Love him but going to let go.

I've been with my bf for 13 months and tomorrow its going to be 14. I love this guy to bits, But if i tell you about my age you'll probably say its not love, she's too younge but it is (im 16). Whatever bugs him bugs me, we think alike, we have such a good understanding about it each other its like we have the same minds, even though we live millions of miles away from each other he's always there in my mind, whether im talking to a friend or before i do my exams i just think about him even for that spilt second. But theres a problem there is no way on earth our family is going to agree with our relationship and this is because he is my brothers wifes cousin...in other words my sister-in-law cousin. I know its not a blood relationship but my family wont approve.

I love this guy like anything but i need to and have to let him go because in the furture its not going to work out and he also loves me deeply. I mean he causes self violence just because he thought i might get marries to someone else. We have a long distance relationship so i guess it would be easer for me to make him hate me, as i could just stop mailing him slowly and not replying well so he would slowly be out off by me.

I have to give him up but its hard and need help with this whole thing because its eating me up slowly inside.

Reply 1

Jelkin

What!? Why do you have to give him up? It's not really your family's business who you see, given that he's not dangerous or a criminal or anything like that. And why would they disapprove so much? If you love him like you say you do then don't give him up! What makes you think it won't work out in the future?

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

Are you from Middle East?

Reply 3

Anonymous #3

So let me understand this. You're in love with your cousin's sister-in-law, who lives away and you send letters to one another?! More to the point, you are 16, not 60, and I feel that you could get a boyfriend closer to you who you might actually be able to see frequently. What it sounds like is that he is your best-friend, which is fine. An ex-girlfriend of mine is my best-friend, but we split up as our closeness was causing us to bicker.

My advice to you is, yes, let him go! BUT still keep in contact through the post as best friends, this will then better the both of you. You cannot keep it going through fear of him self-harming; it's not good for you!

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

its because like i have said hes my sister-in-law cousin and i dont think my family will agree to it. The problem is i cant do anything without my family's premission, its the way our culture goes. I dont want to let him go i really dont. God this is becoming harder

Reply 5

Nix!

Sorry to put a damper on things but seriously, get things into perspective. Have you actually had any real meaningful contact with him excluding the LDR correspondence?

Like you said yourself, you're 16. You won't believe it at the moment, but there are so many other fish in the sea. You're at an age where any affectionate contact is something you don't want to let go. Seriously, just end it, find a nice boy locally and get on with your life. He's thinking about marriage already? ...Okay. That's ever so slightly strange and quite frankly clingy. But hey, you're sixteen - it's to be expected!

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