the way girls dress and relationships

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Anonymous

however i admit, though posts on this thread have shown it to be true, it is insulting to suggest that all men become salivating slaves whenever women reveal a bit of cleavage or leg. but girls, admit it, havent you ever used the look of your body to gain an advantage in work or study?

hell yes! not so much with clothes but with body language, flirting and acting like a silly bint. my male workmates used to walk me home, carry things for me, open doors, give me full credit for things they had helped me with and buy me drinks and stuff when they went on their break.

no not all men fall for it but the majority do, play the part and you can get away with murder.

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Anonymous

dressing slutty = more offers of dates = greater choice of men = higher probability of meeting a fantastic guy.
dressing modestly = less dates as guys dont automatically think of sex when they see you = less chance of any dates = less chance of meeting THE ONE

I'm sorry, but I really do think that this is absolute bull. I never wear miniskirts and really low cut top and so on, that's just not me. I'm one of those people who wears well fitting jeans, jackets and tops, and pashminas etc. I met my boyfriend wearing those sorts of clothes when I was 16 and hey, I'm still with him. Obviously NOT necessary, therefore completely throw your modesty to the wind in order to meet someone nice.

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Anonymous

dressing slutty = more offers of dates = greater choice of men = higher probability of meeting a fantastic guy.
dressing modestly = less dates as guys dont automatically think of sex when they see you = less chance of any dates = less chance of meeting THE ONE

Sorry, but this is wrong. I don't go for guys who are interested in me for how much flesh I'm showing. They're not fantastic in my book.

You're omitting the very popular and smart option of getting to know a guy first before anything happens.

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damnthelackofnames

I'm sorry, but I really do think that this is absolute bull. I never wear miniskirts and really low cut top and so on, that's just not me. I'm one of those people who wears well fitting jeans, jackets and tops, and pashminas etc. I met my boyfriend wearing those sorts of clothes when I was 16 and hey, I'm still with him. Obviously NOT necessary, therefore completely throw your modesty to the wind in order to meet someone nice.

she didnt say necessary she said increased probability. huge difference

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My male friend wishes to add:

"dressing slutty = meet more superficial guys who in all probability will be *****, dressing modestly = meet nice guys who are actually interested in you as a person"

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bunthulhu

Sorry, but this is wrong. I don't go for guys who are interested in me for how much flesh I'm showing. They're not fantastic in my book.

You're omitting the very popular and smart option of getting to know a guy first before anything happens.

yes but the point is, how do you get to know that guy? chances are it was because he liked the way you looked (flesh showing or not) and then made the effort to get to know you because of that initial attraction.

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bunthulhu

My male friend wishes to add:

"dressing slutty = meet more superficial guys who in all probability will be *****, dressing modestly = meet nice guys who are actually interested in you as a person"

normally i would agree with you but the ops idea of slutty is a fitted tshirt and a pair of jeans.

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high priestess fnord

she didnt say necessary she said increased probability. huge difference

Argh! Did you even read what I said, or are you just being picky? I said that it is not necessary to throw your modesty to the wind in order to meet 'the one'.
Your reply really doesn't make sense.

Don't get me wrong, I have a lot of respect for you on the basis of previous posts, I just really don't agree with you on this.

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high priestess fnord

yes but the point is, how do you get to know that guy? chances are it was because he liked the way you looked (flesh showing or not) and then made the effort to get to know you because of that initial attraction.

No, it would be because he's friends with a friend, on my course, at one of my clubs, in my halls, etc. I don't go up to randomers.

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damnthelackofnames

Argh! Did you even read what I said, or are you just being picky? I said that it is not necessary to throw your modesty to the wind in order to meet 'the one'.
Your reply really doesn't make sense.

Don't get me wrong, I have a lot of respect for you on the basis of previous posts, I just really don't agree with you on this.

sorry i guess im a little argumentative tonight :redface:

its just that you said that the ops post was bs and then disnt say anything that disagreed with her.

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high priestess fnord

sorry i guess im a little argumentative tonight :redface:

its just that you said that the ops post was bs and then disnt say anything that disagreed with her.

Meh, I just don't think that dressing sluttishly is the way forward. I don't think it's the way, in general, to meet nice, decent guys (especially those who won't care if you look like a run over hedgehog when you wake up, hungover in the morning. As I often do...my bf is an absolute saint!) who are really worth it.

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bunthulhu

No, it would be because he's friends with a friend, on my course, at one of my clubs, in my halls, etc. I don't go up to randomers.

heh maybe you should try it. ive gotten to know some very nice people by starting a conversation with "randomers".

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high priestess fnord

heh maybe you should try it. ive gotten to know some very nice people by starting a conversation with "randomers".

Thanks for the tip? :p:

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~Tess~

why not try a compromise?

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Such as...?

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browzer-911

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since when has tight jeans and a t-shirt been slutty.

and this thread sucks

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Anonymous #1

OP

i agree with the person who said 'chances are, its looks that attracted him to get to know you in the first place' regardless of clothes. however, clothes play a part in it - would a guy really approach a shabby dressed woman? would he rathr approach a girl with a nice face, great breasts clearly visible through a skintight lowcut t shirt or nice legs visible under a super short miniskirt? short step away from skintight jeans with a thong hanging out the back?
men tend to be unable to distinguish between lust and genuine love - hence the expression love at first SIGHT.
in addition, like fnord said, men tend to like being masculine by comparison to women, in actions and looks. eg a feminine acting girl will make a man feel more masculine, and he will like her because of this. similarly a man looking at a woman in revealing clothes, clearly showing round breasts and an hourglass figure emphasises the difference between his and her gender so he feels more manly and assumes she is a real woman.

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damnthelackofnames

Meh, I just don't think that dressing sluttishly is the way forward. I don't think it's the way, in general, to meet nice, decent guys (especially those who won't care if you look like a run over hedgehog when you wake up, hungover in the morning. As I often do...my bf is an absolute saint!) who are really worth it.

nice description. yes guys who politely ignore (im sure it must register somewhere but ive yet to find any indication) the fact that you look like roadkill are absolute gems. but admit it when you walk down stairs in a new miniskirt or *insert garment here* you would be dissapointed if he didnt appreciate it at least a tiny bit.

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