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uni in september

Ok im sure theres loads of ppl starting uni and at first i was really excited about goin but as it is slowly drawing nearer im starting to feel...nervous in a way. my biggest fear is not making friends and having flatmates from hell to make my life a misery. i hvnt had the best year and i wanted this to be a fresh start but i really jus want ppl to get on with me. sorry i jus had to get that off my chest. is there anyone else having any doubts?

Reply 1

Danny the Geezer

21

Nah, no doubts at all. The first year of uni was a ****-up for me so I am starting again in September and am really determined to make it work.

Reply 2

Death_Chronic

yea...actually, i'm kinda feeling the same way. but to top it up i dont know which uni to go for lol.
the best thing is to just stop worrying, i've kind of replied to this question on a different topc few days ago ^^ just remember everyone there would be new, everyone would be nervous, everyone would want to make a fresh start and make friends.
i'm slightly worried about fresher's week....cant it be for just one day? or two? why a WHOLE week?!

Reply 3

ßlαcksωαn

17

Sure I was scared to start uni...starting anything new is always a challenge. You never think you're going to make friends but you always do. Everyone is in the same boat at uni, and everyone seems so much more mature and down to earth. Trust me you will fit in fine, as I have. :smile:

Reply 4

guccilittlepiggy

14

Not nervous really, i'm looking forward to it but its going to be a massive change for me going from working full time to travelling the world for 3 months, coming back home, then having to leave for uni very soon after (if i manage to make it back in one piece) its making have doubts about how i'll feel when i come back and whether i'll want to back travelling or back at work again, so many changes in so little time will undoubtably be a shock to the system. and also i'll be broke when i come back which is making me worry about how the hell i'm going to afford london for 3 years. i'm planning for next summer during the first term to go to south america to volunteer for a month so i need to sort my finances out or i won't get to go. op: i wouldn't worry tbh its completely normal for people to worry about situations where they can't have some element of planning or control over but at the end of the day everyone will be in the same situation. i'm sure you're a nice person and you seem keen to make friends so given that university is very diverse i'm sure you'll find a group of friends and as many people often find at university you will meet people who you will end up being lifelong friends with.

Reply 5

apricot

OP

10

Hope so but i guess a good thing about the uni im going to is that because it is remote everyone is far away from home and apparently most of the population there is students but i still cant help but feel paranoid because i really dont want to bullied again cos i cnt handle that anymore.

Reply 6

tigerladie

I cant wait... i think everyones a little bit nervous though about not making friends etc...but im sure all will be fine and hopefully have the best times in our life :biggrin:

Reply 7

singh1987

Dont worry about it!!! you will make friends just try and maintain positivity. i got one idiot of a flatmate, but you just have to ignore them fools, im sure you will have cool flatmates. i get along with most of them! we actually have a good laugh at dinner!!! You will love it, just be positive!!! I wish you luck :smile:

Reply 8

UnspokenTruth

Just act like everyone else and you will be fine

Reply 9

suga_fly_77

6

UnspokenTruth

Just act like everyone else and you will be fine

Um, I wouldn't say that was great advice...

To the O.P, the fears you describe are experienced by pretty much everyone else in your position; it's completely normal to be apprehensive and I remember feeling exactly the same way when I first started uni last October (my god, time's gone so fast!) You have absolutely nothing to worry about, trust me. Just look forward to it!

Reply 10

apricot

OP

10

I just want to be myself and i want ppl to like me for who i am (guys seem to hv a problem with that) if i get along with ppl im more confident with myself then i talk to ppl more and thats what i want to happen. As long as i get along with ppl i will be v happy

Reply 11

ro-ro

10

It's not the same fear but I'm scared about if I'll manage to stay there and if thing's will settle down. By the time I reach uni it will be seventh move and my eighth 'home' in two years! So I'm worred I'll rock up and have to move again for whatever reason or that I won't be able to make rooted friendships because I find that difficult due to moving so much.

It is pretty scary changing your whole life but I'm sure it will be fine, if it went wrong lots most people wouldn't do it!

ps. I'm not a traveller.

Reply 12

mc_hamster

1

jaydoh

Nah, no doubts at all. The first year of uni was a ****-up for me so I am starting again in September and am really determined to make it work.

Same as, I dropped out last year because I didn't feel at home. So in September I will be going to a uni more to my liking and only 30 minutes away from home, so I have independence but also close to home.

Reply 13

Jillie Boe

14

Ah, I'm sure you'll love it.

I only came to Uni because I didn't want a 9-5 job. Basically. I handed in my UCAS application 2 days before the deadline and looked around 2 Universities. But I love it here. It's opened up so many doors for me and I've met so many awesome people.

I know a few people who have gone into self catered and have had a lot of trouble because they're only living with 5 people. I'm in catered and live with 30 people. I have friends from all the different floors and because we all have to eat together, socially it's really beneficial. I've had problems with noise but I just contacted the accomodation office and put in a complain and it's been sorted.

I was really worried about going. Purely cos I didn't want too. But I'm sure you'll be fine. :smile:

Reply 14

tomc87

1

apricot

Ok im sure theres loads of ppl starting uni and at first i was really excited about goin but as it is slowly drawing nearer im starting to feel...nervous in a way. my biggest fear is not making friends and having flatmates from hell to make my life a misery. i hvnt had the best year and i wanted this to be a fresh start but i really jus want ppl to get on with me. sorry i jus had to get that off my chest. is there anyone else having any doubts?

Aren't you coming to aber? I think most people have doubts, especially as the time draws closer. You shouldn't have any problems at all making friends, as long as you're open to people and try to stay in contact with some of the people you meet during the first couple of weeks you'll have no problem.. I found it difficult to avoid talking to people and making friends in the first couple of weeks because everyone was in the same situation! If you're department holds a social its worth going to that too. Where are you planning to stay? I haven't heard anyone have real problems with their flatmates so far :smile:

Reply 15

chocmonster

1

general advice: be yourself and you'll make loads of friends..whatever you do, don't pretend to be something you're not, uni is the time the real you can come out and it sounds cheesy but you get to know yourself a lot more!

you'll never get an experience like it again in your life (esp the first year experience) so make the most of it because the time goes too quickly! good luck! :smile:

x

Reply 16

abc88

Don't worry you are not alone. I think in some ways everyone has fears about going to university. However as long as you be yourself and I am sure you will make friends. Also not everyone gets on with their flatmates but you can have other friends outside of your flat too.

Reply 17

fernyfrenchy

uni is great i was scared wen i first started mainly coz i didnt have anywhere to live till like a few weeks b4 i was meant to move in but i managed to get into halls still and had the most amazing year ever
dont worry everyone is in the same boat starting all over again but u do make good friends from ur course and ur flat and if u join any groups and u find u tend to meet random people everywhere lol
i shld no!! lol
xxxx

Reply 18

g2da3

11

iam sure you will make friends Lots of people is in the same boat as you :biggrin:

Reply 19

noodles!

14

I completely sympathise with you OP, I myself am terrified.

But I have 2 friends who are also going to Cardiff with me, so I'll have people when I very first get there (to cry to lmao).

So sorry I can't be of much help as I'm in the same boat.

uni in september

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