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I upset him on his birthday

My boyfriend had his best mate and girlfriend round for his birthday. I get on well with his mate and girlfriend. I have thought his mate was a bit of alright but obviously I love my boyfriend to bits and want to be with him. Apparently the next morning he woke me up on his birthday and said I spoke in my sleep and he couldn't remember what I had said. Then I asked him again later and he said I said a guys name but he would rather not say the name as it’s hurtful.

I know if it was a male friend of mine he would have argued. Apparently I have shouted out 2 guys names before, I tried to explain I don't remember doing this or dreaming. I have no idea why I supposedly shout these names out.

I treated him to a meal on his birthday and was kind to him. I just feel awful cos he avoided driving past his mates as we usually go that way to go places but he took a different route. I just hope he doesn't tell his mate cos he will go round all big headed and his girlfriend would want it out with me.

I am annoyed now cos I think he is going to stop us meeting as a group as he fears I want his mate. I do find it awkward being around his mate sometimes and his mate seems the same, I have loads in common with his mate not that this is justifiable. I really don't want to bring it up again with my boyfriend as it will upset him.

Reply 1

that's nothing, i cracked someone's head open on a radiator on my birthday once and nearly got expelled!
I think your boyfriend is being somewhat unreasonable. People can't help what they dream about.
Hell the amount of kinky dreams I've had about people who aren't my husband is unbelievable lol.

He may not believe that you cannot remember your dream though, but that, too, is unreasonable, because you would have no reason to lie about it.

Dreams are not meant to be taken literally.
If you dream that your teeth are falling out, it means that you are stressed/worried about something. It doesn't actually have anything to do with your teeth.

It's actually a shame that you can't remember your dream, because then you would be able to look it up in a dream-interpretation book and show your boyfriend what it means.

The only thing you can do is to remind him that you cannot control your dreams, and that they are not meant to be taken literally in any case.
I'm sure he has had some strange dreams himself.

As for you shouting out guys names - talking in your sleep is quite a common thing. If they happened to be in your dream at the time (dreams which should not be taken literally), then it's not strange for their names to come out.

Anyway it's a shame he got upset on his birthday but he is being silly about it.

Reply 3

For all your bf knows you could have been shouting his name because in your dream you were murdering him! :biggrin: Maybe you should make up a story about what you were dreaming?

Reply 4

Lets face it. The whole dream matter is competely irrelivent.

Whats much more important is you've been crossing the line with your mates friend. So stop doing that, you wont have a problem.

Simple.

Reply 5

I caught my boyfriend and my best mate in my kitchen about to kiss on my birthday, him with his hand on her ass. He claimed it was her and I believed him then she pointed out she was mega drunk and I realised it was his fault.

I was saying Jay in my sleep the other night which is my mate's boyfriend and a friend of mine, I know it was Jay because I was dreaming about us all out at a club we go to regularly, but the guy I was sleeping with thought I said Joey which is my best friend. Don't worry everyone says stuff in their sleep it has no real meaning and you should calmly explain this to your boyfriend!

Reply 6

Its not clear who you want, him or his mate? If his mate is giving you the eye avoid him at all costs. Looks like you have shot yourself in the foot and I doubt you will be having your groupies very soon.

Reply 7

Bad timing on his birthday!

Dreams can mean anything, though it does sound like it has secretly bothered your boyfriend so I would be cautious. Try not to mention his friend as he will probably get paranoid!

If his friend is giving you the eye just ignore it, you are both in relationships which are not worth jeopardising.

Reply 8

dont worry about it. my boyfriend once said another girls name (a girl he used to sort of fancy) and its not really a big deal. its a dream and as long as it wasnt a sexual dream about her, its fine (he said it wasnt and there were a few of his friends in it).

of course its a bit worrying for him if you're saying another guys name in your sleep, but he should understand that you cant help what you dream about. he coudlnt say he never dreams about other girls (in a non sexual way) could he? so he cant really complain if you have a dream about another guy.

Reply 9

COME ON PEOPLE.

Read into things.

Its so obvoius this isnt just about a dream or whatever. Shes blates crossing the line and flirting with her bf's mate. tssk.