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My housemate is annoying me so bad
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Arghhhh my housemate is being really annoying.
Ok like two weeks ago HE banned ME from using his pans because he said I didn't wash them up so I got my own, unlike him I can't afford a five piece jamie oliver pan set, I've got two that have wobbly handles from my mum.
So I come downstairs this morning like la la la I think I'll have some cereal then I'll cook some pasta for lunch a little later. I turn round. There is a MOUNTAIN of washing up and my pan like crammed in the washing up tub with loads of other things. Just soaking away in bright red (with tomato sauce) water that's filthy.
I'm thinking. When did I use it? When did I use it? I didn't his ****ing girlfriend has used it to cook something white and gooey (rice or rice pudding) and its burnt on. Oh and he says scourer pads are more expensive than clothes so theres no way he's going to get that **** off my pan. Now I can't cook my lunch unless I wash it up because my other pan is HUGE but I don't want to wash it up because of the principle.
Then I look on the side and my vinegar with none left is out. Not too bad because we sometimes share but I'm annoyed no one's replaced it. They've finished off my HUGE (1.2kg) bottle of ketchup too so I can't have sausages for lunch now. They're not going to replace either of them. I open my cupboard to put away my vinegar and all my food has moved. I don't have that much but I have a real specific layout so I can find everything (I'm a freak about foods being together in groups) and someone's tampered with my rice and not resealed it which is how food goes minging quicker. I dunno if they've eaten it or not or what they were looking for in my cupboard.
Also his girlfriend is here like at least 3 times a week, one week she stayed for 6 nights. My ex who we live with had a word and was like look mate you'll have to pay more of the bills and rent (they share the lease I'm being sublet to) and he said he didn't want to pay extra so now she's not allowed to be here when none of us are in and she asks me to stay home from college so she can stay round.
She's really nice but she's so irritating. She's got this whiney voice and she calls our housemate a babyish name. She ditzies round the house being void of all common sense and making a mess. She leaves her plates and stuff in the front room and doesn't always wash up after herself if the mess is hard to wash (ie burnt stuff in pans she only washes her plates). That's another thing she's not too hot in the kitchen, she burns everything to pans, she doesn't stack the washing up she puts it in a heap which means it can damage everyones stuff when it falls, she puts the grill on and leaves the oven door shut and forgets its on, she leaves a mess and she just doesnt think for herself.
Like the other day she goes Mmmm I'm gonna have beans. Then looked well confused and goes what shall I put them in? I said a pan. She goes great where do I get one? I said the pan cupboard and she goes Oh yeh and opened the cupboard without being directed to it. She knew where it was she just didn't think.
Also we're meant to have a fourth housemate to help with costs because the house is too much for three. I pay flatrate rent whatever so it doesn't affect my rent if we don't but when I moved in I agreed to a quarter of the council tax as I thought I'd get a discount because I'm a student. I don't get a discount because I'm under 18 and not eligible for it but they said because I agreed to pay it I have to. It's £50 a month because the fourth housemate left just before I moved in and I can't afford it, they both know I can't. I'm meant to be going to Edinburgh and London to visit unis and I don't think i can afford to go to either. That £50 would make such a difference and if they put in some effort to find a new housemate then it would at least go down a bit. They won't let me put an ad in the paper though (it'll attract all sorts) and so they're relying on some poxy website. We were looking when I moved in in December and it's so annoying paying money I don't have to in such large amounts because they'll evict me if I don't.
And my final complaint. They have sex. CONSTANTLY. Sex with noise and they put on their cheesy **** dance music while they do it. As well as sex in their room which wouldn't pee me off too much they regularly have sex in the communal lounge. They get drunk and leave bottles everywhere and plates and when they finish they just shut the door so when I wake up in the morning and they're lying in I walk in to the smell of their sex *gags* and mess everywhere. We also have a shower which backs onto my housemates room (its ensuite but they agreed its communal because otherwise my ex wouldnt have taken the house) and they have sex in their for like 3/4 of an hour which is so annoying when I want a ten minute shower so I can be up and out.
