What to do?

I have only been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a few weeks but things have moved quite quickly and i really feel strongly about him. we have talked so much about plans to go away etc and i thought everything was hunky dorey, he seemed quite keen and told me he was really happy etc. Yesterday he said he had been crying for an hour and that 'he thought he might still love his ex.' Obviously i took this quite hard but he said it wasnt her he loved but he wasnt sure if he was over it as she hurt him and they were together for a long time. I dont know what to do, i want to stay and still give things a chance as i care so much about him but if i do i feel it would really be swallowing my pride. I guess im also worried that i wont really know where i will stand in out relationship and always think back to this in the future. I would be greatful for any advice. xx

Reply 1

Louise88

It's a difficult situation to be in but what you do is completely up to you. Do you care about your boyfriend so much that you are willing to help him? or is it so tough on you, that you don't think you will be able to get over something like this?

He needs to realise that his ex is in the past and that he now has to move on. A part of his ex will always be with him for a certain period of time but that doesn't mean that he can't enjoy his new relationship with you. You two have made plans and he was honest with you, he obviously feels something for you but it's just up to you to decide if you can stick by him until he sorts his head out without holding it against him later on down the line or if it's too much for you to handle right now.

Reply 2

sufiankane

you cant blame him, they were together for a long time, give it a bit of time and see how he acts. He could be reminiscing.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

Thanks Louise88, i think i will have to give things a chance and a bit of time. i guess it is understandable, he said he just wanted to be honest by telling me rather than it was because he was having doubts about us. Just hope things work out, i am just most afraid of getting hurt in the future...but sometimes you have to take a risk i suppose! x