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How would you do it?

I've been having this discussion with a few mates and was wondering what you guys think.

Basically, if you turn up to university as a single guy, how would you go about asking out a girl you like. So far, we dont agree on when is the best time to approach (first week, four weeks in?) and where (in the college, after lectures, one their own, around friends etc) and finally in what way (i.e. would they expect you to arrange to spend time with them on a non-dating basis first or would they prefer the swept off their feet approach where you keep it very short and ask for their number?)
Thanks

Reply 1

Juwel

18

First night out on Freshers' Week; drunk.

Reply 2

ForeverIsMyName

15

Well you're going to uni, so I presume you're at least the age of 18. All of this taken in to account, consider the following;

When: Depends
Where: Depends
How: Depends
Etc.
Etc.

Sorry to be a bit harsh, but its true.

Reply 3

Jelkin

17

Get to know her first. Be casual. Don't make a big deal out of it. Relax. The only time not to ask her is when she's on her way to a lecture/tutorial (unless of course you think she'll say no - that way she'll be in too much of a hurry to find a nice way to turn you down so she'll just say yes).

Reply 4

Nix!

11

Mate, like 80% of freshers turn up to university single. Just ask when the time is right. There is no right and wrong answer... well, except at perhaps a wake.

Reply 5

L0RA

9

Just get her number as soon as you meet her. Freshers convos normally involve swapping numbers so you can round people together to go clubbing.

Try getting to know her in a group situation first, ask her to the union with her and your friends then get to know her that way. If you hit it off maybe head for lunch just the two of you?

It'll seem a hell of alot easier when you get there. News spreads fast of whos single and whos not. I was asked within about 20mins of moving in :p:

Reply 6

Alique

2

General rule: Don't date flatmates. It can get bloody awkward.

Reply 7

khil

15

Anonymous

I've been having this discussion with a few mates and was wondering what you guys think.

Basically, if you turn up to university as a single guy, how would you go about asking out a girl you like. So far, we dont agree on when is the best time to approach (first week, four weeks in?) and where (in the college, after lectures, one their own, around friends etc) and finally in what way (i.e. would they expect you to arrange to spend time with them on a non-dating basis first or would they prefer the swept off their feet approach where you keep it very short and ask for their number?)
Thanks

Get to know her first - become her friend, then consider asking her out if indeed you still fancy her. Depends on who the girl is. If it's at uni/during fresher's week, most people find it normal to swap numbers, in which case, chat with her, then before you leave, ask for her number. That way you can call her up to hang out, then you'll have a chance to get to know her. And don't ask her in front of her friends - it's a private thing that may take thinking over, or she may reject you, in which case you'd be glad you kept it private, or if she accepts, then you two can always kiss and make it romantic if it's private.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

consider the following;

When: Depends
Where: Depends
How: Depends
Etc.
Etc.

It seems as though some people are not taking this in the spirit of "I'd like to do it this way". Thanks to those who have opinions :cool:

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