really like this guy...but...

ok so i really like this guy at work, we've known each other for a while and have been gradulally getting more flirty and stuff. over the last few days we've had a few chats and established that we should go out some time and stuff.

only, one of my mates has just found out and warned me off. said he's more of a druggy than him. as in, my mate is a proper druggy and this guy's worse. which kinda makes me feel uneasy as he told me he used to have a bit of a problem, but has stopped it all.

plus he's 11 years older than me, which doesnt really bother me, but i know a lot of people dont like it. so basically i just really dont know what to do, as half of work knows now (cant keep anything a secret).

and to make it worse, his ex works with us and her mum's my boss. great!!

Reply 1

Nix!

Don't go out with him then, it's not the end of the world.

Reply 2

username47781

If you are posting this and asking us then you must have doubts yourself about him, plenty of better guys out there.

Reply 3

Moriarty Man

If you really like him, take the chance and go out with him. Make the decision of whether or not he's worthy based on what YOU think of him, don't reject an opportunity just because one of your friends said he was "a druggy". Reputations are usually exaggerated anyway. Who knows, your friend could just be jealous. Then, if you do find out he's too into drugs, you can deal with it the way you want.

Reply 4

Anthonyjm71

ask him out you want know unless you try and get together!..

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

i did say that we'd established that we should go out sometime. probs this weekend. before i was all like, no im gona take him on how i find him, not on how others say. and i do know that the guy who told me he was a proper druggy does want a bit of me himself (how modest!)

it was just the drugs thing worryin me, but at the end of the day, he might actually just be saying that to people to keep up a persona or something

Reply 6

Moriarty Man

hey, I bet this guy is jealous

Don't worry about the fact your friend at work might take drugs. Meet him somewhere safe, get to know him outside the work. If you find out he does take drugs, and you're not comfortable with that, just tell him. Be honest. Obviously, if he tries to get you to do drugs with him, tell him to **** off. But give him the benefit of the doubt initially.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

well i will give him the benefit of the doubt, i've been thinkin bout it a lot tonight! someone did tell me he just did weed, which im not that arsed bout seeing as a hell of a lot of people do it. however, fear not, if he does attempt to make me do it he will get the heave-ho!