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I keep attracting older men on Grindr

Hi so I'm kinda bi curious I guess so my friends have pushed me into creating a grindr account but a weird thing that I've soon noticed is that I keep attracting older men like between 32-40 and I'm 19 lolI'm not old looking myself at all, no brag but girls have been calling me ''cute'' for as long as I can remember so I've learned over time that the reason I've been called that is because of my soft features and babyface :redface:

which I hate very muchso basically I don't understand why I attract men way older than me? does anyone have experience on this? Thank you

Reply 1

driftawaay

Men like young flesh. The middle aged guys go all pervy on late teen/early twenty people, because we are young and sexy.

Reply 2

Mankytoes

Original post by Anonymous

which I hate very muchso basically I don't understand why I attract men way older than me? does anyone have experience on this? Thank you

Gay guys just really dig young guys. I looked really young when I first started going out, and got loads of gay attention, other friends who looked young have reported the same. I was told the term was "twink". I found it creepy at the time, but I kind of miss it now...

Reply 3

CAElite

Haha, my gay mate says the exact same thing. Wierd older men keep opening there message with full nude pictures of themselves.

Reply 4

unprinted

Yep, whether you know it or not, you're a twink and that's attractive to men who want a twink.

They're probably doing it to everyone, on the basis that someone may be interested and if you don't ask, you don't get.

Reply 5

unprinted

Original post by CAElite

Wierd older men keep opening there message with full nude pictures of themselves.

Women get unsolicited nudes from older men too, of course.

Reply 6

ipoop

Grindr is full of closeted middle aged, bored men that often have families of their own, do not be surprised by this. All you need in gridr is to have a pulse and someone will send you a message. An older gentleman once offered to pay for a two-way taxi ride if I travelled some 10-15 miles to have sex with him in the middle of the night, around 1am!

Reply 7

Mikulc

Yeah the older guys on Grindr are really creepy, I tend to just ignore them. It really makes me cringe when guys older than my own dad talk to me, I'm just like noooooo!

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

Original post by Mikulc

Yeah the older guys on Grindr are really creepy, I tend to just ignore them. It really makes me cringe when guys older than my own dad talk to me, I'm just like noooooo!

I feel the same way :lol:

Reply 9

Skip_Snip

I've not used Grindr in about two years, I prefer OKCupid and PoF.

But yeah as others have said, older guys who want late teens/early twenties are often married and closeted.Some have said that it's a "delayed youth" - they couldn't be openly gay as youths due to society's attitudes at the time, so never got to have young lads. Doesn't make it any less creepy though!

Reply 10

barbiedreams

Original post by Skip_Snip

I've not used Grindr in about two years, I prefer OKCupid and PoF.
But yeah as others have said, older guys who want late teens/early twenties are often married and closeted.Some have said that it's a "delayed youth" - they couldn't be openly gay as youths due to society's attitudes at the time, so never got to have young lads. Doesn't make it any less creepy though!

wow i never looked at it that way

Reply 11

RyanM06

As a young gay guy, who unless I introduced myself as being gay, have always been assumed to be a straight male. Although that has little to do with the subject in question. I wonder to what degree some young guys find this so mushc more unacdepable that what almosg all girls go through? I wonder if any bullying or being rejected from social groups in their early teen years, caused a painful distinction between not fitting the constructed social expectation’s of society?
Unlike the majority of other responses from other younger guys who find older guys hitting on them creepy and cringe. Eber since I knew I liked men, have always been attracted to mature aged guys in their mid 30’s through late 40’s preferably, anyway. Specifically the guys that take care of themselves although not to the extreme. A fit body without shredded muscle’s is perfect. Tbh I have actually found MANY other guys my age (22) & younger not at all attracted to anyone younger through all the way to late 20’s and usually older, unless they are well-matured in appearance. I also know that this is actually far more common than some may belive. I have met other guys in their late teens and through to guys in their late 20’s (who I have become friends with on our common attraction to older men. In my experience, I have found that not all guys in their late 30s and 40s are “either closeted or married” to be a MAJOR GENERALIZATION. Ihonetly think that the number of young guys attarcger to older men or “dadies” is becoming commonplace in society. In the United States they seem to have a lead on this afm. I feel I’m lucky as a gay guy to have met the guy I want to spend my life with as does he, which has been steady now for 10 months. He is 39 years old, and I believe our relationship is stronger than many of my friends who are similar aged guys who have been in up and down relationships (many that seem toxic).
Why is it so hard for other younger gay guys to accept a very familiar (& most likely atopic that's to close for comfort). In this very similar subject. That one Can't help who you're attracted to! If people limit their possible relationships on such trivial subject matters such as age, and I believe more to the point (societies expectation’s specifically for someone who has “already broken a major traditional rule) they truly are setting themselves for a far more harder time. I almost never hear of young straight guys, who are discusted by older women who are attracted to them. Intact these guys are almost always far morA minority of people more open and flattered if not attracted.
Turley I wonder why other younger gay men like to use me as a scape goat to what I assume is their own personal inability to deal with their more than likely horrible dating records, high expectations, a brutal transition into puberty where it their worth and sense of self came into question if others.. As so many others try and shame me for being attracted to older guys. I think its an extreme double standard.
Most specificly for guys who may actually be attracted to older men and have no problem hooking up for sex. A question; Is it maybe ones own fear of being shammed for not fitting socital norms? In a community that too often than not has many who were ostracized for choosing to be themselves vs fitting the straight men that have been (over thousands of years through social constructs the believe that is the only one normal.
There never seems to be a shortage of daddy hunters out there. Many who brag about their “ability” to have “lost their virginity at 16 to someone 20+ years older than them”. However if you at 22 date an older man its assumed its for financial reasons which isn't the case for me, and I honestly believe true love has nothing to do with what a partner has in terms of financial wealth or assests. Double standards seem to far curler in the gay world than the straight world. The opposite of what one would aspect for a grooup of guys who have mostly all been through feelings of not fitting in. Only to be the most cruel and unaccepting (generalization) to a majority of those in their very community. It truly is sad.