Changing and moving on

I don't usually offer this advice to people, but he's a crush. You can't have him so ofcourse, like all respectable game-players; you now want him.

Find someone else to pine over.

Recently I've been pretty.. well, hung up over someone I know. I've known him for five years, but only really started to realise how I felt about him a year ago. The problem is, he has a partner, and while I know I'd never do anything to jeopardise their relationship, it doesn't change how I feel about him.

Over the past year I've got to know him so much more than ever before, and he has become even more of a friend to me. But I realised the other day that being friends is not necessarily the best thing in the long run, because I'll still want more deep down, and it isn't fair on him or his partner.

Anyway, it probably sounds really stupid, but because I've been feeling this way for such a long time now.. I feel like I've become a different person who I don't like, and to completely move on I need to go back to who I was, or more realistically- change from what I've become. For a start, I'm going to try to avoid seeing him when it isn't necessary (but we work at the same place, so I can't avoid him completely), but (and this is going to sound really stupid) I was wondering if maybe some physical changes to myself would help too? This all sounds really rash I know, but I just need to move on and I'm not sure what is the best way to go about it.

Thanks everyone- I really appreciate any help!

I don't usually offer this advice to people, but he's a crush. You can't have him so ofcourse, like all respectable game-players; you now want him.

Find someone else to pine over.

You'll get over him soon enough - it'll be stupid to have plastic surgery over it. If you really want some physical changes, how about an extra ear piercing, or a change of clothes? If you never wear blue, wear some blue for a change. If you always wear purple, don't wear purple as often.

You will only end up hurting him by ignoring him and ceasing to hang out with him, cus he's gonna wonder what he's done wrong etc and think you don't wanna be his friend anymore. Just stopping seeing him outside of work is a stupid idea. Talk to him - tell him that you need distance from him because you fancy him, but you do not wish to jepordise his relationship with his gf. It's an honourable thing and there's nothing wrong with it. So just tell him, can you please cut down the contact until you get over him. That way, he doesn't get hurt and think you're not his friend anymore, there'll be no confusion. Makes no difference on the contact front cus you'll still be cutting contact.

You remind me of someone i know You don't happen to work in a fast-food place do you, lol?