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Men... really?!

Grr, just a little moaning post. There's a guy I've been flirting with for ages - he works behind the bar at uni, and we kissed before christmas, but then everything got really busy and I'd not seen him since then up until a few weeks back, when we started flirting again, and he was being nice and asking where I'd been, saying he'd missed me etc, which was cool but I'm quite shy so maybe sometimes I'm a bit too coy than is necessary. Anyway, the other day I was in the bar with two friends, and he was working, and we'd been flirting a bit (this sounds so naff, haha), and when my friend went up to the bar, he asked her "is your mate single"; she assumed he meant me, and then he said "no, the other one". Just for the record, the other friend has never met or spoken to him before other than to order drinks at the bar, she's not been encouraging him in any way. I know it's just flirting, but seriously, why does he have to say it when he knows it'll get back to me like that?! I actually hoped there might be something there, more fool me! I really thought he was a nice person, but this makes me think otherwise. Why do we even bother?

So... grr! Why do some people have so little tact?!

Reply 1

ntf

I don't get what you're annoyed about...

Reply 2

tigerladie

omg thats a lot of blahs....basically hes not worth thinkin about!!!

Reply 3

lljaneth

Anonymous

Grr, just a little moaning post. There's a guy I've been flirting with for ages - he works behind the bar at uni, and we kissed before christmas, but then everything got really busy and I'd not seen him since then up until a few weeks back, when we started flirting again, and he was being nice and asking where I'd been, saying he'd missed me etc, which was cool but I'm quite shy so maybe sometimes I'm a bit too coy than is necessary. Anyway, the other day I was in the bar with two friends, and he was working, and we'd been flirting a bit (this sounds so naff, haha), and when my friend went up to the bar, he asked her "is your mate single"; she assumed he meant me, and then he said "no, the other one". Just for the record, the other friend has never met or spoken to him before other than to order drinks at the bar, she's not been encouraging him in any way. I know it's just flirting, but seriously, why does he have to say it when he knows it'll get back to me like that?! I actually hoped there might be something there, more fool me! I really thought he was a nice person, but this makes me think otherwise. Why do we even bother?

So... grr! Why do some people have so little tact?!

men are the most clueless human being ever. seriously. when it comes to relationships anyway.
you shouldve gotten your friend to go to him and say yes im single but SO not interested.

Reply 4

Mikesev

10

So... where's the beef? He asked if she was single, didn't mean he was interested.

I mean it could, but you're jumping to conclusions. Sound him out and find out.

Reply 5

General Mullet

LOL, the guy has done nothing wrong!

Reply 6

lljaneth

Mikesev

So... where's the beef? He asked if she was single, didn't mean he was interested.

I mean it could, but you're jumping to conclusions. Sound him out and find out.

why else would he ask? a poll for psych class?

Reply 7

tigerladie

where did all the blahs go, am i starting to see things :eek:

Reply 8

Nix!

11

For a minute I was worried I knew you. Haha.

Reply 9

King Hippo

9

lljaneth

men are the most clueless human being ever. seriously. when it comes to relationships anyway.

Lovely generalisation, that. I pity the decent lad that ends up with you, the poor bugger will never be trusted.

Reply 10

lljaneth

King Hippo

Lovely generalisation, that. I pity the decent lad that ends up with you, the poor bugger will never be trusted.

lol, i apologise, i realise there must be SOME men that arent stupid. am just on the verge of a breakup and therefore very anti the male species..my male friends love me right now.

Reply 11

username47781

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tigerladie

where did all the blahs go, am i starting to see things :eek:

Ah he's gone whoever he was, just some invading tosspot i think.

Reply 12

stoney

12

King Hippo

Lovely generalisation, that. I pity the decent lad that ends up with you, the poor bugger will never be trusted.

lol what she said was basically true though (lets face it)

Reply 13

Anthonyjm71

9

nik87

I don't get what you're annoyed about...

nor me either why get so angry..

Reply 14

Anthonyjm71

9

lljaneth

men are the most clueless human being ever. seriously. when it comes to relationships anyway.
you shouldve gotten your friend to go to him and say yes im single but SO not interested.

if he cant get it.. if you do that hes never going to is he..

Reply 15

lljaneth

Anthonyjm71

nor me either why get so angry..

wouldnt you be annoyed if you made an effort to show a guy you like him and have him respond likewise only to hear he's more interested in your friend who he has just only laid eyes on?

Reply 16

Louise88

I can see why you might be slightly annoyed. The fact that you two were flirting made you think that he was interested in you and that you had a chance. Now you think that he is eyeing up your friend so you feel slightly led on by him and a little bit let down because you sort of like him and the attention you were getting. Something like that anyway, yes?

Truth is, the guy didn't really do anything wrong. He was flirting with you but people flirt all the time and nothing comes of it. He might have thought you were being quite friendly so by asking your friend if your other friend was single, he actually didn't realise it would get to you in such a way. He didn't do anything wrong, so don't hold it against him.

Reply 17

Robbolo

13

If you cared about him enough to get so wound up and upset over this, how come you didnt ask him out months ago?

Reply 18

sufiankane

2

he could have just been joking when he said no the other one.

Reply 19

Yoda

12

On the one hand, perhaps he said it as a joke. On the other hand, perhaps he likes your friend more, and is only chatting you up for your friend or if your friend says no. Maybe its his personality to flirt a little. And as you said, playing it a little too coy, he might not have realised.

Men... really?!

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