What should I do about the following guys?

Ok, three guys around at the moment, not sure if anything can or will actually happen with any of them but if you've any advice, please help! I'm really confused about it all!

Guy 1: we never went out, just had a 'thing' and he's 6 years older than me but has now decided that he's in love with me and he wants us to go out. I do still have feelings for him, was crazy about him for a long time but he did mess me around a lot. And my friends really disapprove of him.

Guy 2: ex-boyfriend, haven't seen him in a while but he started texting me recently and says he thinks we should go out again, says he still likes me. I do kinda like him and he was pretty cool boyfriend but my parents and my friends hate him.

Guy 3: Really like this guy, we've been meeting up every so often over last month or two, and up until last week he seemed really interested but now he hardly ever texts me, hasn't been up in a while and we were supposed to be seeing each other today but he bailed. But I really like him.

Thanks.

Reply 1

King Hippo

9

Why did you and number two finish? If it was just because your parents and friends hated him then I'd say get back with him.

Reply 2

jellybaby1

2

I'd go with the third guy. From the way you write it sounds as though you like him the most deep down. If he was interested before then it's unlikely he's suddenly changed his mind - maybe he's been busy etc, or just had lots of things to deal with. Or maybe he wasn't sure how you felt and was backing off a little bit. I'd give him a chance and take him bailing on you today as just something coming up. Plus, if your friends like him then they are more likely to want to hang around with you and him together, whereas they are unlikely to if they don't like him. Hope this helps :smile:

Reply 3

invisible_gal

OP

Ended it with guy no.2 because he decided he didn't want a relationship after we'd been going out for a while, and he wasn't completely over his ex-gf.
My friends didn't approve of him because he's a bit of a drinker and they thought he pressured me into doing stuff.

And yeah I do like the third guy the most. He actually comes acroos as a 100% decent guy and really want something to happen. He's just been so weird and distant over last week so don't really know what to do about him.

Reply 4

King Hippo

9

You should try for the third guy then, and if he continues to act like an arse then forget him and find a new, fourth one.

If Guy 1 messed you about and Guy 2 broke it off because he wasn't interested in a relationship, then frankly I don't think they deserve a second chance.

If you've got a choice of three guys then you must be a nice person, so it probably shouldn't be too hard for you to find someone else who deserves you more and will treat you better.

Reply 5

Yoda

12

See all of them and wait for guy 3 to ask you out. If he doesn't, you haven't lost the other two.

Reply 6

ohyeahoh

3

yeah I agree, don't cut off chances with 1 and 2 till you know if its going to happen with 3.

Reply 7

rosetinted

2

No to number 1. He has already messed you around and your friends probably don't like him for a reason.

No to number 2. He's an ex for a reason and it would really be stupid to get back together with him. He'll just mess you about all over again and your folks and friends hate him for a reason.

Maybe to number 3. For a start nobody hates him and you really like him. He may just be busy at the mo or going through a bad patch. It sounds like he's the only one you should even vaguely consider, the other 2 sound like idiots.

Reply 8

invisible_gal

OP

Tried to call guy no.3 there but he didn't answer and would hardly look at me today - what could be going on that he just suddenly seems to be ignoring me when last week he couldn't get enough of me??

What should I do about the following guys?

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