please tell me im normal..

i have friends but i dont go to parties or go clubbing, im quite sensitive about my social life. my friends are the type to work hard at their subjects. i did get invited to go clubbing yesterday but my parents wont allow me. with my friends we go shopping, walks to the parks and go to each others houses. but we dont drink etc. i feel like at my age 16/17 i should be going out all the time, having the time of my life, but still i feel like im still doing the same things i did when i was 13.
my brother touched a sore spot purposely and asked me why i dont go to parties/get drunk/go clubbing and well it hurt me.
tbh i dont even know if my social life at this age is fine..i love my friends but theres all this emphasis on going to clubs/pubs/parties :frown:

Reply 1

MissHero

1

You are doing all the things that I was doing at 16/17... I did go to the odd party but it wasn't something I was doing all the time, and to be honest, going out drinking and dancing can wait until you're 18, there is a reason why that's the legal age for it!

I'd say you're normal. Not everyone enjoys socialising that way anyway; I'm 20 now and I go out and to the pub, but I'm not a huge drinker and I don't go clubbing loads, please don't imagine that there is a set way to behave and deviating from this is not being "normal"!

Reply 2

Raindroped

Just enjoy yourself and be happy with who you are.
Just because 'everyone else' are doing these things doesn't mean you have to, theres plenty of time to party and drink and go clubbing. And besides, if you are 16/17 surely clubbing is out of the question anyway?

Reply 3

TheShrimp

5

As long as you're still having fun with your friends, then you're normal! Sure, getting drunk can be fun, but I think there is far too much pressure on us to binge drink & get absolutely wasted until you're throwing up. Not so much fun.

Reply 4

Lizj

10

Yes of course you are "normal". What's more important than that, you are happy and have a good group of friends. That counts for far more than living up to some image of what you "should be like" at any given age.
You might get into drinking, parties, dancing etc at some stage, or you might never enjoy these things. Whatever, you are still going to be normal.

Reply 5

louisedotcom

13

Im 18, almost 19 and I pretty much never go out clubbing or any of that stuff :biggrin:

I dont see the appeal in drinking to be honest, 3/4 times a year max is more than enough for me.

I dont go to clubs prodominantly because I dont like the music, and generally the type of people who go (ie guys who think because your a girl and your in a club they have the right to put their hand up your skirt- I know everyones not like this, but I live in essex afterall haha!)

Theres no definition for normal, as long as your happy you dont have anything to worry about. But if your really worried about it, give it a try once you hit 18, and if you dont like it, dont so it. Simple.

Reply 6

username47781

20

You are perfectly normal, it is up to you how you live your own life.

Reply 7

CorpusNinja

15

From that very detailed account of your life I would say you were distinctly abnormal. you SHOULD go to as many parties as possible, you SHOULD drink till you pass out and you SHOULD subscribe to your peers' fashion...etc.

err...no. It seems you're happy doing what you are but think its lame in comparison to your other friends. That's all.

Reply 8

romeosbitch

15

There's a huge stereotype that having parties, getting drunk, having meaningless sex is what all age 16 years and up should be doing. But if you look around, very few people do that at all and those that do it, don't enjoy it as much as you are "supposed to"

I go out much more than I used to but i've stopped putting pressure on myself to "get a life" because I do have one and it's one that I'm comfortable with.

Especially when you're 16/17, getting into pubs/clubs is a nightmare, you're likely to not know your alcohol limits and therefore end up feeling ill and I don't know about any one else, but I can't afford to party massively and then there is my A levels to think of.

And pizza and dvd nights will never get old. I prefer them over a club tbh.

Reply 9

ForeverIsMyName

15

ur fine!1

Reply 10

white_haired_wizard

16

i personally think alcohol is totally overrated, you can have a great time without it, and when you do have such a great time, it's all totally natural and not drug-induced, so it doesn't feel quite so surreal, i.e. it feels more REAL and obviously, sober. Sober fun is better than err, 'unsober' (sic?) fun, IMHO....most often...

