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So why is it that you guys just don't text back?

Is it as simple as your not interested anymore?

I've been in a casual relationship with this guy for a while. We live some distance apart but when I come home for hols and such I see him.

In the beginning he was the typical guy, always calling and replying to texts straight away. Making me feel really wanted.

But now he seems disinterested. I sent him a really nice text on his birthday with promise of a birthday 'treat' but no reply. If he cared he'd reply, right? Is it as simple as he doesn't care enough to reply? No matter how busy you are we can all reply to a text if we want to.

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

some people dont like to text alot and some people may run out of credit etc

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

but still if you wanted to get back to someone and you were a guy you'd find a way. Girls go OCD on it.

Reply 3

Louise88

I don't like how guys get all the blame for this not texting back rubbish, girls do it too!

I don't understand why people get so paranoid over it, texting means nothing, it's proper conversations that count. If someone doesn't text back, there are a number of reasons why. They could be busy, out of credit, they might not be interested, they forget.... the list continues! Stop getting so paranoid over something as little as a text.

It's easy to say "Oh i'll get back to them when i'm not so busy" then to forget about it. It's easy to run out of credit in your phone. Texting people back might not be the most important thing for someone at that very moment in time. They will text back if and when they want to....

Reply 4

Strictly Business

14

^ Well said.

Reply 5

Dude

14

aKa Your Idol

^ Well said.

:dito:

Stop being so paranoid over so little a detail.

Reply 6

supernova2

11

Although if a girl text me promising a birthday "treat" id tex back pretty sharpish. Maybe his gf found out :biggrin:

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

Exactly, though he does have a very prominent 'ex' in his life as they have a child together yet he says he's very attracted to me.

I'm tempted to text/call and see what's wrong but don't wanna look desperate. Might wait a bit longer (couple of weeks) and call.

Reply 8

JC.

19

I don't like texting. Genuinely I hate it :s-smilie:

I prefer to call someone back than text especially when someone wants a complex answer. I really cant be arsed to tap buttons for 10 mins when I can talk and get the message over in 2!
Perhapse thats just me....

Reply 9

Robbolo

13

Anonymous

I'm tempted to text/call and see what's wrong but don't wanna look desperate. Might wait a bit longer (couple of weeks) and call.

By desperate do you mean interested? Cause i can say if you leave it weeks, he could easily have moved on. Do it now, delaying it is only going to make it harder

Reply 10

IndianDiva

Louise88

I don't like how guys get all the blame for this not texting back rubbish, girls do it too!

I don't understand why people get so paranoid over it, texting means nothing, it's proper conversations that count. If someone doesn't text back, there are a number of reasons why. They could be busy, out of credit, they might not be interested, they forget.... the list continues! Stop getting so paranoid over something as little as a text.

It's easy to say "Oh i'll get back to them when i'm not so busy" then to forget about it. It's easy to run out of credit in your phone. Texting people back might not be the most important thing for someone at that very moment in time. They will text back if and when they want to....

:dito:

Reply 11

khil

15

Anonymous

Is it as simple as your not interested anymore?

I've been in a casual relationship with this guy for a while. We live some distance apart but when I come home for hols and such I see him.

In the beginning he was the typical guy, always calling and replying to texts straight away. Making me feel really wanted.

But now he seems disinterested. I sent him a really nice text on his birthday with promise of a birthday 'treat' but no reply. If he cared he'd reply, right? Is it as simple as he doesn't care enough to reply? No matter how busy you are we can all reply to a text if we want to.

A few possibilities:
1) He ran out of credit.
2) He didn't get the text cus of stupid network.
3) He didn't feel the need to reply.
4) He's not interested anymore.

My bf doesn't always reply to everything I text him, and even before I dated him he never used to reply to texts cus he's constantly out of credit, or he used to be anyway. One of my best friends never replies to texts or even emails, and another one of my best friends usually replies but other times she replies days later, or not at all cus she's run out of credit.

And guys don't think a text would matter, much like they don't see the significance of "xxx" at the end of an email or text, whereas a girl would get paranoid if a text had 3 x's as opposed to 4 lol. Basically, often girls read too much into things. Relax :smile:

Reply 12

lljaneth

i dont think your totally out of line for suspecting there may be a bigger reason than 'no credit' behind it..if hes continuously not texting back and has been able to in the past it COULD be that he just cant be bothered, which isnt a good sign. its just one or two texts he hasnt replied to however..its nothing to worry too much about really..he's still taking your calls right?

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

OP

too scared to even try calling. i text him a few hours ago but no reply - think it is the end

Reply 14

DrNick2006

10

I seldom feel the need to reply to texts- why waste 12p! Especially when I'm going to see them the next day/week/year/life (delete as appropriate)

And I suppose I should moan about the flippancy of the expression "go OCD on it", but I'm not too touchy about it... :biggrin:

Reply 15

Yoda

12

There's a lot of reasons I can't be bothered to reply.

You sent a **** text that does not deserve my time.
I'm a busy man.
You're annoying.
I can't be bothered.
I don't want to waste credit.
I've already replied to 10 already today, leave me alone.

And many more which are not on the top of my mind. Give me 10 mins for someone to remind me, and I'll post some more.

Reply 16

Enchanté

14

Maybe because it was his birthday he meant to text you but was busy enjoying his day.

Reply 17

Anonymous #3

Yoda hits the spot. If we don't reply we can't be bothered / you're boring us / we don't want to waste our credit on you / etc. It's not a good thing. Are you texting this guy loads for no reason? :smile:

Reply 18

Dez

20

Anonymous

too scared to even try calling. i text him a few hours ago but no reply - think it is the end

Oh for crying out loud... Phone him! You cannot judge feelings from stupid text messages. Honestly, SMS has to be amongst the worst inventions of mankind ever, what a waste.

Reply 19

Anonymous #1

OP

Since i already text him 2night i will now have to wait to call him. Waaaaaaaah!

So why is it that you guys just don't text back?

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