The Student Room Group

Reply 1

Who are you, and why are you hiding behind people?

Loneliness for me is something that I can feel around people. Being around large groups of people with whom I have nothing in common with makes me feel awful. I crave the company of certain types of people, not just anyone who pays me attention to stave off their own loneliness. Loneliness is a dog chasing its tail game.

Face yourself, find out what you want to develop in yourself and make this your priority. It's not easy, but it's like anything that matters. Put your energy into it and you will find out new things about yourself and will stop relying on others to prove your worth. You'll know what it is you truly want in a relationship, be it a friendship or a something more, then you can choose to discriminate between feeling lonely because you need constant reassurance and feeling lonely because you want to share your thoughts, feelings and thus time with someone.

Reply 2

I think it's normal to be feeling like that when you've broken up with someone. Have you told your friends about this? Maybe after a while you'll start to realise that being independant isn't a bad thing. It might just be the impact of the moment.