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I don't feel as if I'm "inside myself"

I don't really know how to explain this, but a lot of the time I feel as if I'm sort of outside myself. I'll be walking along, talking to a friend, and suddenly I can almost see myself walking along, talking to a friend, but I don't actually feel as if I'm there. It's as if the part of my mind which is not talking to a friend suddenly has heightened awareness, and it's a really odd and scary feeling. When I was walking through a shop one time, suddenly everything became really, really detailed and yet at the same time everything was hardly there, as if everything was just a dream.

Another time - I was recently in France, in a place I didn't know, and my friend and I had gone to a late night film at the cinema. When we came out it was really late and everything went all funny - it was as if it took me ages to come back to reality. And even though we were walking along roads and streets going back to our apartment, it felt to me almost as if I was just walking across my bedroom. It's the only way I can think of to describe it - as if the roads weren't really there, weren't really real. If my friend hadn't been there I don't know how I would have got back to the appartment, which really scares me.

I know it sounds really bizarre, but it's a really odd feeling, and I feel unsafe walking in places I don't know in case I suddenly "find myself" walking there and don't know why I'm there. It seems to happen generally when I'm quite tired, or over-stimulated. Does this sort of "dream-like" feeling happen to anyone else? Or am I going mad?

Please help :frown:

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Reply 1

If this is totally genuine then see a GP. (My word... we say that a lot!)

I've heard of something similar before. I'm going to look it up!

Reply 2

Oh dear that can't be nice. It sounds like it sways between your eyes (everything becoming really detailed) and your concentration :s-smilie: I've never experienced this myself, but it would worry me too. Do you have a very active imagination? Maybe when you are overtired your brain just kicks into overdrive and makes you imagine strange things? All I could suggest is to make sure you get plenty of sleep and not stress yourself.

I don't know if its possible that its a symptom of something such as epilepsy. I mean not being fully aware of your surroundings and 'waking up' somewhere sounds almost like sleepwalking or even fitting. Are you diabetic or anything? Possibly blood sugar levels? But I'm just plucking suggestions out of the air here. Sorry I can't be more help :frown:

Reply 3

I thought that was normal...

I sometimes get a really heightened sense of awareness of things. Things sudenly become hugely detailed, and yet somehow distant... it's an odd feeling, but I presumed it was something that happens to everyone. I doubt it's anything to worry about.

Reply 4

Sometimes I see things like I see them for the first time and they look really alien. Like the other day I looked at the green chair in my room and it just looked like the oddest construction ever! But there is a name for that, something like 'Deja Vu' but another one (at least that is what Catch-22 led me to believe...) But I guess its not really the same thing. But I know that is normal.

Reply 5

I think this is called an out of body experience. I'm not totally sure what causes it but as someone has already said, you should probably see a professional pronto because if you do end up having an experience like this in an unfamiliar place it could be pretty dangerous.

Reply 6

ShinyApple
If this is totally genuine then see a GP. (My word... we say that a lot!)

I've heard of something similar before. I'm going to look it up!

Yes, I can assure you that this is a totally geniune feeling - I'm just not very good at describing it.

Reply 7

pinkpinkuk
Oh dear that can't be nice. It sounds like it sways between your eyes (everything becoming really detailed) and your concentration :s-smilie: I've never experienced this myself, but it would worry me too. Do you have a very active imagination? Maybe when you are overtired your brain just kicks into overdrive and makes you imagine strange things? All I could suggest is to make sure you get plenty of sleep and not stress yourself.

I don't know if its possible that its a symptom of something such as epilepsy. I mean not being fully aware of your surroundings and 'waking up' somewhere sounds almost like sleepwalking or even fitting. Are you diabetic or anything? Possibly blood sugar levels? But I'm just plucking suggestions out of the air here. Sorry I can't be more help :frown:

I do have an active imagination, it's true...I suppose it might be a biological problem (I hadn't really thought about that!). I don't think I'm a diabetic, though I do have problems with feeling dizzy and having headaches when I'm tired.

Reply 8

Anonymous
I thought that was normal...

