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falling in love

I've been seeing someone for about three months and I think I've really fallen in love with him. I know he really likes me and looks forward to seeing me (its long distance), and when we spend time together we have a lovely time, he takes me places and makes me feel special. I want to tell him that I love him but I don't know what he'll say to me. I don't want him to feel backed into a corner and think "oh no I have to say I love her too." and I also don't want him to think I'm just saying it because of the sexual attraction. I don't know what to do, I don't want to embarrass him or myself. When did you first tell someone how you really felt?

Reply 1

Sephrenia

16

I first told my bf that I loved him just after we had had sex for the first time...How about telling him that you love him at the end of a phone call one day, to give him a while to get used to the idea of it? it one day when hes made you feel really special just tell him =)

Reply 2

SunshineSuperman

8

If it's how you feel, just tell him. You think too much :p:

Reply 3

TreversIsGay

awwwwwwwwwww :smile:

Reply 4

plyr1688

telling him is gud

Reply 5

Nix!

11

You can't deny how you feel, but the chances are that at this early stage in the game, it's just lust.

If I truely loved someone, then I would tell them, but I wouldn't tell someone it unless I really meant it. The meaning of the word is far too diluted nowadays.

Reply 6

Shockley

OP

15

Sephrenia

I first told my bf that I loved him just after we had had sex for the first time...How about telling him that you love him at the end of a phone call one day, to give him a while to get used to the idea of it? it one day when hes made you feel really special just tell him =)

That sounds like a good idea. It's his birthday coming up and although I won't be with him, I'll be seeing him a week before that for a few days. I can maybe get him a present and write something in a card?

Reply 7

Vampyrcorn

14

Write it in pig's blood accross his wall when he's sleeping. :cool:

Ok maybe the card was a better idea. :redface:

Reply 8

dita_parlo

11

Don't say it on the phone or in a card, do it in person.

Reply 9

Magickal_Faerie

1

aye, do it in person. see him before his birthday, kiss him and say 'i love you' then do whatever. i would suggest that at the end of the 'date' and then see what his reaction is.

Reply 10

Olatunde

If you really love him, there is no harm in telling him how you feel.

Reply 11

LIVELOVELAUGH

SunshineSuperman

If it's how you feel, just tell him. You think too much :p:

I agree. Just tell him

:smile:

Reply 12

holly_golightly

Tell him! I told my boyfriend by a freudian slip...and that was at a stage that most people would have considered to be too early. We're still together a year later!

Reply 13

Mr_Velcro

5

Say it in person.

Maybe at at time when he doesn't have to respond, like in the heat of the moment right after having sex or something so if he doesn't want to say 'i love u too' then it won't matter so much as it would if you were gazing into his eyes and there wouldn't be such an awkward silence to follow.

But that way you would be givin him a chance to respond, which he wouldn't have if you just say it in a card.

Do you think he loves you though? If you are very worried about his reaction then maybe you could try to figure out how he feels before actually saying it? Maybe try telling him you care for him, if it can be woven into the conversation normally, and if he responds well to that then you may feel more confortable when you say that you lurve him. If he says nothing then leave it for a bit.

Reply 14

kimble

1

This might not help. But I was once watching a chick flick (I think, or TV programme) and anyway this girl was falling for the guy she was seeing, so one night after a date he dropped her back at her house, they said their goodbyes and had a kiss then she took a few steps away from him to leave, then turned around and said "I love you" then carried on walking. It was very romantic, but independent ... I think I might of read it in a book infact, becuase the guy said it put the girl in such a vaunrable position, but he respected her.

Reply 15

suicidal_dream

1

just tell him in person.

my boyfriend told me he loved me waaaaaay earlier than 3 months... i wasnt sure when was right to tell him that i loved him but he kinda... opened the floodgates... so to speak.

tell him... you never know what could happen and if the risk's worth taking...

Reply 16

devils_nose

10

When my boyfriend told me he loved me the first time, I was so thrilled, but I wasn't ready to say it myself (not that I didn't love him, I think I did even then but I wanted to be sure) so I waited until I was actually having to restrain myself from saying it.. tell him, he'll love to hear it, but don't feel spurned if he doesn't say it back straight away, he might need some time to process it all.

He will be chuffed to bits though, I'm sure!!

Reply 17

Dude

14

Sephrenia

I first told my bf that I loved him just after we had had sex for the first time...How about telling him that you love him at the end of a phone call one day, to give him a while to get used to the idea of it? it one day when hes made you feel really special just tell him =)

I don't think you should say I love you for the first time over the phone. It should be said in person, as stated in the above posts.

Reply 18

pumpkin7

13

my ex said it like the day we said 'we are in a relationship'.

shame he was lying, the tosser.

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