I can't complain because I seem really ratty and I don't like confrontation. Plus I've tried to politely say something before and my housemate (who as I said is joint landlord with my ex as they're subletting) said It's my house I can do what I wan't. Apparently it's not mine and I'm not allowed to do what I want (they ban me having friends or coming home late depending on their moods) but they can because they are the landlords, named on the lease and pay more than me. What can I do to stop the annoyance? I just want my stuff to myself and my personal space to not be invaded by their **** music and banging through the night, or stupid questions? Sorry to rant I'm bloody annoyed.
Ok like two weeks ago HE banned ME from using his pans because he said I didn't wash them up so I got my own, unlike him I can't afford a five piece jamie oliver pan set, I've got two that have wobbly handles from my mum.
So I come downstairs this morning like la la la I think I'll have some cereal then I'll cook some pasta for lunch a little later. I turn round. There is a MOUNTAIN of washing up and my pan like crammed in the washing up tub with loads of other things. Just soaking away in bright red (with tomato sauce) water that's filthy.
I'm thinking. When did I use it? When did I use it? I didn't his ****ing girlfriend has used it to cook something white and gooey (rice or rice pudding) and its burnt on. Oh and he says scourer pads are more expensive than clothes so theres no way he's going to get that **** off my pan. Now I can't cook my lunch unless I wash it up because my other pan is HUGE but I don't want to wash it up because of the principle.
Then I look on the side and my vinegar with none left is out. Not too bad because we sometimes share but I'm annoyed no one's replaced it. They've finished off my HUGE (1.2kg) bottle of ketchup too so I can't have sausages for lunch now. They're not going to replace either of them. I open my cupboard to put away my vinegar and all my food has moved. I don't have that much but I have a real specific layout so I can find everything (I'm a freak about foods being together in groups) and someone's tampered with my rice and not resealed it which is how food goes minging quicker. I dunno if they've eaten it or not or what they were looking for in my cupboard.
Also his girlfriend is here like at least 3 times a week, one week she stayed for 6 nights. My ex who we live with had a word and was like look mate you'll have to pay more of the bills and rent (they share the lease I'm being sublet to) and he said he didn't want to pay extra so now she's not allowed to be here when none of us are in and she asks me to stay home from college so she can stay round.
She's really nice but she's so irritating. She's got this whiney voice and she calls our housemate a babyish name. She ditzies round the house being void of all common sense and making a mess. She leaves her plates and stuff in the front room and doesn't always wash up after herself if the mess is hard to wash (ie burnt stuff in pans she only washes her plates). That's another thing she's not too hot in the kitchen, she burns everything to pans, she doesn't stack the washing up she puts it in a heap which means it can damage everyones stuff when it falls, she puts the grill on and leaves the oven door shut and forgets its on, she leaves a mess and she just doesnt think for herself.
Like the other day she goes Mmmm I'm gonna have beans. Then looked well confused and goes what shall I put them in? I said a pan. She goes great where do I get one? I said the pan cupboard and she goes Oh yeh and opened the cupboard without being directed to it. She knew where it was she just didn't think.
Also we're meant to have a fourth housemate to help with costs because the house is too much for three. I pay flatrate rent whatever so it doesn't affect my rent if we don't but when I moved in I agreed to a quarter of the council tax as I thought I'd get a discount because I'm a student. I don't get a discount because I'm under 18 and not eligible for it but they said because I agreed to pay it I have to. It's £50 a month because the fourth housemate left just before I moved in and I can't afford it, they both know I can't. I'm meant to be going to Edinburgh and London to visit unis and I don't think i can afford to go to either. That £50 would make such a difference and if they put in some effort to find a new housemate then it would at least go down a bit. They won't let me put an ad in the paper though (it'll attract all sorts) and so they're relying on some poxy website. We were looking when I moved in in December and it's so annoying paying money I don't have to in such large amounts because they'll evict me if I don't.
And my final complaint. They have sex. CONSTANTLY. Sex with noise and they put on their cheesy **** dance music while they do it. As well as sex in their room which wouldn't pee me off too much they regularly have sex in the communal lounge. They get drunk and leave bottles everywhere and plates and when they finish they just shut the door so when I wake up in the morning and they're lying in I walk in to the smell of their sex *gags* and mess everywhere. We also have a shower which backs onto my housemates room (its ensuite but they agreed its communal because otherwise my ex wouldnt have taken the house) and they have sex in their for like 3/4 of an hour which is so annoying when I want a ten minute shower so I can be up and out.
