Am I Being Stupid?

Basically, I found out last night that my ex had strong feelings for my best friend (who hadmoved to Ireland) whilest I was with him. This has deeply upset me, as he did cheat on me in the end. I broke up with him like 10 months ago, but all he has done is spin a deep web of lies to me, which I have found out the truth of. I do not trust this guy. Do I dig up the past, and expose him as a very big lier or just leave it all be?

I just want to know the truth, as I feel really used by this guy.

Reply 1

mc_hamster

1

Just leave it, that way you can look like the more mature one in the situation.

Reply 2

wackysparkle

14

leave it be - move on - you don't need hassle especially from someone who did that to you
Let him wallow in what he has done -

Reply 3

Who?

1

Leave it.

Reply 4

Lek

I'd say leave it. I was with a guy for ages but we broke up a while back. I've been told that he cheated on me and I found texts from another girl about a kiss they shared (before anyone thinks I'm the kind of girl that looks through their boyfs messages - he was using my lycos free text account! rookie mistake)

Anyway, he texted me recently to ask if I thought that he cheated on me, so I just said no. Its in the past and I didnt think there was any point in dragging it all up. We've both moved on and you just have to put it down to experience. I try to think of good memories from our time together so I'm not just focussing on him as a cheater who I wasted a few years of my life on.

I understand that it is upsetting for you but you should forget it and move on, you can get nothing from exposing more of his lies, and frankly I wouldnt flatter him by spending any more of your time on him.

Reply 5

xxSAMMIxx

1

It would make you look more adult if you were to leaveit,and then maybe he will see has lost an amazing girl, but its his fault.

I think you are very brave, just move on and have fun.

Reply 6

Yoda

12

Its 10 months after you've been dating him. 10 months! I don't know how you can still remember him. It'll look a little **** if you start arguing about something which happened 10 months ago. Hell, he might even be complimented to know you're still thinking of him.

Reply 7

Jonah Ramone

19

I'd say that leaving it would be a wise option. To bring it all back will make you look vindictive, immature and selfish. It may hurt like hell, but you should move on. Ten months is a long time.

Reply 8

All-American Reject

What would you really gain from dredging it all up again :smile:

?

Reply 9

domlague

1

Hi,

Move on! Go and find a better guy.

And learn from what happened with this one that people will be people will be people. Accept that people do silly things which are not always nice or rational. Then learn to live with the world, as you sure as hell aren't going to change it.

- Hope that helps a bit :smile:

,

- me.

Reply 10

Anonymous #2

go and flirt with other fit guys, me and my girlies go on a pull night but we are having a competition who can stay single the longest.
haa Leave it there are plenty of other fishes in the sea

Reply 11

Joric

Anonymous

Basically, I found out last night that my ex had strong feelings for my best friend (who hadmoved to Ireland) whilest I was with him. This has deeply upset me, as he did cheat on me in the end. I broke up with him like 10 months ago, but all he has done is spin a deep web of lies to me, which I have found out the truth of. I do not trust this guy. Do I dig up the past, and expose him as a very big lier or just leave it all be?

I just want to know the truth, as I feel really used by this guy.

If you canexpose, plz. do that.

Reply 12

Meep!

9

10 months? That's quite a long time ago. Just forget him, he sounds like an idiot (sorry, but I REALLY don't hold with cheaters). You just bring yourself more stress etc by thinking too hard over this sort of situation. Don't.

Reply 13

StotheL

leave it..unless you want to be thought of as a bunnyboiler.

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