Just friends..

So theres a girl that I've fancied for a few months now, found out that she fancied me too a couple of weeks ago. So I asked her out, and she said yes :biggrin:

We spent the next few days texting each other constantly, until she went abroad, but continued texting when she came back.

Her internet had been down for a while, but she soon got it back so I figured I'd just speak to her on MSN instead of texting. However, it was always me that had to start the convo, she'd never say hi first or anything, which I found a bit odd as it was always her that used to start texting first!

But the other day, she did say hi first... to tell me that she wanted to just stay friends incase things got awkward since she liked to hang out here round my house and is friends with my friends. She said she wanted to leave the dating stuff for a while, and see where things went "naturally", and that she still liked me in that way.

Thing is, I get the impression that shes just lost interest, had a change of heart etc. Is the friends thing just an excuse for turning someone down? And how do 2 people who hang out in a group and apparently like each other, but do nothing about it, get along? I have to see her next weekend as shes coming over, not sure if itll be awkward or not :s-smilie:

Reply 1

wackysparkle

course it will be awkward! -
Scenario 1: hmm - perhaps she is just being overly cautious? -
Scenario 2 :h:

owever, by the sounds of it - it may seem that she has lost interest -
Scenario 3: she doesn't want to lose the friendship that you have? coz if you break-up she loses you

Reply 2

Louise88

There are lots of reasons, reasons which are stated above. She could just be playing it safe because she is worried about the situation becoming awkward. She could easily have lost interest and wants to let you down gently by saying "lets just be friends" or maybe she is really worried about losing you as a friend because as soon as you two start dating, it's difficult to go back to friends sometimes.

Just see how things go though, if you are really interested then see how she feels later on down the line, see if anything happens but don't pressure her too much, there are lots of reasons why she said what she did.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

Well to be fair we wern't really great friends before this happened at all, more like just acquaitances, but we did get along well. What she really likes is visiting here as her sister lives nearby, and they both usually pop round and just hang out for a couple of days. So if we did break up, she knows that I'd be here whenever she visits her sister and it might get awkward so she might just be worried about that. There are just too many possibilities :frown:

only person that knows what shes thinking is her!

I've been given some advice, which sounds pretty good to me, and that is just to ignore her when shes round here and online. Well not completely ignore her, but just not speak to her as much. Is this good advice, or will she get the wrong idea and think I'm not interested anymore?

Reply 4

wackysparkle

she may feel hurt - coz she did say that you wanted to be friends [and yes i know - this is probably the most well-used comment for basically "i'm not interested in you"]

i think safest would be to just act normal - but not overly friendly - not to a point where you are kinda ignoring her -

okay wait -- that sounds like the advice you've already been given -my bad :blushing:

just don't ignore to such an extreme! -- yes thats what i meant :proud:

Reply 5

Unique Brunette

Anonymous

And how do 2 people who hang out in a group and apparently like each other, but do nothing about it, get along? I have to see her next weekend as shes coming over, not sure if itll be awkward or not :s-smilie:

as others already said do not ignore her. she said it in a "polite" way so you shouldnt just ignore her.

as for your ques, ya its possible for 2 ppl in a group to like each other, do nothing about it and get along, i personally dont think its that strange... it will only b the 2 of them who might feel uncomfortable at times...

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

Well thx for the advice, I think I'm probably gonna just take her to one side and have a chat when shes next round, tell her what I really feel and see if she feels the same way, since lifes too short to let something like this just pass by! Much better than doing it over MSN :smile: