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Open Relationships?

Anonymous #1

Apparently it's too common a search in the search box, so...
Your views?
Can they work?
Have you ever been in one?

Reply 1

Meep!

9

They're an easy get out clause for commitment-phobes. I'd stay well away...

Reply 2

Louise88

I don't like them, I don't get the point in them to be honest. It's just an easy way to have someone, but shag around and not get into trouble, well thats how I see it anyway.

I would never have one, if i'm going to be in a relationship, it's between me and that one person. I'm not going to share them with anyone else and I wouldn't even consider letting anyone else touch me. To me, if you are going to be in some kind of "relationship" then you should commit to them.

I don't think they can work, not really. It's too easy for one person to change their mind and back out of the "open relationship" because their feelings are getting stronger and they no longer want to share that person with anyone else.

If people want to do it, fine I don't really care but to put it bluntly, I think it's quite stupid.

Reply 3

username47781

20

Very rarely do a they work, most likely someone always get's hurt in the end.

Reply 4

shavenwookiee

6

Most cases jelousey takes over and destroys the couple.

Reply 5

amie

14

I was in one for a while and although it seemed the perfect solution at the time (or perhaps we deluded ourselves into thinking that, I dunno), in retrospect it did a lot more harm than good.

I'd avoid them at all costs!

Just, no.

It entirely depends, like many things, on the people involved. It is very hard to make it work, and it is definately not the best idea for most people, but some people will have success.

Reply 8

Anonymous #2

I was in an open relationship for a while, I accepted what was going on but inside I was hurting. Then we became a proper couple because I was the only one he really wanted to be with.

Reply 9

bunthulhu

14

I think they're a terrible idea, I don't think they work, and I never have and never will be in one!

Reply 10

IndianDiva

Louise88

I don't like them, I don't get the point in them to be honest. It's just an easy way to have someone, but shag around and not get into trouble, well thats how I see it anyway.

I would never have one, if i'm going to be in a relationship, it's between me and that one person. I'm not going to share them with anyone else and I wouldn't even consider letting anyone else touch me. To me, if you are going to be in some kind of "relationship" then you should commit to them.

I don't think they can work, not really. It's too easy for one person to change their mind and back out of the "open relationship" because their feelings are getting stronger and they no longer want to share that person with anyone else.

If people want to do it, fine I don't really care but to put it bluntly, I think it's quite stupid.

:dito: ;yes;

Reply 11

Anonymous #3

I'm essentially in one of them now but I wouldn't recommend it if you have real feelings for the person. It's just a glorified **** buddy.

Reply 12

silverbolt

19

it depends on the people involved they can work for some people (compulsive cheaters, commitment phobes etc) or even just those secure enough in relationships that they can do this,

personally i wouldnt go for one unless i had no strong feelings for the partner in question but in that instance i wouldnt be going out with her

Reply 13

high priestess fnord

9

tbh it sounds quite interesting. ive had a couple of shag buddies who i know occasionaly slept with other people and that was cool, i guess its kinda one step up from that. i know it wouldnt work in my relationship atm but its something i wish i had experienced.

Reply 14

ForumFreak

9

It would be pretty bad if one of them got pregnant or caught an sti.

Reply 15

Zoecb

11

No way to know if it works for you personally until you try it and see.
Everyone's different. Blanket advice (closed-minded advice in most cases) is a bit of a pointless thing to ask for.