intentions as I and is caring I want to go to an elite university but I somedays find it really hard not the learning side of things but being around others I like to socialise a bit but then there is so many unkind people.They will laugh now about my career choice but when they will have colon cancer or a tumour in the stomach they won't be laughing because if no one wanted to be a gastroenterologist then many people wouldn't get help with their problems with digestion for example.I will go to school but who wants to come to a place where they are mocked and feel unwanted and under appreciated?You probably don't understand
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    Well you got a good thing going for yourself, my only recommendation is wait... wait out this war and one day you can just reap the rewards and laugh at everyone that picked on you because you'll have the last laugh.

    There was a guy I knew who was in a situation like you who got made fun of by the chavs but now we're 21 and those guys are on the dole and that kid is at Cambridge ready to take over the world.

    Savali..... means patience
    I guess I will have to do that karma will punish thank you this gave me a bit more motivation.
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    (Original post by Maria1812)
    I wish there would be someone I know who has the same good intentions as I and is caring I want to go to an elite university but I somedays find it really hard not the learning side of things but being around others I like to socialise a bit but then there is so many unkind people.They will laugh now about my career choice but when they will have colon cancer or a tumour in the stomach they won't be laughing because if no one wanted to be a gastroenterologist then many people wouldn't get help with their problems with digestion for example.I will go to school but who wants to come to a place where they are mocked and feel unwanted and under appreciated?You probably don't understand
    I assure you that I do understand. You sound a bit like me when I was maybe five or six years old but, then again, you're 14 so you should know better. It honestly sounds like a case of you needing to be a bit more mature and loosening up a little.

    Contrary to what you think, not every action that people take has a defined outcome in their minds. People don't think about a joke in terms of 'but what if I need somebody from that profession when I'm older?' - if they had to do that with every joke, life would be very dull indeed. I maintain that it is you who needs to develop a sense of humour and stop taking yourself so seriously. Learning to laugh at oneself is a crucial skill and one that you seem to lack. They're just having a good time and won't remember jokes like that when they're older so if you think they're going to be burning with searing hot regret 30 years from now when they get bowel cancer, you're wrong.

    It's not so much the case that other people are 'unkind' as it is the case that you're living in your own little bubble and expect others to change for you. These jokes only sound unkind because that's how you take them; laugh along and make a joke in return and watch what happens. They will immediately like you a little more than if you do what it sounds like you do and lash out by calling them 'unkind' or 'mean' or 'bullies' - that's something people only do at a much younger age than you are now and people don't have much patience for immaturity, unfortunately. And this is true in every walk of life. Go to a university and watch how much enthusiasm final year students have for first year students and their relatively immature behaviour (since people tend to go overboard with their new independence).

    Of course, the obsession with 'elite' universities is a problem in itself that will make you very sad indeed if you don't make it but there we go. Not every problem can be helped by advice on the Internet.
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    I assure you that I do understand. You sound a bit like me when I was maybe five or six years old but, then again, you're 14 so you should know better. It honestly sounds like a case of you needing to be a bit more mature and loosening up a little.

    Contrary to what you think, not every action that people take has a defined outcome in their minds. People don't think about a joke in terms of 'but what if I need somebody from that profession when I'm older?' - if they had to do that with every joke, life would be very dull indeed. I maintain that it is you who needs to develop a sense of humour and stop taking yourself so seriously. Learning to laugh at oneself is a crucial skill and one that you seem to lack. They're just having a good time and won't remember jokes like that when they're older so if you think they're going to be burning with searing hot regret 30 years from now when they get bowel cancer, you're wrong.

    It's not so much the case that other people are 'unkind' as it is the case that you're living in your own little bubble and expect others to change for you. These jokes only sound unkind because that's how you take them; laugh along and make a joke in return and watch what happens. They will immediately like you a little more than if you do what it sounds like you do and lash out by calling them 'unkind' or 'mean' or 'bullies' - that's something people only do at a much younger age than you are now and people don't have much patience for immaturity, unfortunately. And this is true in every walk of life. Go to a university and watch how much enthusiasm final year students have for first year students and their relatively immature behaviour (since people tend to go overboard with their new independence).

    Of course, the obsession with 'elite' universities is a problem in itself that will make you very sad indeed if you don't make it but there we go. Not every problem can be helped by advice on the Internet.
    I can't laugh I can't smile I just simply can't make that action how would you feel if someone who threatened to attack you is that not bullying? I am slightly childish I can't help it I very few people know my childish personality at school I am not childish I need to succeed I have no choice I either succeed or I fail I want to make myself proud I have only one life I want to succeed the most I can. I know not everything can be solved on the internet but I don't have anyone to talk to I talk to my mum but I find it hard to say things that upset me I prefer writing it. I don't joke I sometimes do but in my language as I don't find english jokes funny at all.
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    I can't laugh I can't smile I just simply can't make that action how would you feel if someone who threatened to attack you is that not bullying?
    Well, then there's really no solution to this. Social interactions are give and take. You can't expect other people to like you, eat lunch with you, be friends with you and do all that when you can't even bother yourself with smiling every now and then. It just won't happen, sorry. Unless your inability to smile and laugh is the product of a disability, I can't find any sympathy for that.

    The 'threatened to attack you' thing is a new thing that you didn't mention in your first post so I can't be expected to have adjusted my replies accordingly. And no, threatening to 'attack' is not bullying. To be brutally honest with you, I'd say you sound very childish and expect too much from people in return for nothing. If you can't take a joke, can't smile, can't laugh, then, well, people can't be your friends. The rest of the world won't change to accommodate one person.

    I am slightly childish I can't help it I very few people know my childish personality at school I am not childish I need to succeed I have no choice I either succeed or I fail I want to make myself proud I have only one life I want to succeed the most I can.
    You've contradicted yourself in the same sentence... Personally, I think you are very childish. There's no shame in admitting that and it's no insult so don't get too defensive about it. We all had personalities like that once but we've grown out of them - and you need to do so as well if you expect all the things you're complaining about not having such as friends, lunch buddies and so on.

    Your definition of success is a flawed one and is going to make you miserable if you don't get into so-called 'elite universities.' Although you said on the other thread that you don't care about being miserable so I really don't know how to help you. If you don't care about being miserable, then why do you make these threads complaining about being miserable? It's not an insult, I'm genuinely confused about this.

    I know not everything can be solved on the internet but I don't have anyone to talk to I talk to my mum but I find it hard to say things that upset me I prefer writing it. I don't joke I sometimes do but in my language as I don't find english jokes funny at all.
    What is your language? That might be one reason you get picked on, if you can't seem to partake in English jokes. Just loosen up, take yourself less seriously, and it will all be fine.

    P.S. Your writing is pretty bad so you might as well talk about it.
 
 
 
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