Age/ Bf going to army.

Just turned 16, Bf going into the army very soon. Part time though. Would this create difficulties? :frown:

I like to think we could make it through. We have been going out for 10 months now very successfully no not one argument and been taking things slow, meaning our bond has just been getting stronger and stronger as time goes by. Is it silly however to think that at my age this would work out? Or do you think this is too serious a relationship at my age, to be considering having one where one person is away half the time?Thanks for reading. :smile:

Reply 1

jbcubed3

1

If you feel that your bond is strong, then you should be able to trust your B/F in any situation where you're apart from each other. It does seem like a difficult situation, especially with the physical distance that will come about. However, try to keep in contact a lot, spend quality time with one another when you do meet and that should hopefully strengthen the bond you share.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

Thanks hopefully ur right... not sure though. I pride myself in the fact that he knows i will stay 100% faithfull to him when he leaves. I just hope thats enough. Maybe he will want a fresh start?

Reply 3

Bubblebee

15

If he is in the Army then I expect it will be somewhat of a comforting thought that he has his girl at home.

However the Army can change peoples perspective on life...

Reply 4

HeadShock

One of my best friends is in the army and his relationship with his girlfriend is still in still going great...so its possible.

Reply 5

Little Girl Red

1

I don't think that your age should be a problem. I'm getting married to the boy that I was with at 16, and we have a wonderful relationship :biggrin:

. If you love him, stick with it, even through the difficult patches, and see how it turns out.
Red xx

Reply 6

h82think

14

No arguments? You never fight? IMO that is creepy!

Reply 7

L0RA

9

I dont see why it should be a problem especially since you've been toether a few months already, its not asthough its a new relationship.

See how it works and if either of you arent happy then maybe its time for you both to move on. :smile:

Reply 8

Twisty

You say part time, so that would suggest he is going Territorial Army. This means he'll be away around every other weekend and no more.

There is a chance he could be mobilised but that is only likely to be for 6 months to a year.

Reply 9

tis_me_lord

14

h82think

No arguments? You never fight? IMO that is creepy!

Perfectly possible, some people are just quite laid back.

Depends what you classify as a fight really, but contrary to what TSR'ians may think I'm quite hard to have serious fights with in real life. :cool:

Reply 10

Flank Runner

don't worry about it, things will be fine, plus you'll find your bond strengthens while hes in basic cause he'll be thinking/missing you more than ever

Reply 11

General Mullet

h82think

No arguments? You never fight? IMO that is creepy!

Sounds great to me.

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

OP

Thanks for your comments :smile:

Haha yes i suppose it would sound creepy that we do not fight but we compremise a lot and because we have very different styles we just accept each others opinions and take turns doing what each other want to do so theres nothing really creepy about it :smile:

I feel better now lol i'm just going to be really really supportive and see how things turn out :biggrin:

Reply 13

Anonymous #2

Just enjoy the time you have together and take things as they come.

Going from civilian life to military life is a big transition. I have to be honest as say that most relationships, especially ones that are in your age group, don't last. It's a very different life and not many people realise what it entails to be fully commited to someone in the forces. He's young, and there is a bit of a lairy drinking culture in the Army.

Through his training and then specialist training it will become more of a strain on your relationship. You won't understand the differences he's now experiencing, he may have a desire to be one of the lads and do his own thing, I imagine he'll be away from you alot, he won't always be able to speak to you let alone come and see you, his work will have to come first, etc etc.

If you do end up together then be prepared for him being deployed at 24 hours notice for months on end. Phonecalls only 20 minutes a week, missing birthdays/anniversaries/holidays/etc, being moved every 2-3 years, being moved abroad away from family and friends, living in accomodation much like a council estate, not knowing where you'll end up next, etc etc.

It's a hard life, not many young relationships survive it. (I don't know any that have) So as I said, enjoy it and take things as they come.

Reply 14

h82think

14

Anonymous

Haha yes i suppose it would sound creepy that we do not fight but we compremise a lot and because we have very different styles we just accept each others opinions and take turns doing what each other want to do so theres nothing really creepy about it :smile:

To me you still sound like the Flanders, or perhaps everyone is starring at me thinking to themselves how similar I am to Homer Simpson.

Either way, hope everything turns out for the best.

Age/ Bf going to army.

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