This is wrong

I fancy my boyfriend's best mate. Don't get me wrong I love my boyfriend but when I see his mate there is something about him, we have loads in common and there is obvious awkwardness between us. Luckily his girlfriend and my boyfriend have not spotted this.

I don't like feeling like this as its unfair to my boyfriend. I would never cheat and don't believe in being a homewrecker. His mate lingers on too long looking at me when we have a laugh so I just look the other way. Did my boyfriend choose me as I possess similar qualities to his friend?

I don't like it when his mate hugs me when I leave, his girlfriend does the same to my boyfriend. I just don't think there is a need for hugs.

They annoy me as a couple as my boyfriend constantly goes on about them having sex 24/7 and how we should be like them. This does my nut in as it comes across as their relationship involves just that. Their relationship is not perfect as they always argue and she is lazy and expects him to do everything. This other couple seem very insecure and feel they need to constantly touch and kiss throughout the night.

Confused :s-smilie:

Reply 1

Citation

It's un-written law, best-mates and girlfriends do not mix (in this context) and it's a line that really shouldn't be crossed if possible. Could you imagine how your boyfriend would feel if you ended up with his best friend. Try imagine you in that situation and realize how ****ed up it is. However you seem confident in the fact that cheating is out of the question. Looking at what you're saying, it's possible it's just a quick crush. If not, you need to decide what's going to happen, as much as I hate to say this, someone will get hurt if things turn for the worse.

The second couple do sound insecure, and it's rather worrying that your boyfriend is interested in just a 24/7 sex relationship, especially theirs! Talk to him about it, express your opinion on the matter, if it's meant to be he'll understand. To be honest it sounds like a young adolescent just wanting sex, which you'll need to come to terms with weather or not you're happy with this.

I wish you the best of luck and hope my dribble of two paragraphs make some sense.

Reply 2

rawkingpunkster

Yeah it'd totally suck, and I'm glad you know it's wrong.

To suddenly turn hostile towards him would be... weird. Just continue talking to him as friends and all..

Yeah sex isnt everything. Don't let him force you to do something you don't want.

Reply 3

username47781

Well something ain't right if you have feelings for his best mate. It's a big no no for two reasons, his best mate is taken and two it would be cheating in many respects. You need to talk to your boyfriend, it's all just sex in a relationship.

Reply 4

Dragon24

If his friend is a player stay away from him. This couple have got issues and probably won't survive in the long run. We all fancy people from time to time which there is no harm. Just don't go round messing your boyfriend about, you are in a luckier position that you relationship doesn't have major insecurities like them.