I sometimes get a really heightened sense of awareness of things. Things sudenly become hugely detailed, and yet somehow distant... it's an odd feeling, but I presumed it was something that happens to everyone. I doubt it's anything to worry about.

Oh phew! Yes, that's exactly how I would describe the feeling. Do you get it when you're tired too?

Reply 9

Jennybean
I think this is called an out of body experience. I'm not totally sure what causes it but as someone has already said, you should probably see a professional pronto because if you do end up having an experience like this in an unfamiliar place it could be pretty dangerous.

Yes, that's what it feels like, an "out of body experience". I'm worried about it because it could be dangerous, but at the same time I'm unwilling to make a huge fuss and bother about it because it seems so trivial - and also I'm worried about people telling me that I'm mad and have to have mental healthcare. I know it's silly :frown:

Reply 10

I used to get this a lot when I was younger, it's a horrible feeling. I remember everything either used to seem to be happening either really slowly or quickly; it was difficult to process things. It tended to happen when I was poorly or run-down.
I remember talking to my Mum about it and she put it down to 'hormones'. I was around 12/13 at the time, so I guess she could have been right. I take it you're older than this?
Thankfully, I've grown out of it. It really isn't very nice, but I don't think there's a big threat of you needing mental healthcare.

Reply 11

I get that "dream feeling" all the time. I think it helps me cope sometimes. I think it's a good thing.

Reply 12

Loochery
I used to get this a lot when I was younger, it's a horrible feeling. I remember everything either used to seem to be happening either really slowly or quickly; it was difficult to process things. It tended to happen when I was poorly or run-down.
I remember talking to my Mum about it and she put it down to 'hormones'. I was around 12/13 at the time, so I guess she could have been right. I take it you're older than this?

Yes, I'm 18, though I can remember having experiences like this for about 10 or 11 years. It's getting more and more frequent now.

Loochery
Thankfully, I've grown out of it. It really isn't very nice, but I don't think there's a big threat of you needing mental healthcare.

So you don't think I'm going mad? I know it's silly to ask.

Reply 13

Anonymous
Yes, I'm 18, though I can remember having experiences like this for about 10 or 11 years. It's getting more and more frequent now.


So you don't think I'm going mad? I know it's silly to ask.


I still get the odd 'dream-like' feeling from time to time, although it's nothing like it was. I don't think you're going mad, although if it's starting to affect your life, maybe it's worth going to see someone? Just an idea.
It's not like you're alone in this :redface:

Reply 14

i get that too sometimes... i just put it down to a really really bad concentration. i know what u mean about the cinema thing... it usually takes me some time to adjust when i come out for a good hour or so, i just feel like i've woken up in the middle of a public place when im not in the frame of mind to cope with it! i would think it's normal, just try and consciously make sure ur alert at these times. like when u feel it happening, try and just look around at ur surroundings and take a note of all objects and things u see around u, just to try and get to grips with it and try and increase the awareness.

Reply 15

I may have read about this. I think it's called DEPERSONALISATION or DEREALISATION.

From One Website:

Derealisation

A feeling that you and/or your surroundings are not real
And/or experience your surroundings through a diffused light, fog or mist

Depersonalisation


Feeling as if you are "outside of your body"/ 'detached from your body', as though you are either standing alongside, above or behind it

Other dissociative sensations

Sensitivity to light and sound
Tunnel vision
Feeling as if your body has expanded so that it feels larger than normal
Feeling as if your body has shrunk to minute proportions
Stationary objects may appear to move
Driving a car and suddenly realise you don't remember what has happened during all or part of the trip
Listening to someone talk and realise you did not hear part or all of what was said
Sometimes sit staring off into space, and not being aware of the passage of time

From another Website:
This feeling can last for hours and is called depersonalisation. It can be quite difficult to describe what this feels like. You may feel a fuzzy-headed, spaced-out sort of sensation. You know that you are fully awake yet you feel distanced from things. You feel like you are a robot acting on automatic. You may seem like being an observer looking at everything from a distance. Also, things around you may not seem completely real - so called derealisation. These feelings can be very disturbing. Depersonalisation and derealisation often suddenly start, and just as suddenly stop.

