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theEuphoria

Yeowww

Reply 1

Marianne

You should be fine. I came out at college when I was 18 and it was very liberating. As long as you are moving into a mature or more adult environment it'll work out ok.

Reply 2

Talya

16

I don't know of anyone who didn't come out of the closet at uni.

Reply 3

almost_chaos

Can't imagine that you'll have a problem at uni... If people won't accept you for who you are, then they aren't the sort of people you want to know :smile:

Good luck.

Reply 4

Llamaaa

15

i haven't heard of any problems at my uni, I think by this time people are more open and perhaps exploring their own sexuality as well so the petty insults generally disappear. It's a maturity thing too I think.

Reply 5

sssh

10

I guess it depends who you are telling, but most people seem not to care. People I've told at my uni seem to not be that bothered, except for the boys of course, who are complete perverts :rolleyes:

Secondary school and sixth form can give you all sorts of complexes about your sexuality, but people should be more mature and open-minded by now. If they're not, they're not worth bothering with.

Reply 6

Helenia

20

Talya

I don't know of anyone who didn't come out of the closet at uni.

Well, if they didn't come out, you wouldn't know, would you? :wink:

But seriously, I'm yet to meet anyone apart from the Christian Union who have anything bad to say about being bi/homosexual. You might get a few jokey comments from pervy guys, but I wouldn't think it'd be any more than that.

Reply 7

Talya

16

Helenia

Well, if they didn't come out, you wouldn't know, would you? :wink:

But seriously, I'm yet to meet anyone apart from the Christian Union who have anything bad to say about being bi/homosexual. You might get a few jokey comments from pervy guys, but I wouldn't think it'd be any more than that.

I would know! Gaydar, darling!

Even the uni chaplain here is very inclusive but I am not sure about the CU itself.

Reply 8

Meep!

9

Eurgh, ********** CU! I got accosted outside Lakeland the other day by some real keens. Apparently I'm going to hell :biggrin:

On the topic, I have several friends who have 'come out' since coming to uni, and no-one's given them any trouble that I know of.

Reply 9

sssh

10

damnthelackofnames

Eurgh, ********** CU! I got accosted outside Lakeland the other day by some real keens. Apparently I'm going to hell :biggrin:

On the topic, I have several friends who have 'come out' since coming to uni, and no-one's given them any trouble that I know of.

All the CU's I've heard about - especially the one at Nottingham - are so evangelical; I don't understand it. Aren't they supposed to represent the views of all Christians? Well, I guess that could be pretty difficult.

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

Really nottinghams like that? Arg i was thinking of going there and I'm bisexual and i was hoping it would be pretty good there to come out

Reply 11

Joce

AT most universities there is a LGBT society. Anyone can join. Its good for people who do not know many people that are gay and want to share experiences, troubles and such. Id look into it at the university you will be attending. In general, most people at uni are quite liberal and i doubt you will get any trouble unless somebody is deeply religious.

Reply 12

ChemistBoy

16

Nottingham has a strong Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transexual society (the treasurer is a friend of mine) and the vast majority of people are going to be fine with your sexuality. You get bigots everywhere though and that is just the way the world is.

Reply 13

twiga

15

I've not seen any homophobia at all at uni, and I know quite a few people who are openly gay. You should be fine - as long as you feel comfortable with yourself theres no reason others shouldn't be.

Reply 14

Anonymous #2

Talya

I don't know of anyone who didn't come out of the closet at uni.

I didn't come out when I went to Univ, I din't really see the point/need, there's not rule that says you have to.

OP: There's no reason you should feel prejudiced at univ if you come ouy. Just don't become one of those people who make it the only thing about their personality. I know a few people who mentioned their sexuality within minutes of meeting them, I think it's cringe worthy and degrading.

Reply 15

sleepy_person!

Apart from the fact that people are older at uni so *in theory* more mature, you don't have that close school environment where people follow everyone else because speaking your own mind could mean becoming a social outcast. ie you get a big personallity at school saying euuurgh lesbian then there could be a tendancy to join in, get a big personality at uni sayin euuurgh lesbian people are more likely to say shut up buthole. :smile:

Reply 16

Anonymous #3

Well my home town is very close to a university and about half of its members are gay/lesbians. So when I was in town growing up I would see gay couples all the time so no-one in my school ever made fun of it really.

Few people in my year actually came out in about Year 10-11.

Reply 17

Revd. Mike

17

I already came out in secondary school, bit of a rocky road but it's fine now. It is a bit daunting of having to go through the process again at uni, but I'm told it's a lot smother there hehe. I might just get a badge and save the bother hehe.

Reply 18

starless_dark

2

Uni is amazing, a completely different experience from school. Everyone is much more grown up and tolerant, I've not heard about anyone having a bad experience with coming out or that kind of thing where I am. The (straight) guys I hang out with the most call each other 'gay' in banter, I guess it would be derogatory if you took it that way, but they just say it to each other and don't mean anything by it, it's just a force of habit like people going "oh my god!" or them calling each other 'dick'eads'. I used to get annoyed when people would go "argh, this computer is gay" or whatever, but in the end you get used to it and know they don't mean it in an offensive way to gay people, it just slips out. Gah, hope that made sense and didn't offend anyone.

Reply 19

romeosbitch

15

I hadnt even really thought about coming out at uni, gosh!

I'm out at college and it wasn't a big deal really cos you cant tell by looking at me, dont have the gaydar zing apparently so it just comes out in conversation
"what did you do last weekend?"
"hung out with my gf, you?"
Never had a problem with it and i was gonna do the same at uni.

If people have a problem, its theirs not yours.
Generally everyone i meet is a bit gay anyway.

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