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Were you bullied? If so when and what for? I was bullied mainly by lads never girls and I don't understand why. Im female and there were these 14/15 year old lads just in a group calling me and telling one another to 'touch her' so they could laugh and asking stupid questions so they could snigger. Usually its girls who bully girls. :confused:

Reply 1

Angelil

19

I was bullied on and off between the ages of 11 and 18. Mostly by girls (I did go to an all-girls school so hardly surprising), although some boys were involved in primary.

I was made fun of when I was younger for forming over-attachments to female teachers (wasn't sexually attracted to them/stalking them, just felt really close to them when I felt I could turn to nobody else), and for just generally being a bit of a geek. I think I was viewed as an easy target. I was quiet, clever and had spots. Later on I was teased for having a crush on a male teacher. I think people also teased me just because it was fun to - I didn't have many friends my own age and so maybe the bullies knew that nobody would stick up for me. The bullying ranged from physical things (being chased/tripped up/having a fake knife held to my throat/having my things stolen) to the mental/emotional (rumours being spread, being laughed at, being called names etc etc).

Schooldays eh? Best days of your life apparently :rolleyes:

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

I was bullied by the people I though were my friends when i was 15/16. It wasn't physical bullying as I am stronger than them. At the time I was going through a lot of stuff with my family and wasn't in a good frame of mind. They would just keep pushing until I snapped. I just ended up meeting new people and fell in with the "popular crowd".

May sound strange but im kind of thankful, it was hurtful but because of it I'm somehow more confident and am more self sufficient.

Reply 3

tomtheone

2

This is not the ideal solution, and it was due to getting in the moment. Until I was about 16 I got bullied by the same group of boys. It all came to a head one day, when they'd been pushing me around so much. They did that thing where one kneels behind you and the other pushes you over him. I got so angry, I pushed the one who pushed me. I then turned to the one behind me and kicked him straight in the ribs. Then as the guy i pushed was standing back up I punched him in the face and he got knocked of his feet. They didn't bother me after that.

Reply 4

Anonymous #3

Yeah i was bullied for years by ppl i thought were my mates aswell. Was very hypocritical of them, pushin me around, digging into me about my looks and problems, using me. The feeling of dread every sunday night before monday the next day - i shall never forget that....
But, i think i have infact gained confidence, and perspective, since my school days, thanks to those bullies. Fighting back alone makes u more self - sufficient.

Reply 5

sssh

10

I was never really sure whether I was being oversensitive, feeling sorry for myself or whether it was actually bullying. I did pass it off at the time, because I do have a tendency to read into things too much, but on reflection it was actually quite bad. Probably not as bad as some people on here, but it has had long-lasting effects; I don't think all my behaviour is caused by it or anything, but I do think it influenced my disillusionment and contributed to my not identifying with my body.

Reply 6

Anonymous #4

I moved to the UK from the US when I was 12 and was bullied constantly throughout secondary school and sixth form. I was at a well-thought-of GDST girls' school for a year just after my family relocated, and I was mocked relentlessly because of my appearance and my foreign accent, and because I was shy and withdrawn. After that, I endured 5 hellish years at a public school near Birmingham, where every aspect of my life became fair game, including my ethnicity and my parents' appearance. I threw myself into my work, but once the other kids noticed my academic success they began to bully me because of that. Even now, I still can't trust anyone my own age, particularly other girls, and I still prefer to work rather than socialise.

Reply 7

nursing_sue

2

I was bullied for a while in primary school. But then I moved house and changed schools and things were better.

Reply 8

Sprockette

15

I wasn't exactly bullied but I was pathetically shy, shyest person ever! So I was teased for that since I was 8 or 9, right up til I left home at 18 :frown:

Teasing just made me worse. Don't think I said 2 words in school ever! Had about 2 friends. Now I still look at the "popular people"'s profiles on bebo at home and I'm just so incredibly jealous of them all, I always wanted to be like them, just perfect and popular and have loads of friends. Still makes me cry to think of them. [I know thats really sad at 21 but its made me really bitter] I hate going home as well, I just tense up when I get near home and don't relax til I'm back at uni. Home is Ireland so at least I have an excuse not to go home much!