From a third website:
Another possible way to describe the actual physical manifestation of the feeling is to compare the very popular film technique called a Vertigo shot or Dolly Zoom. In this technique, the subject of the picture stays fixed on the shot while all the surrounding background is pulled away - providing a sense of vertigo or detachment.

Dunno if this is it or not...xxx

Reply 16

Persephone*
I may have read about this. I think it's called DEPERSONALISATION or DEREALISATION.

From One Website:

Derealisation

A feeling that you and/or your surroundings are not real
And/or experience your surroundings through a diffused light, fog or mist

Depersonalisation


Feeling as if you are "outside of your body"/ 'detached from your body', as though you are either standing alongside, above or behind it

Other dissociative sensations

Sensitivity to light and sound
Tunnel vision
Feeling as if your body has expanded so that it feels larger than normal
Feeling as if your body has shrunk to minute proportions
Stationary objects may appear to move
Driving a car and suddenly realise you don't remember what has happened during all or part of the trip
Listening to someone talk and realise you did not hear part or all of what was said
Sometimes sit staring off into space, and not being aware of the passage of time


From another Website:
This feeling can last for hours and is called depersonalisation. It can be quite difficult to describe what this feels like. You may feel a fuzzy-headed, spaced-out sort of sensation. You know that you are fully awake yet you feel distanced from things. You feel like you are a robot acting on automatic. You may seem like being an observer looking at everything from a distance. Also, things around you may not seem completely real - so called derealisation. These feelings can be very disturbing. Depersonalisation and derealisation often suddenly start, and just as suddenly stop.

From a third website:
Another possible way to describe the actual physical manifestation of the feeling is to compare the very popular film technique called a Vertigo shot or Dolly Zoom. In this technique, the subject of the picture stays fixed on the shot while all the surrounding background is pulled away - providing a sense of vertigo or detachment.

Dunno if this is it or not...xxx


wow thats me!

Reply 17

I get that, particularly when I'm in a big crowd for example shopping in town on a Saturday. I become very aware of the crowds and yet it's as if whatever does the seeing has taken a step back inside my head, away from what's going on. It feels weird, but I find it passes quite quickly once I get out of the situation.

Reply 18

I get that when real life seems surreal, its like 'am i actually here' and as you say-awareness gets hightened and dreamlike etc!\

It also happens when you have lack of sleep.

Reply 19

Persephone*
I may have read about this. I think it's called DEPERSONALISATION or DEREALISATION.

From One Website:

Derealisation

A feeling that you and/or your surroundings are not real
And/or experience your surroundings through a diffused light, fog or mist

Depersonalisation


Feeling as if you are "outside of your body"/ 'detached from your body', as though you are either standing alongside, above or behind it

Other dissociative sensations

Sensitivity to light and sound
Tunnel vision
Feeling as if your body has expanded so that it feels larger than normal
Feeling as if your body has shrunk to minute proportions
Stationary objects may appear to move
Driving a car and suddenly realise you don't remember what has happened during all or part of the trip
Listening to someone talk and realise you did not hear part or all of what was said
Sometimes sit staring off into space, and not being aware of the passage of time


From another Website:
This feeling can last for hours and is called depersonalisation. It can be quite difficult to describe what this feels like. You may feel a fuzzy-headed, spaced-out sort of sensation. You know that you are fully awake yet you feel distanced from things. You feel like you are a robot acting on automatic. You may seem like being an observer looking at everything from a distance. Also, things around you may not seem completely real - so called derealisation. These feelings can be very disturbing. Depersonalisation and derealisation often suddenly start, and just as suddenly stop.

From a third website:
Another possible way to describe the actual physical manifestation of the feeling is to compare the very popular film technique called a Vertigo shot or Dolly Zoom. In this technique, the subject of the picture stays fixed on the shot while all the surrounding background is pulled away - providing a sense of vertigo or detachment.

Dunno if this is it or not...xxx

This is exactly how I feel! Thank you so much!