What does he mean??

My bf dumped me today, and his reason was a fair one; he felt that he could not commit to a serious relationship right now, as he feels as he isn't mature enough for it yet. He thought it wasn't fair on me as i want a serious relationship and he doesn't, so thought it was best to end it.

However, this evening we've been texting more then we did when we were going out. I started it by asking him if we could meet to talk about things properly, as today i just couldn't do it from the shock of him dumping me. I went on to ask if his parents knew about us, and he said they did but didn't say a lot. I replied saying that i wasn't surprised they hadn't said much cause i did feel they didn't like me, as i was always quiet around them. His response to this was "they did say they were going to miss you.......so am i"

What do you think this means by saying he's going to miss me? Do you think its a possibility we might gt back together? I'm :s-smilie:

Reply 1

mc_hamster

Only you and him will know that, we have absolutly no idea as we don't know him and about the whole situation.
Maybe talk to him about it.

Reply 2

L0RA

Theres a huge difference between missing someone and missing the relationship with them.

I miss a couple of people i've had relationships with but i dont miss the relationship at all. When in a relationship you get used to having someone there for you, spending time with them as well as them as a person.

The fact hes going to miss you doesnt mean he wants to get back together. Hes given a pretty concrete reason to split, if hes not ready to commit to something as serious as you want then theres nothing you can do about it :s-smilie:

Reply 3

xjes7obax

Just because someone breaks up with you doesn't mean they hate you and never want to see you again. It's natural to miss someone when you've been in a relationship, esp. the longer or more involved it has been. He's not ready to commit but obviously likes you on some level otherwise you wouldn't have been in a relationship. He's also used to being with you. These feelings do not immediately switch off with the words "I don't want a relationship anymore." It's only natural that he at first will miss you, in the same way that you may miss him. Over time, separated, these feelings will most likely subside, although the two of you may well have a 'soft spot'/care towards each other through past feelings.

As to whether or not you two will get back together, I agree wholeheartedly with mc_hamster. Only time and circumstance will tell; but I would suggest that you don't hold out for it. If it happens, it happens, but do not feel down or hurt if it doesn't.

Reply 4

Yoda

With guys it is generally easy to know what we mean, it is what we say. If he says he isn't mature enough for a relationship, it doesn't mean he dislikes you, or wants your friend. It means he isn't mature enough for a relationship.

Reply 5

Louise88

When he says he will miss you, he means he will miss you. Just because he will miss you, doesn't mean that he wants you back, it just means that he will miss your company, having you around and stuff.

If you want to know if you two have a chance of getting back together, ask him but don't just assume thats what he wants because he says he will miss you because you could be and probably will be, in for a very big disappointment.

Take it how he says it, don't read too much into it.

Reply 6

joz12345

could mean that he wants to keep you as a friend

Reply 7

leah_0600

awww

i'm sorry

Reply 8

Spent

If you both agree it's over, that's the way its meant to be. I just recommend from past experience don't get drawn back in.

Reply 9

ForeverIsMyName

Gotta be sentimental, aintcha?

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

This is a follow on of my other thread called "what does he mean?"

http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=362626

Basically during the time we were going out, both of us wrote letters to each other expressing our feelings for oneother, which we never had chance to give to each other. I've told him that i'm going to send it to him in the post, and he said that i'm welcome to have the one he wrote for me. Basically, i need help on expressing myself about a few things. When we were going out the were things we did and places went went which are times which i can never forget - they are really special memories. I need help on expressing myslef about how much i'm going to miss them and how much they meant to me. Does anyone have any suggestions?