Reply 9

Rouge

never happened to me, it seems like everyone makes such a big deal about bullying, but i'm sure most people get through school without these horrible experiences. Teasing and stuff is normal, me and my friends make fun of each other all the time, i would never call it bullying,

Reply 10

Seoid

People tried to bully me a couple of times at school, particularly one girl who was such a complete bitch she was like something someone had made up as a joke, but they never succeeded and often regretted it. This was because I was a target due to my "teacher's pet" status but I just used that status to my benefit and got them into whole heaps of trouble (EVIL LAUGH).

I was something of a target in secondary school until I went into fifth year (Irish equivalent of AS levels I think) and everything changed because the class was predominantly nerdy and the "popular" girls who were once bullies were now completely outnumbered. We didn't bully them back, they just lost their power. It was great and I enjoyed school so much because I felt completely like I belonged.

All bullies need is someone to give them their power. Take it away by not allowing them to get to you and they have nothing.

Reply 11

JC.

19

Yes, for about two years... then the guy made the mistake of saying something personal that touched a nerve and he ended up with a broken nose.

He never did it again after that. Can't think why.

Bullies are cowardly people. Get them by the balls and twist. :biggrin:

Reply 12

apple222888

oh the joys of middle school......

i remember the years "tuf guy" bullying people yet i did sod all about it...
then he staring picking on one of my friends...
i didnt think it was bothering him much (was just little things and he use to joke with the guy)
then one day he tried to kill himself.... he then told me that it was because of something ryan had said to him! i felt so bad as i didnt notice it...

a few days after ryan said something to my friend, not exactly sure what he said but something about him trying to kill himself and made a joke about it.

i just lost it and went crazy and started hitting him ^_^

and i was the one that got sent home!!! >.<

i have never been bullied much myself, although i had people costantly putting me down... i supose that is bullying... it made me feel so bad about my self, in the end they just got bored =]

Reply 13

apple222888

Rouge

never happened to me, it seems like everyone makes such a big deal about bullying, but i'm sure most people get through school without these horrible experiences. Teasing and stuff is normal, me and my friends make fun of each other all the time, i would never call it bullying,

in the past few years schools have been obsessed about anti-bullying (well at least in the highschool/college i went to) and it really isnt as bad as they make things out to be (again... atleast not in the school i went to)
i thought it was a pointless.... but if it does help to stop bullying then i guess its ok =]

its often the little things that get you down, like comments on how you look or act or whatever...

teasing amoung friends is fine (as long as you dont mean it and its nothing really offensive!) i do it all the time amoungst my friends =]

Reply 14

wackysparkle

14

you guys can post on the TSR anti-bullying society - its in this dept - plenty of people to help out there at all times :smile:

and lost of advice posted there as well

Reply 15

ßlαcksωαn

17

I was bullied, I don't know why but I was. And I bullied people. We all do it. I'm sure just about everyone is bullied at one stage in their life or another.

Reply 16

Eau

15

http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=185844

Reply 17

Angelil

19

wackysparkle

you guys can post on the TSR anti-bullying society - its in this dept - plenty of people to help out there at all times :smile:

and lost of advice posted there as well

I haven't joined and won't be joining, because while you can be anti-bullying, I feel there's little that can be done about it beyond primary school, unless you hire someone to be your full-time bodyguard, and even then they can't stop every evil look and whisper. Hence = pointless. Sorry.

Reply 18

Yoda

12

I was bullied through secondary school. Physical - a lot of fights, punches, hiding my stuff, whatever. Mental - rumors, comments, general stuff. I guess thats why I'm into weights now, I've seen them occasionally after and they just move quickly off. And its always funny seeing them working in sainsburys.

Reply 19

Louise88

When I was quite young, my so called friend bullied me a fair bit. We would walk to school and we would have to walk over this bridge, without fail, she would push me into the wall. She would call me names and eventually, we just stopped talking. She did it to be "cool" and to be "popular", as most bullies do. What she did to me was nothing to what a lot of people go through and it doesn't particularly bother me but i've seen her recently and she has lost the "coolness" and the "popularity" and she is left with nobody. Funny how things change...

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