Reply 11

Rainbow_Chick

1

Yes you are normal when your a bit older you may find that you will go to clubs but not every one likes that sort of thing. Do what makes you feel happy.

Reply 12

Riddy

Anonymous

i have friends but i dont go to parties or go clubbing, im quite sensitive about my social life. my friends are the type to work hard at their subjects. i did get invited to go clubbing yesterday but my parents wont allow me. with my friends we go shopping, walks to the parks and go to each others houses. but we dont drink etc. i feel like at my age 16/17 i should be going out all the time, having the time of my life, but still i feel like im still doing the same things i did when i was 13.
my brother touched a sore spot purposely and asked me why i dont go to parties/get drunk/go clubbing and well it hurt me.
tbh i dont even know if my social life at this age is fine..i love my friends but theres all this emphasis on going to clubs/pubs/parties :frown:

Why do you want to be normal? Normal people don't usually bother about what people think of there life they just do what they want to.

Reply 13

Romana87

I was exactly the same. My advice, is don't allow yourself to be pressured into doing stuff you don't want to. Do what you want. I was exactly the same and only really started going out and clubbing and drinking once I started Uni. In contrast, my mates who started earlier, say its now lost its appeal, whereas I still find it fun because I've not done it too much.

Reply 14

Dionysus

15

I didn't go out much until I was 18... at which I point I went out and drank a lot :smile:

Reply 15

Rhythm

2

Anonymous

i have friends but i dont go to parties or go clubbing, im quite sensitive about my social life. my friends are the type to work hard at their subjects. i did get invited to go clubbing yesterday but my parents wont allow me. with my friends we go shopping, walks to the parks and go to each others houses. but we dont drink etc. i feel like at my age 16/17 i should be going out all the time, having the time of my life, but still i feel like im still doing the same things i did when i was 13.
my brother touched a sore spot purposely and asked me why i dont go to parties/get drunk/go clubbing and well it hurt me.
tbh i dont even know if my social life at this age is fine..i love my friends but theres all this emphasis on going to clubs/pubs/parties :frown:

Underage clubbing isn't really possible any more, and underage drinking is pretty crap anyway, you get drunk well quick, then feel terrible the next day, I never saw the attraction tbh.

You'll probably start going out more as you close in on 18, but even if you don't, don't worry, I don't go clubbing that much anymore, out of choice...and if you don't want to, then don't care about what others think, its your life isn't it? I mean, as long as you're happy...

Reply 16

quintsy

17

I'm fifteen, and I do know what you mean; my friends try to make me think I'm completely immature for not minding staying in at night, eating Super Noodles out of a pan, as opposed to going out and getting drunk in a park. :p:

But to be honest, we're still fifteen/sixteen, which is pretty young in the grand scheme of things. There'll be plenty of time to drink when you're older, and you'll probably do it in a more responsible manner. Alcohol isn't meant to be a really big deal, or something which measures your "cool quota". If anything, the people who believe that are the immature ones.

In short, you are completely normal! :smile:

Reply 17

xatm092

Sounds exactly like me, except I'm happy not going out clubbing. I could be at home posting replies on forums :p:

Also all my spare time is spent seeing my girlfriend :rolleyes:

Reply 18

chocol@tte

hmmm.... i started partying when i was 16....
if i didnt go out every weekend, i would feel down i think...
so ye, why don't you try once and then see if you enjoy it...?

Reply 19

TheThirdMan

1

my brother touched a sore spot purposely and asked me why i dont go to parties/get drunk/go clubbing and well it hurt me.
tbh i dont even know if my social life at this age is fine..i love my friends but theres all this emphasis on going to clubs/pubs/parties

You could tell him you find it pathetic how he relies on alcohol to fuel his social life (if thats what you think :smile:

). Do what you want, not what you think you should do.

please tell me im normal..

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