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Hi,
I have eventually got round to making an appointment to see a counsellor at uni, I've been thinking about it for ages, but kept putting it off.
Now I'm a bit worried though that they may feel I'm wasting their time a bit and that the problems I've got are trivial. They don't feel it to me, but they probably are compared to some peoples, and I don't want them to feel I'm just moaning.
Also, what is likely to happen at this first session, will I just have to talk? I don't know how to start.
Thanks for any help. xx
I have eventually got round to making an appointment to see a counsellor at uni, I've been thinking about it for ages, but kept putting it off.
Now I'm a bit worried though that they may feel I'm wasting their time a bit and that the problems I've got are trivial. They don't feel it to me, but they probably are compared to some peoples, and I don't want them to feel I'm just moaning.
Also, what is likely to happen at this first session, will I just have to talk? I don't know how to start.
Thanks for any help. xx
Hi
What ever you say to them they will take serioulsy no matter how big or small. If it worrying you then they are there to help.
I dont know what it is like, but if it helps i amin the same situation and i am very worried 2
Does anyone know what its like, mine is with connexions!
What ever you say to them they will take serioulsy no matter how big or small. If it worrying you then they are there to help.
I dont know what it is like, but if it helps i amin the same situation and i am very worried 2
Does anyone know what its like, mine is with connexions!
If they go along with the same stuff I did during my training it will mostly consist of you talking, them NOT giving advice. Its not constructive for them to do so etc.. but they will get you to talk about pretty much everything... elaberate all feelings etc.
They might set some guidlines, eg. how many sessions (keeps it distant so you know they would never judge you, the whole unconditional positive regard thing, but also keeps it clinical so you wont become dependant.)
And to put "moaning" in perspective. People who win the lottery are given counselling....
If its reason enough that its bothering you counsellors would be happy to help. I wouldn't randomly turn around in a session and go "Oh shut your moaning and come back with a real problem.." mainly cause the problem is real to you.
They might set some guidlines, eg. how many sessions (keeps it distant so you know they would never judge you, the whole unconditional positive regard thing, but also keeps it clinical so you wont become dependant.)
And to put "moaning" in perspective. People who win the lottery are given counselling....
If its reason enough that its bothering you counsellors would be happy to help. I wouldn't randomly turn around in a session and go "Oh shut your moaning and come back with a real problem.." mainly cause the problem is real to you.
Just got round to making an appointment too, so I know exactly how you feel. If you want I can tell you about them after I've seen them on tuesday, unless your appointment is before then.
also this thread:
http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=359790
also this thread:
http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=359790
Thanks, that other thread is quite helpful, I hadn't seen it! My appointment is on tuesday as well, so hopefully we should both be ok.
I was sort of hoping that I might get some advice from them as well as being able to talk, but by the sounds of it I won't, it will just be talking. Oh well...that may help anyway, I feel like I have a lot of stuff bottled up inside that is confusing me, and it might feel clearer when I have talked about it anyway. I can't really talk to my parents about anything - they both have depression and it won't help them, and I havn't got any close friends I can talk to, so I hope that even if they can't give me advice, I may feel better after just talking to someone!
I was sort of hoping that I might get some advice from them as well as being able to talk, but by the sounds of it I won't, it will just be talking. Oh well...that may help anyway, I feel like I have a lot of stuff bottled up inside that is confusing me, and it might feel clearer when I have talked about it anyway. I can't really talk to my parents about anything - they both have depression and it won't help them, and I havn't got any close friends I can talk to, so I hope that even if they can't give me advice, I may feel better after just talking to someone!
I don't think they'll think that anything is trivial.
I don't see one at uni but I see one at a health centre when I can. In the first session last week, it was just a "test run" to see if I liked her and if she thought she could help me. She explained that everything was confidential and just went through what the problems are.
I don't see one at uni but I see one at a health centre when I can. In the first session last week, it was just a "test run" to see if I liked her and if she thought she could help me. She explained that everything was confidential and just went through what the problems are.
Generally they just help you to talk through your problems, but don't normally give you advice, I think they want you to come to the solution on your own because then it should stick, whereas if someone else tells you to do something you might not be as convinced to do it if that makes sense.
