Should I meet up with him?

Last November I started seeing this guy, and we had a really good time together, but he suddenly stopped texting/calling and I didn't hear off him again until Christmas. He wasn't particularly good at texting back - it would take a few days to get a response usually - but I know he's very busy with uni and work. I got really annoyed when he stopped texting, and I had no idea why he did - I sent him a few messages asking what was up, but never got a response.

Just lately we've been talking again, and he's mentioned meeting up, but I'm not sure what to do. I really liked him before, but I got really annoyed with the lack of conversation when we weren't together. We also live an annoying distance appart, where it's not far enough for it to be long distance but still a heafty distance to travel as I don't drive.

I'm not really sure what to do. I think I'll meet up with him for a drink or something, but I don't know what to do other than that. He seems really keen when I actually get a message/have a conversation, but then I don't hear off him for a week...

Any ideas?

Reply 1

Fleece

I wouldn't waste my time personally.

Reply 2

Unregistered

I agree, what's the point? Don't give him the satisfaction. Have some self respect and learn that enough is enough.

If he can't be bothered being nice now, he's not bound to be your dream guy ever.

Reply 3

khil

Well, uni can be surprisingly time-consuming. I barely find the time to contact any of my friends. However, if you really wanted to contact someone that badly, you'll squeeze in the time. My housemate finds the time to talk for hours on Skype with his fiancee, who's currently on the other side of the Atlantic from him - but then again, they're engaged. Considering this guy of yours aren't even your bf, he has no obligation to give you special treatment, and it stands to reason that he contacted you about as frequently as he contacts the rest of his close friends. And you'd be surprised how little time you find for stuff sometimes. It's got nothing to do with how close I am to one of my best friends, but sometimes life is just so busy and I wouldn't contact her for weeks or over a month.

I say go for the coffee, and see how things go :smile:

What's to say nothing can happen? And even if nothing happens, who knows, maybe you'll have made a good friends. What've you got to lose? If it doesn't work out, just fade away and cease contact, considering how far away he lives, that shouldn't be too hard.