Trying to win a girl over!!

Hi,

Ok, i feel embarresed asking a forum this :P, but here goes.

A girl i know on msn, really nice person, get along great and all, but shes religious, and isnt the bf/gf material kinda girl. I respect her for that cuz i aint exactly that kind either(Its a culture & Religion thing so no dissing), but shes everything i ever wanted in a girl, shes the same race/religion as me, into Rock, games, and we share everything, we have practically the same interests, which is very hard to come across.

I thought i was making progress with her, shes good looking, and she finds me attractive, only known her for almost a year just on msn because of our distance issues. I thought i was making a good impression, and we ended up talking about a topic on marriage. I asked her would you consider me an ideal guy, cuz i told her i would, and she said no. Obviously she wants more in a guy, she finds me too quiet at times, and finds it awkward talking to me at times because im a bit silent. I cant think of any topics to talk to girls, thats the problem with me :frown:

She did say however when the time is right, when it comes to marriage, she wants to get an arranged marriage if she cant find anyone, but she told me straight that outta every1 one on her msn list and friends, she likes me for who i am, but she sent me a million signals when she said "you're not my type".

shes 3 months older than me, shes in uni, and im in college repeating, not much of an issue, hell, age is never an issue.

Obviously she wont be getting married till 5 years or so, but during those 5 years i want to really want her to love me as much as i love her. :frown:

Advice?

Reply 1

mc_hamster

I think maybe you're looking way too much into this. You only know her on MSN and people are very different on the internet.
Leave it and find someone in the real world.

Reply 2

ßlαcksωαn

Give up. She doesn't want to marry you. Move on.

Reply 3

RazMaTaz1

blackswan

Give up. She doesn't want to marry you. Move on.

lol, if only it was that easy.

I'm gonna meet her in the 6 week holidays anyway, and see what happens there, but never hav i felt rejected by a girl over such a petty thing.

Reply 4

ßlαcksωαn

RazMaTaz1

lol, if only it was that easy.

I'm gonna meet her in the 6 week holidays anyway, and see what happens there, but never hav i felt rejected by a girl over such a petty thing.

I see why you like her so much. But seriously I think all the talk about marriage is a little over the top...

Reply 5

Louise88

You only know this girl on the internet, you don't know her in person. People are very different in person, they act differently online. Who says that if you were to meet this girl then you would still feel something for her? Sometimes, things just don't work like that.

This girl quite clearly isn't interested in you in that way, you can't make her love you, thats not how things work. The best thing to do is find someone where you live and leave this girl alone because if she doesn't feel that way about you then there is nothing you can do about it. Find someone you can be with in person and leave this internet girl alone, i'm sure you feel a lot for her and it will be difficult but it has to be done.

Reply 6

RazMaTaz1

blackswan

I see why you like her so much. But seriously I think all the talk about marriage is a little over the top...

Its more of a culture/religion thing, i mean loads of my mates talk like this to their freinds and gf's, but she was the one who mentioned it. Probably overlooking it but a comment like that is a kick in the face :p:

Reply 7

Yoda

You're considering marriage with someone you've met on msn? Dude, that is just not cool. You want to know why you're not her type? Of course you do, that is basically what you're asking her - you're being too nice to her. Sure, being nice to people is cool, but after a while it just gets tedious. Telling her she's amazing, perfect, better than you - she'll think she's better than you. Not sure why, girls are weird like that. So clearly if she's better than you, she can get someone better than you. Though don't stop sucking up to her, she'll keep you as a friend just so she can get a quick boost whenever she's feeling low.

Hang on a second, girls aren't as stupid as I previously thought.

Reply 8

Tomber

Man, thinking about marriage with a girl that you only know on msn is just beyond me.

Reply 9

jermay88

Have you spoken on the phone or anything yet?

Reply 10

Vampyrcorn

RazMaTaz1

lol, if only it was that easy.

I'm gonna meet her in the 6 week holidays anyway, and see what happens there, but never hav i felt rejected by a girl over such a petty thing.

That will be fun. :biggrin:

Just try to make a good impression when you meet her face to face. Don't be too quiet and just see how it goes. It's inevitable that you will surprise each other - you will both have these preconceptions about each other's character and I would be very surprised if you both fit into these roles perfectly. So she might be dazzled by your sparkling character and you may have a happy ending still. :smile:

But if you're not right for her and she's not right for you then try not to take it too hard. If it's not meant to be then there's little you can do to change that. Sometimes you've just got to accept unwanted situations, you can't really force her to want you. :frown:

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