need him 2 shave

This is one of them silly threads but basically been texting this guy, and etc and we might end up dating soon. I do like him mentally and physically but when he decides not to shave for a day or 2 he looks bad, trampish. Im not actually a shallow person but im not sure if im acting like one. Its a real turn off. And he just looks like a sleezy guy. So what im wondering is how to say to a guy your not dating or at the beginning of dating to shave without making it sound so bad. Dont know whether he'd be annoyed or hurt by it at such an early stage....or how guys in general would take to basically being told to sort it out. Any ideas would be most appreciated. :s-smilie:

THanks
ps. not sure why making thread anon!

Reply 1

hannah_dru

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He might be offended but it depends on the way you told him. With my boyfriend, I just told him outright and said "Would you mind if I asked you to shave? Sorry if it sounds rude, but it's a personal preference." He was like "Yeah, ok, cool."

Reply 2

Thud

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another bad thing about when guys don't shave is it's like kissing sandpaper. ow.

Reply 3

username30638

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hannah_dru

He might be offended but it depends on the way you told him. With my boyfriend, I just told him outright and said "Would you mind if I asked you to shave? Sorry if it sounds rude, but it's a personal preference." He was like "Yeah, ok, cool."

Would you stop wearing make-up if your boyfriend asked you? I doubt it. Why should he change just because you don't like it?

Reply 4

hannah_dru

2

half face

Would you stop wearing make-up if your boyfriend asked you? I doubt it. Why should he change just because you don't like it?

I have done before yes, and I'm very concious about my appearance because I've been bullied a lot before.

I don't ask him that often, because it's his choice. Excuse me for having a pref.

Reply 5

natsing

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I love it when guys don't shave for a couple of days, stubble is sexy!!! (my fella has a goatee and mustache, so I'm obviously not opposed to facial hair!) Though I have met men that don't suit it in the slightest, so I can understand where you're coming from, hmm, the only way you're ever going to get him to shave regulrly is to ask, and thats it really. Be direct, but not rude, use the preference line that hannah dru suggested, sounds good to me!

Reply 6

Anthonyjm71

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Anonymous

This is one of them silly threads but basically been texting this guy, and etc and we might end up dating soon. I do like him mentally and physically but when he decides not to shave for a day or 2 he looks bad, trampish. Im not actually a shallow person but im not sure if im acting like one. Its a real turn off. And he just looks like a sleezy guy. So what im wondering is how to say to a guy your not dating or at the beginning of dating to shave without making it sound so bad. Dont know whether he'd be annoyed or hurt by it at such an early stage....or how guys in general would take to basically being told to sort it out. Any ideas would be most appreciated. :s-smilie:

THanks
ps. not sure why making thread anon!

have you tried indirectly approching him on this subject.. to get some kind of restponce.. from him as to why he doing this to you..

Reply 7

guccilittlepiggy

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Anthonyjm71

have you tried indirectly approching him on this subject.. to get some kind of restponce.. from him as to why he doing this to you..

can you not read?

Reply 8

Louise88

I just asked my boyfriend to shave because his stubble hurt me when we kissed. He seemed to take it quite well and makes sure that he is clean shaven whenever we see's me. He knows if he shaves I wont complain and compliment him on the fact that he has shaven, it keeps him quite happy. I wouldn't have bothered too much if he had said no, if he doesn't want to shave then he doesn't have to. He does look much better clean shaven though.

Just deal with it at the time, there is no harm in asking but he might say no. Someone not shaving isn't the end of the world though, so don't let it get in the way of things. Who cares what he looks like as long as he is a nice person?

Reply 9

Chewwy

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guccilittlepiggy

can you not read?

huh?

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

Im not dating him yet although it geering to that. So i cant say anything to blunt....as i dont want to mess that up because i do like him. And its not even stubble, as id probably be more receptive to that, its odd straggly bits from the chin when he decides not to do anything. And it realllllly doesnt suit him. Thinking of saying it light heartedly but i not sure what would sound offending...because i am asking him to change something quite early.... what wouldnt sound to bad? I just cant understand why!!!! :confused:

Reply 11

lil'p

10

my gf tells me all the time i dont feel any different about her

Reply 12

high priestess fnord

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half face

Would you stop wearing make-up if your boyfriend asked you? I doubt it. Why should he change just because you don't like it?

there is no comparison between make up and shaving. makeup is purely cosmetic and makes no difference to the other person. giving your partner stubble rash on the other hand is something they are allowed to object to. shaving and washing are things that its only polite to do before seeing the object of your desire.

make a joke of it, flirt and then say that if he was clean shaven you may even want to kiss him... or something along those lines

Reply 13

L0RA

9

When he IS clean shaved compliment him on it? That normally gets the message across :smile:

Reply 14

Profesh

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Anthonyjm71

have you tried indirectly approching him on this subject.. to get some kind of restponce.. from him as to why he doing this to you..

What; subliminally? Newspaper-cuttings of prominent, bearded despots throughout history, pinned to the refrigerator? A foot-high effigy of Ivan The Terrible, impaled upon a knitting-needle? A framed portrait of Rasputin, with "NO!" emblazoned across it in thick, red paint?

Or could it be that you are simply disgorging your usual quota of putrid, teeming effluent?

Reply 15

Mush1

The only reason I don't shave often is because I'm too lazy and I personally don't mind my own facial hair. However, if someone asked me to shave I probably would, as by then I probably actually need to shave. xd

Reply 16

sufiankane

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i dont see the point of complaining abput facial hair, it makes me look like a lazy idiot who cba to shave and it makes me look like a bum, if you have got a problem with hsi facial hair tell him why on earth do you do it it is terrible!!! in a joky way, then he will goo no it doesnt then get loads of ur friends (who are girly and stylish ) to agree with you then he will reconsider the opinion.

Reply 17

Jelkin

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I think you should consider talking to him about this once you've been going out for a bit. It seems pretty harsh to start going out with someone then try to influence the way they present themselves straight away.

Reply 18

Yoda

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Just tell him you'd prefer it if he shaved. Of course if it is a personal preference, he's not going to change his image just for you. However if he is just forgetting, it might remind him before hand.

Reply 19

Melissa85

Send your man to me. I love men with stubble so much I'll lick it off his face.

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