I can't complain because I seem really ratty and I don't like confrontation. Plus I've tried to politely say something before and my housemate (who as I said is joint landlord with my ex as they're subletting) said It's my house I can do what I wan't. Apparently it's not mine and I'm not allowed to do what I want (they ban me having friends or coming home late depending on their moods) but they can because they are the landlords, named on the lease and pay more than me. What can I do to stop the annoyance? I just want my stuff to myself and my personal space to not be invaded by their **** music and banging through the night, or stupid questions? Sorry to rant I'm bloody annoyed.
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Reply 1
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I'm absolutely horrified by what I read here, you poor thing! And I thought what I went through was bad!
I know you shouldn't have to, but is there any way you could move out?
I know you shouldn't have to, but is there any way you could move out?
Reply 2
Why not try a different ad in the paper? Look for one where someone wants a lodger? They both sound like jerks.
Reply 3
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OP
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The earliest I can move out is end of april/may because I have to give notice a month before I leave so at the point I pay rent. I don't want to move then because I'm moving out at the end of may anyway into my own flat (I'm so looking forward to my own space) and I can't afford to move into a flat any earlier. It'd be pointless moving somewhere else for like a month. I'm so looking forward to my own place and the mess only being mine and any sex being me.
They're not bad they're just quite selfish and he thinks he can do whatever he wants which legally he can. It's little things it's just very very annoying and as I said he thinks he can do whatever he want as landlord so you can't reason with him. So frustrating!
They're not bad they're just quite selfish and he thinks he can do whatever he wants which legally he can. It's little things it's just very very annoying and as I said he thinks he can do whatever he want as landlord so you can't reason with him. So frustrating!
Reply 4
tbh i think mass murder is the only option in this case.
you really should tell your flatmates how annoying they are, maybe in more tactful words tho.
you really should tell your flatmates how annoying they are, maybe in more tactful words tho.
Reply 5
It sounds like a bit of a situation you have there. Have you tried calling out a house meeting to get this all out in the open? You're still paying rent, so you do have a voice in this. Could you really imagine yourself living with these people much longer though - why don't you move out?
If nothing arises out of the house meeting, i think this really might start to affect you're mentality, i have a housemate who's an annoyance and it doesn my brains in - but my case seems miniature compared to yours - you seem to have a whole list of things to get out in the open there.
Good luck, whatever happens.
If nothing arises out of the house meeting, i think this really might start to affect you're mentality, i have a housemate who's an annoyance and it doesn my brains in - but my case seems miniature compared to yours - you seem to have a whole list of things to get out in the open there.
Good luck, whatever happens.
Reply 6
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OP
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There's only one paper you can advertise in, they own all the local papers so it goes into all of them but they don't want to advertise in it because they say we'll get 'pikeys, chavs and riff raff'. It's so dumb when they moved in someone's friend who they both slept with and who then threw a glass at one of them (long story) and they moved in me despite me coming to the interview off my face (I don't get that wasted anymore but that's not the point). But yeh their word is final.
Reply 7
Put your foot down you ****ing walk over. You chose to move in with these pigs in the first place. Oh, get a job, then you might be able to afford something.
Reply 8
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OP
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I have a job actually jackass so stop assuming stuff. I do 25 hours of college which I'm meant to do equal private study for, do 3 extra curriculur activities and need to travel for an hour and a half every weekend to visit my mum so I can't afford to work full time to pay for stuff. Why the hell should I? I'm working hard at college and I work hard at my job in the evenings, I shouldn't be paying for crap that is my landlords responsibility.
Plus have you seen the costs of trains to london and edinburgh recently? It's around £100 for one ticket and it's £50 to london. Plus food, accomodation and board. I'm under 18 so I earn £4.83 so that's ALOT of work to make what will be about £300 for the trips.
And I didn't know they were pigs when I moved in with them. My spidey sense didn't inform me. They were friendly and chatted to me and my housemate didn't have a girlfriend then so she wasn't around ditzing and humping everywhere.
I just told my housemate I'm not paying a third of the council tax this month I'm paying a quarter and he said he'll put all my stuff on the street if I do and evict me.
Plus have you seen the costs of trains to london and edinburgh recently? It's around £100 for one ticket and it's £50 to london. Plus food, accomodation and board. I'm under 18 so I earn £4.83 so that's ALOT of work to make what will be about £300 for the trips.