Don't be worried or scared about it, they're there to help and will listen to whatever you have to say. The main thing you have to do is just talk about what your issues are, however small you think they may seem to others.
Don't be worried or scared about it, they're there to help and will listen to whatever you have to say. The main thing you have to do is just talk about what your issues are, however small you think they may seem to others.
I went yesterday to Uni counseling to find someone completely unbiased and anonymous to talk to.
It was a little weird at first, but I explained the situation as best I could and it went extremely quickly, that I was really rushing at the end. From time to time she would confirm what I was saying by nodding, or replying with a standard answer but she'd also say some really helpful advice, taking a different look at the situation - more so from how the other person involved would be feeling, and it made me realise things that I feel have helped me know how to resolve my problems.
It's a very unusual experience, this was my first session and for me it wasn't an excuse to go see someone to bitch away about my problems, it was to try and open my eyes to the problems I discussed and find a way to resolve things. No idea if I'll go again, but I would recommend it - especially if you have issues that you feel are hard to resolve on your own, or with someone close to you.
It was a little weird at first, but I explained the situation as best I could and it went extremely quickly, that I was really rushing at the end. From time to time she would confirm what I was saying by nodding, or replying with a standard answer but she'd also say some really helpful advice, taking a different look at the situation - more so from how the other person involved would be feeling, and it made me realise things that I feel have helped me know how to resolve my problems.
It's a very unusual experience, this was my first session and for me it wasn't an excuse to go see someone to bitch away about my problems, it was to try and open my eyes to the problems I discussed and find a way to resolve things. No idea if I'll go again, but I would recommend it - especially if you have issues that you feel are hard to resolve on your own, or with someone close to you.
Anonymous
Thanks, that other thread is quite helpful, I hadn't seen it! My appointment is on tuesday as well, so hopefully we should both be ok.
I was sort of hoping that I might get some advice from them as well as being able to talk, but by the sounds of it I won't, it will just be talking. Oh well...that may help anyway, I feel like I have a lot of stuff bottled up inside that is confusing me, and it might feel clearer when I have talked about it anyway. I can't really talk to my parents about anything - they both have depression and it won't help them, and I havn't got any close friends I can talk to, so I hope that even if they can't give me advice, I may feel better after just talking to someone!
I was sort of hoping that I might get some advice from them as well as being able to talk, but by the sounds of it I won't, it will just be talking. Oh well...that may help anyway, I feel like I have a lot of stuff bottled up inside that is confusing me, and it might feel clearer when I have talked about it anyway. I can't really talk to my parents about anything - they both have depression and it won't help them, and I havn't got any close friends I can talk to, so I hope that even if they can't give me advice, I may feel better after just talking to someone!
having two parents with depression isnt trivial
I found it strange going to a Uni counsellor, probably cos I'm doing a Psychology degree and at the end of it want to train in the clinical area and there I was needing help. lol.
No problem sounds stupid to them. They're completely objective. They'll sit and explain what they do, explain confidential issues, the fact that if something comes out that could be a danger to you or another person they would break it and inform somebody.
She just listened to me. I told her everything I was worried about. And she asked questions like why? what does this mean to you etc? Most will probably try and chance your cognitive thoughts. And they'll give you tips and stuff.
I wouldn't worry about it hon. I've had a really positive experience through them.
No problem sounds stupid to them. They're completely objective. They'll sit and explain what they do, explain confidential issues, the fact that if something comes out that could be a danger to you or another person they would break it and inform somebody.
She just listened to me. I told her everything I was worried about. And she asked questions like why? what does this mean to you etc? Most will probably try and chance your cognitive thoughts. And they'll give you tips and stuff.
I wouldn't worry about it hon. I've had a really positive experience through them.
Adam83
having two parents with depression isnt trivial
I guess not, its just that I've got used to it really, if you know what I mean. I have just accepted it as being normal for my family really. It just means that I'm in a bit of a mess at the moment and rather than just having a chat with my mum or dad about it I end up keeping my problems quite at home rather than it upset them in some way.
Anyway...again, thanks for all the advice people, its much appreciated.
Karmafunk, if its ok with you, I think I'll go on tuesday and see how it goes, and may get in touch with you after that. Is that ok?
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