Should I Have My Cake and Eat It???

OK, basically three guys in my life right now, not dating any of them at the moment but two of the three are entirely up for dating and the third, well hes shy...

Number 1: The shy one...but a rugby player. Very good looking, same age/ experience as me, really lovely person. He knows i have a crush on him (found out from mutual friend, i didn't know she knew him!) but hasn't yet done anything about it, except acting slightly different. Basically, hes not entirely 100% sure i fancy him, but its obvious, except hes too shy to take a chance, unless he doesn't fancy me. But anyway, balls in his court...

Number 2: This guy is so fit and i really like him despite only meeting him once, but he works stupid hours and we haven't had a chance to meet up again yet (ok so its only been 5 days), but i can't see him for another week i don't think because we both have friends birthday parties so I'm worried he may forget about me.

Number 3: Met on a drunken night so i can't actually remember what he looks like all that well, let alone if i'll fancy him without the influence of alcohol, except, he has an amzing persoality from our conversations since meeting him, and so much in common. Except theres a 6 year age difference...

So I'm not sure what to do at the moment...any advice is much appreciated. I'm not complaining, i mean its a nice situation to be in, but i've just never had to choose between so many lovely men before.

Reply 1

Scarlett_Jewel

tbh just out of curiousity i'd chase #3

but the obvious thing seems to encourage #1

#2 sounds a bit of a non-starter.

Reply 2

Scheherezade

Umm sorry so you're not sure if the first one likes you, won't be able to see the second one for a while on account of your conflicting social lives and can't remember what the third one looks like?!

Reply 3

always + forever

#1 sounds the safest bet, IMO... but I guess that depends on whether you want to play it safe... :wink:

Reply 4

Juwel

Go for them all unexclusively to start with, informally of sorts. Then you'll know which one you want, so decide to be exclusive with him.

Reply 5

Gem

What makes you feel the need to ask people you've never met, what to do?

Follow your heart, forget what other people say.

Reply 6

Otarru

This has nothing to do with cake! :mad:

Back on topic: 1. A rugby player? People on sports teams are usually arrogant jerks so eliminate him. 2. You've only seen him once in 5 days?? Sounds to me like he's trying to avoid you. Better eliminate him as well. 3. Anyone can have an amazing personality while drunk. And he's 6 years older than you so he's probably some loser who has no job and spends all his money on alcohol. He must go.
There you go, none of these work so keep walking...

Reply 7

SuperDaz

Otarru

This has nothing to do with cake! :mad:

My thoughts exactly.

I would like to suggest that you get the three young men to compete in a bake off. The person who can make the tastiest cake (or dessert in general) gets to go out with the OP.

Or alternatively you can just force yourself on number one and hope for the best. It already sounds like you have made your mind up and like him the best.