And I didn't know they were pigs when I moved in with them. My spidey sense didn't inform me. They were friendly and chatted to me and my housemate didn't have a girlfriend then so she wasn't around ditzing and humping everywhere.
I just told my housemate I'm not paying a third of the council tax this month I'm paying a quarter and he said he'll put all my stuff on the street if I do and evict me.
Reply 9
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i bet you are a pleasure to live with. every couple of days you come here with a new complaint. i bet they have plenty of problems with you too, probably because of your whiny-ness.
Reply 10
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Keep your clean pans in your bedroom.
Turn rock music on really loudly when they are having sex (or pretending to).
Interrupt them when they are having sex in the lounge.
Do not talk to the girlfriend, leave it at 'hi' and then walk out the room.
And think of solutions to your problems instead of just complaining about them.
Turn rock music on really loudly when they are having sex (or pretending to).
Interrupt them when they are having sex in the lounge.
Do not talk to the girlfriend, leave it at 'hi' and then walk out the room.
And think of solutions to your problems instead of just complaining about them.
Reply 11
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OP
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My housemate just came in and screamed at me about how unreasonable I am for saying I won't pay the council tax, how he's going to evict me, how no one else will want to live with me effing and blinding and screaming at me while I sat there.
Reply 12
Like I have just said over MSN, verbal agreements mean nothing...
Reply 13
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My housemate just came in and screamed at me about how unreasonable I am for saying I won't pay the council tax, how he's going to evict me, how no one else will want to live with me effing and blinding and screaming at me while I sat there.
Well use it as an excuse to move out, don't pay your final month's rent, and sleep on the floor at a friends until you make alternative arrangements.
Reply 14
try and shorten this please. also look at my advice i posted on the thread 'nightmare flatmate' about things like peeing in the kettle and so on.
Reply 15
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Students don't pay council tax! 
Reply 16
First of all, students and people under 18 don't pay council tax - so I'm not sure why you are? Seeing as you are both a student and under 18, you should probably get that sorted out.
Secondly, although it's fair enough that she shouldn't have used your pans without washing them up afterwards, I think you are being a bit silly about some of the other things. Seriously, if somebody said to me they can't have lunch anymore because there isn't any ketchup, I would probably laugh in their face - what a ridiculous excuse! And your cupboard has been disorganised? Just reorganise it then, how long does that take? :/
Overall though it sounds like a bit of a nightmare with this girlfriend being around all the time, you should probably move out.
Secondly, although it's fair enough that she shouldn't have used your pans without washing them up afterwards, I think you are being a bit silly about some of the other things. Seriously, if somebody said to me they can't have lunch anymore because there isn't any ketchup, I would probably laugh in their face - what a ridiculous excuse! And your cupboard has been disorganised? Just reorganise it then, how long does that take? :/
Overall though it sounds like a bit of a nightmare with this girlfriend being around all the time, you should probably move out.
Reply 17
Sweets im goin thru flatmate ****..too i know exactly how it feels so chin up.. head down at uni and just ignore them if u have to i know its hard xxx what train do u use to get home? cuz i always book my tickets online to get home and it works out loooooads cheaper xx PM me if u want xx
Reply 18
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And my final complaint. They have sex. CONSTANTLY. Sex with noise and they put on their cheesy **** dance music while they do it. As well as sex in their room which wouldn't pee me off too much they regularly have sex in the communal lounge. They get drunk and leave bottles everywhere and plates and when they finish they just shut the door so when I wake up in the morning and they're lying in I walk in to the smell of their sex *gags* and mess everywhere. We also have a shower which backs onto my housemates room (its ensuite but they agreed its communal because otherwise my ex wouldnt have taken the house) and they have sex in their for like 3/4 of an hour which is so annoying when I want a ten minute shower so I can be up and out.
GOOD SUGestions
1. Take videos of them and put it up on you tube.
2. Use voodoo. This will make the guy impotent and will turn the girl into a lesbian.
3. Sell tickets to neighbours to watch your housemates.
Reply 19
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OP
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When I moved in I thought I'd get a 25% discount off the council tax and they said you're responsible for a quarter of it so I said fine thinking I'd get a discount. But being under 18 I don't get a discount and they said because I agreed to pay it I have to. It's also a third now they drove the other girl out and they'll evict me if I don't pay it. So that's why I've been paying it so far.
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