dont think i have a good personality

hmm i feel that when i am myself with people, people dont tend to pay me much respect. at least i dont feel like they do.

my personality is out-going, bubbly and lively. but im also very friendly and caring. people have said that i am too nice. ive noticed that people tend to be more sarcastic and stuff with me, like they get the impression im saying weird stuff, cos im soo nice i can take their behaviour. i dont know whether it is the case of me actually saying weird stuff or whether i really am too nice.
people are generally very sarcastic and think im dead weird- my bubbliest and outgoingness. a lot of people are so serious.. makes me think im odd. i can however be serious when i need to be.

say with one teacher. i can be myself with her more than any other teacher. but ive noticed that she acts differently with me than the other students in the class. dont know if its a good thing or a bad thing. im quite enthusiastic and lively in class, generally the only person to do so, and i think she knows me better than anyone in the class. but ive noticed that she comments on what i say more than anyone and if i say something shes like 'im not suprised!' but with other people its like she tends to have more respect and is more serious with them- dont know if its cos she doesnt know them as well, or whether im too nice and so she knows i wont mind her saying stuff like that. outside of lessons shes always staring at me and such like at lunchtimes, gets me paranoid about what shes thinking :s-smilie:

i also find it difficult to make friends, if im being more mature than usual all i can really say is 'how are you' 'you been up to much' i ask them questions about themselves but it doesnt really lead to anywhere...
whereas if i am myself people think im too lively and loud for them.

i just feel like i need to grow up with my personality and whether i should stop being so nice and caring. or should i just be myself?

Reply 1

Dude

If you want to make friends, you have to be yourself otherwise they are not your friends. To change yourself for friendship or love is wrong.

Look at me. I'm really weird and when I meet someone new for the first time, I scare them for the first few weeks. But then they realise its my personality and they put up with me :p:

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

i was hanging with some people at 6th form yesterday and some girls who came to the table gave me hacky looks and weird stares and it got me a bit down like im a loser... i suppose its cos i dont really hang around with them, but i have trouble making mates and so i try to hang with new people...

Reply 3

Yoda

To me it sounded like you're pretending to be bubbly and stuff, but aren't really. Who the hell goes all hyper, and then can only ask "how are you?" The "comments" made like "I'm not surprised!" are made jokingly. And obviously someone all bubbly like that would've taken it as a joke rather than serious fact. Be the real "yourself", not the "yourself" you think would be cool.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

well all i can do really is be myself then?

Reply 5

Yoda

Yep. Just do what you genuinely want to, don't try to show off or be what people expect.

Reply 6

Q.E.D

People can only like you, and so on once you like yourself, and accept yourself. You just have to be whoever you are and accept that. Trying to fit into a mould, or preconcieved notions of what you should be will just result in you being unhappy and people realising that you are kinda fake.
You just have to be yourself, and the cliched thing, people who fwould make good friends will like you for it, and those who don't aren't worth it.
Q.E.D